I have come back to this several times, because it rather irks me. I am Gay. However I am not a member of gay clubs, sports, or other so-called gay organizations. The feeling I get reading this, is that unless I 'join up', me and the others like me, are not really gay.
Perhaps you feel this is so. That's fine.
I am Gay, I have and will continue to embrace all my gay brothers, and sisters, and all those in our lgbt community, no matter if they carry cards, have memberships or not.
Joining in, is fine. But it's a choice, and should not be what defines us.