Hugs KC. Don't crawl into the bottle, it only numbs the pain and sadness for a short while. My mom passed away at my age. It was unexpected, and devastated my four siblings and I, but we all tried to hold up for my dad. Shamefully, i have to tell you, I have yet to re-visit her grave. All my sibilngs do, but I just can't, and it has been 25 years. My daughter drives over a hundred miles to take flowers for me. Don't know why I can't, I just can't. I have actually made up my mind to go, and at the last minute, I back out. My husband gets a little aggravated, but he does not push. That being said, be proud that you have the strength to go there, and honor your mom with flowers, or just your presence. Cry, but do that outdifr the bottle. If you are going to drink, do it in celebration that you had her in you life for as long as you did. I miss my mom everyday, and the last day of this month, she will be dead 26 years, and it feels like yesterday. Hope you find peace Kc, and happiness!