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Happy Birthday, dude!!!! I hope it's the best ever and may next year's totally blow this one out of the water Have a fantastic day and an awesome year -Kevin

Happy Birthday, Greg!!! I hope it's as wonderful as you are -Kevin

Oh no! How shocking and unexpected. Poor thing that's awful! Thank goodness it wasn't more serious and he's already on the road to recovery. I'm so very sorry to hear this though Take care, Steve, and get well and back to us as quickly as possible! Thanks for letting us know, Viv, and please do keep us informed. Also, big thanks to his sister for passing along the message. All the best, Kevin

He was kinda cute...in all honesty though she did more for me. LOL, she kinda hit my bisexual side a bit Oh my gosh yes!!! I remember when this video first came out I was lusting over him every time I saw it! On another note, that is also one of my all time favourite videos and I absolutely love the concept. The gorgeous guys is pure bonus; it's a brilliant video anyway. That link doesn't seem to be working, at least not for me anyway. Try this: Saving Me

Hmm, well I would point out that some of the "negatives" listed aren't likely to match up to those types for me. For example, my concept of "The Stud" wouldn't likely be the sort of guy who could be a closet case. Simply put, I tend to like guys who look gay. I'm not really interested in "straight" or even "straight looking" guys. So a guy I found very attractive would probably be pretty easy to pick out as gay. For the "Average Guy," I don't place very much emphasis on career/success so I doubt I'd feel that the "negatives" listed were truly negative. Actually, it sounds more like he has his priorities straight. I think relationships, family, and general personal happiness are much more important that work related success. I will say that the "Rich Guy" description held pretty true to what I've come in contact with though

Have a very happy and special second birthday!

Just under thirty hours ago my grandfather passed away. It was shocking. He'd been ill for the past month but his condition seemed stabilized. To explain the significance of this event let me clarify that my grandfather has always been my primary male, parental figure. We've always been very close and gotten along really well. I just can't begin to explain the shock and incomprehension that I am experiencing as I realize that I'll never hear his voice again. I've never lost a close family member before. This is completely uncharted territory for me. Had my actual father passed away I'd have known how to handle it. I'd have been warm and conciliatory to my family members on that side of the family and I'd have dressed up and done my "family duty." This...well this is just really shocking and painful. I know I'm not exactly a child anymore, but it's damn scary and painful losing a parental figure. I can't begin to describe the regret I feel for not traveling back home to visit last weekend. I also feel so helpless. I've been crying a lot. It's strange what will set me off. It's the random things which hold special significance, which, I guess that isn't so strange after all. I found a note he'd written me a few hours ago. I was looking up my actual father's address so that I could mail him a card and I keep all my cards and letters in the same place and I came across it. It wasn't really a momentous note or anything, but it was very him. Warm, caring, playful. It was the sort of person he was. Always in a good mood, always boisterous and friendly. Always such a good provider, always looking after other people. I think we had a much better relationship than I could ever have had with my actual father. It was sort of the perfect blend of parent/grandparent relationship. I mean all the problems and heavier stuff my mom handled. With him we always just enjoyed each other's company. He knew I loved him, and I definitely knew he loved me, and I guess that's what matters the most. Some sort of goodbye would have been nice though. I went to visit a few weeks ago. It wasn't easy. He just looks so frail. That wasn't how I ever thought of him. He was always so strong and hardy. It was so hard seeing him confined to a bed. I had to excuse myself and pretend I needed the restroom. Really I was just overcome and needed to regain my composure. I guess in many ways it would have been harder seeing him during his absolute final days. Maybe that would have been harder. I do feel a bit like a child though. Everyone's treating me like I'm made of glass...and really appreciate it. I feel a bit fragile. I'm not though. All in all I think I'm damn good at coping with my emotions and sorting out how I feel. I think I'm supposed to feel pretty shitty right now, but I'm sure I'll bounce back. He wouldn't have wanted me to fall to irreparable pieces. The pieces I've got now I can put back together. I'm really so proud of my mom. She's really holding everything and everyone together. I'm really grateful to my friends too. I've gotten so many warm, supportive calls and texts. I'm also really lucky that my boss told me to take as much time off as I needed and has also been really sympathetic. All in all I couldn't ask for better conditions under which to grieve. So I guess I will just grieve and cherish all the countless happy memories I have to look back on.

