I'm in a similar boat with Rndmrunner, in that things have changed considerably since I was in high school. Being a straight old lady perhaps I look at things very differently than most of you do. From my POV things will not really be right till everyone gets that a persons choice in sexual partners is no one else's business. Some day the terms gay and straight will be obsolete. Hopefully my grandchildren will know that time, but in the meantime it is up to us "straight and accepting" people to help institute change. The bottom line is that it really is not an issue a gay person can change - it's the bigoted straight community that needs the help.
When I was in high school, a friend got up the nerve to tell me he was gay in our senior year. I had known since we were freshmen at least, probably even earlier. I think I just didn't understand enough about sexuality in general before that to connect the dots. He was so shocked when I shrugged and asked him if he thought that he was any different than he was yesterday. He had not changed in the 24 hours, why should I?
I know Cele was speaking tongue in cheek, but that sort of separatism DOES exist, and it is not helping the GLBT cause. Reverse discrimination does not help the issue. I have seen instances where gay rights were defended so vehemently that it created a problem that did not exist. When I introduced myself to one woman at the stable where I work part time she assumed I was there to tell her to stay away from the riding students because of her sexuality and proceeded to lay into me about how wrong that was. Had she kept her damn mouth shut she would have found I was simply going to ask her to comply with a request not to mix grain mashes in the restrooms as the grains clog the drains. No one, including me, would ever have known she was a lesbian if she hadn't started lecturing me on how "not different" she was! The openly gay guy that stables with us was laughing his ass off at her since - in his words - i am the most easy going straight old lady he knows!