Well, from my point of view as a versatile person I would say that I've never really thought of them as roles per se, at least not for me personally. Instead I see being a top and being a bottom as simple continuations and further aspects of sexual activity. For example few people would say that oral sex precludes mutual masturbation. Erotic message, Making out, and body contact are also distinct sexual activities. Obviously there are tons more too. However, I simply see being a top and being a bottom as separate sexual activities, not as my role. Indeed my best sexual activities have been very versatile in that I both topped and bottomed. By the same token, those same very good sexual experiences also include a wide array of other activities besides just those two. I like variety when it comes to sexual experiences. I don't want to stay in the same position the whole time and I don't want us to just do one or two activities. I like to keep things moving and make sex a whole body experience. Being a top is very different from being a bottom. Just as the sensations involved with other sexual activities are different. As it happens, I enjoy both the activity of being a bottom and of being a top. Occasionally I end up locked into one or the other, but that is very comparable to how some people just don't like certain things so you don't really do them with that person. By the same token, occasionally I am more in the mood for one or the other just as I'm occasionally in the mood for random other sexual activity Y, but not X - even though by and large I might enjoy both Y and X. Anyway, I guess my simple answer is that I just don't see it as an either/or situation. I like both, so I choose both. I do end up being a top a good bit more often though, but that isn't so much out of a particular activity preference so much as it is from a particular person preference. In a purely physical, emotional, and relational way (completely unrelated to actual sex) I tend to be much more attracted to guys who turn out to be "bottoms" so what am I to expect? -Kevin

Like I said, opening another browser screen is what I usually grudging end up doing. The primary time more tabs would come in handy is at work. I always keep 3 separate FF window open for 3 separate on-going tasks that I have. At least one of them (and occasionally the other two) usually requires a lot of tabs though. If I can't keep it under 12 I usually do give in and open another screen, but then I'm invariably clicking on the wrong window all day or getting mixed up about where something is. Apart from that, besides the 3 FF windows, I usually have an IE window a Safari window, and quite a few other programs running. I hate adding to the clutter with more FF screens than the minimum 3 that I pretty much have to have. Anyway, to answer the other part of your question, I don't need to see what's on them because I open them in a very specific order and I know what's there, apart from which I usually go through them in order and close them out as I complete my tasks (so it's helpful to have them all there to give me an idea of how much is left, but unnecessary to hop around that much within that same FF window). Eh, I'm just a bit hyper-organized when it comes to some things, and having the scrolling tabs or being forced to open extra windows really screws with my system. Even for personal, home use it's helpful though. For example I might like to have one browser window that is nothing but GA tabs, but very often I've wanted to have more than 12 GA tabs open at once, and I don't really want to open another browser window because again I'm apt to keep "misplacing it" on my computer's taskbar and continually open the wrong window. The same goes for YouTube; I've often wanted to have more than 12 YouTube tabs open, but I only want one "YouTube" window. I agree with you completely on Safari! I kinda have to run at least 3 separate browsers for work so that I can log into the same places with different settings and info, but I really can't stand the Safari interface at all. Actually I do like Opera much better and should make that my third browser instead, but I'm lazy and I.E. and Safari were already on the computer.

glad you're getting into familiar territory at least!

I just wanted to take a moment to wish Dion a very special and happy birthday! Dion is a talented writer, insightful poster, creative artist, and all around terrific person! May your birthday bring you all the joy and happiness which you deserve, Dion, and may the coming year be the best yet! -Kevin

That's a brilliant suggestion, Krista! Perhaps we should try something similar on all of our major elected officials Ohhhh, is it too late to RSVP?

The sentiment of "let's butt the hell out," is certainly not one which I'm going to object to.

LOL, sounds like quite an offer!

Oh my! Only in Texas

It certainly got a lot hotter in the second half, lol I forgot to post one of my own favourite HOT videos in my last post: I think it's very sexy, indeed overtly sexual. I love the rampant bisexuality

Fun thread! Hmm, I have to say that without the performance that first song would suck big time, IMO! I did very much enjoy the performance though, mostly because it was well choreographed and downright fascinating to watch. I wasn't really that into the guys though. The second song on the other hand I didn't enjoy the choreography and performance for all that much at all; however, it had the virtue of being a much more enjoyable song in its own right to listen to, lol. Oh my gosh awesome song! I REALLY enjoyed that! The choreography and performance were good too, but by and large I enjoyed it for the merit of the lively song itself. A few attractive people, but nothing that eye catching, lol. I had no idea he'd done a remake of this. The song itself is so stellar that of course I liked, but Adam doesn't really do anything for me, and the video was quite boring, lol. Eh, gotta disagree on both counts. The first version Eric linked to is good, but not better than the original in my opinion. Actually, I also thought the first version linked to was much more enjoyable than the live version Benji linked to. Mostly because to me that song is awesome because of its emotional power and almost hypnotic sort of feel. In the live version Adam tries to "perform" it way too much for my taste, showing what notes he can hit etc. I didn't care for that at all. Oh man! That was an AWESOME song! I loved every second of it! Definitely not high on eye candy though, but all around terrific song. I can't really do instrumental songs very well. I have to be in a very special sort of mood to get into them. The melody was certainly good, but when there were no lyrics after the first couple of minutes I completely lost interest. Oh man....that was the worst song in this thread by far! LOL, yeah they were decent to look at, but a cute torso in a black shirt only goes so far Now this on the other hand was perfect! Jeez, I'd forgotten how ridiculously adorable the lead singer of Sum 41 was back then! I'm also a major fan of swimmers and they were all delicious to look at! VERY HOT video! Definitely the hottest in the thread so far IMO. Great song too, I was a big fan of Sum 41 and that whole genre. Thanks for the flashback!

Awwww What a cutie!

I certainly have with my own characters, and while I can't speak for whether Graeme's characters have done that to him, I can attest to the fact that his characters have done that to me. No pressure of course, but I think I would be delighted to read that sequel! I'm immensely curious about what happened to Jack and Gabriel and what the rest of their story holds! Jack and Gabriel were extremely fascinating, well-depicted characters and in the span of a relatively short piece I felt like I really came to know them and invest in their experiences.

That's very insightful; I completely agree. I was thinking what a healing experience it must have been for Gabriel when Jack was kissing his nub. That psychological aspect was certainly highly appreciated by me. On another note, this was the first anthology entry that I read that made me tear up a bit (a sure sign I'm enjoying a story )! Very beautiful and moving indeed, -Kevin

LOL, it certainly was rife with terrific lines! One of my favourites was:

All I can say is that this is an awesome round of anthologies and I'm very excited for everyone to get a chance to read them! Our authors really pulled out all the stops in supplying us with a great range of stories! Thanks also to Graeme for coordinating the whole thing and for Steph for doing all the tech work! Personally, I'd have wanted to read the stories anyway, so I didn't really do anything I wouldn't have wanted to do in the first place, and this way I got an early peek Now you guys go read them!! -Kevin

Very exciting chapter! There is indeed much hanging in the air!

I'd be interested in hearing this "Happy Hardcore" stuff. On another note, one of the main reasons I don't read fiction, or watch very many mainstream movies/television shows, is because I'm just not very interested in straight characters. GLBT content is kinda required if I'm going to be interested in fiction. I'm quite interested in non-fiction, non-story based reading, but the only fiction I read has to be GLBT.

I find the whole issue of "size" to be intriguing. Personally, I like guys with a small build. I generally prefer my guy to be the same height or shorter. The thinner/leaner the better. Average height and average build are certainly okay if the guy has other redeeming features. I will say though that a guy being taller than me and more solidly built is a big negative. If the guy is noticeably taller than me he'd better be very lightweight. I'm not attracted to "big, strong" guys at all. My preference is pretty much unilaterally for smaller guys. Average and bigger guys may still be possibilities but in that case I'm not interested in them for their bodies. Anyway, none of that matters at all for sex. I consider myself generally thoroughly versatile and I pretty much always prefer smaller guys (physically at least). So obviously about half the time I like the smaller guy to top (and bottom). Now if we're talking about penis size, I have to say that's completely irrelevant. I hardly even notice penises and I get bored if the guy I'm with tries to make them the exclusive focal point of the encounter. I will say though, that about the only thing I care at all about with regards to penises is that the guy "rises to the occasion" when we're having sex. I'm always a bit disappointed if the guy bottoms and stays soft (and obviously I'm disappointed if the guy tops and stays soft ). I do think sex shouldn't be so genitally focused though. In general I think it's positive to emphasize a whole body sort of experience. So erections shouldn't be required I suppose, but in all honesty I do prefer them a bit.