Tipdin

I've always hated the fact that I don't know ANY family member that is gay. I have a huge family and yet, none of my cousins, aunts, uncles, nobody that I know in my family is gay. I hate that! Talk about feeling alone!

Can we have a demonstration please?

-Do you think people (straight or gay) are prone to falling in love with their best friend? Or is this just over-represented in the forum. -Do you think GLBT people are more likely to experience this than straight people? -Has it happened to you or someone you know? -Why do you think it happens in general? -Overall is it a good thing or a bad thing, and why? Best friends become best friends for a reason. We're attracted to them in the first place so it's no surprise that many people do in fact fall for their best. Hopefully, your partner IS your best friend. I'm not sure if GLBT people are more prone to it. If we are, I would hazard a guess that it's because we feel so isolated and lonely from the get-go. It's so hard to find other gay people - even today. We still can't just trot up to a cutie and tell them we like them, unfortunately. (Although I do it anyway, even though I get in trouble sometimes!)

I am ashamed of being gay when I see some of the antics during parades. Growing up in the sixties, I was taught all that old crap about gay people being men in trench coats, molesting little boys in dirty bathrooms. Then when I came out in the 70's I worked darn hard at dispelling those dumb stereotypes. I was very open about being gay even when it got me in trouble. Seeing some of the stupid stuff guys are pulling during Pride, I think, man, all those bullets I dodged and all those fights and verbal assaults, for what? So this dumb fVk can strut down the street in a pink boa and a spangled jockstrap? Where's the dignity and honor in THAT?

I was given an engagement ring by my b/f. We even set a date for a celebration ceremony - which my parents insisted was at their house!

Americans are such prudes! I kiss all of my friends and family members, regardless of sex or location when I meet them. -and we're talking lips here. I come from a large, demonstrative family so intimacy never frightened me to begin with. I guess I attracted and gravitated toward people of like mind since most everyone I know is the same way. I even kiss my straight male friends on the lips. There were a few that had to get used to it but they now know if they DON'T kiss me, there will be a BIG scene made...

ABSOLUTELY! I raised six kids, and let me tell you, I was (rightfully) held accountable for their actions. Too many parents refuse to accept responsibility for the actions of their children. One of the biggest sorrows I have is seeing so few people actually claiming responsibility for their own behavior.

Having sex, regardless of the sexes involved is still having sex. Losing one's virginity can only happen once, sorry. Wish it was otherwise! First times can be REALLY fun! ...let's see, can I even remember that far back?

I try to behave in a way that will never bring dishonor to me or my family.

That's what therapists call passive-aggressive behavior. Welcome to the club. You're number 999834333722383737467463647473732634647474636364757574635.

Holy cats, if casual flirting is wrong, I'm going to Hell! Big time! I flirt with EVERYONE! Male, female, straight, gay, young, old, I'm just a flirt! Most people that know me, realize I'm just a cat in heat - all the time... They ignore me. I've gotten myself in trouble a few times but I refuse to change. I figure if my brother can flirt with a girl behind a counter then so can I - even the same girl, but I'll usually make a smart-ass remark about my brother not being worth it and did she have a gay brother or friend... I've made a life out of kicking down doors and sweeping aside barriers. I keep telling myself that I have to clear the way for the next generation of boys...

To whom one is attracted is NEVER, EVER wrong. To whom one is MORE attracted, can be a fun learning experience. Generally, I am attracted to hairy guys. They hairier they are, the more, uhm, unbecoming my behavior... I was at a nude beach once and an extremely hairy black man asked to put his blanket near mine. I quickly had to flip onto my stomach! But he smelled SO good, I just couldn't get enough of him. We were partners for almost 10 years before he died of AIDS. What attracts us to a person should never be a source of shame. It's actually kind of fun. Most of my friends know that hairy guys or nice smelling guys unhinge me, so they're constantly trying to get me into situations where I simply cannot be held responsible for my actions... There are so many good looking guys of every race and description! How can anyone narrow down their choices? Gadz, I need blinders when I leave the house! Other than hairiness, I tend to like men with big eyes and big smiles and thick, lushes hair styles. Everyone says I'm crazy but for me, hairy knuckles trump six-pack abs. What can I say? Don't question if the attraction is right or wrong, good or bad! Just enjoy the feeling!

Scent has sent me over the edge on numerous occasions. I used to work with a straight friend that always smelled so good and every time he tried to walk past me, I would stand in front of him - without - touching him and just smile, explaining that I just needed a whiff. He thought I was certifiable - but he always allowed me my moment... Sometimes he would tease me by giving me a prolonged hug. I was wrecked for an hour afterword!

If someone has nothing to hide, who cares who sees their stuff? My partner looks through my stuff all the time. I have no secrets. I have done nothing to bring dishonor to myself. Why would someone feel a need to have secrets from someone they profess to love? Circumstances play a role, obviously. If you're dating, there should be boundaries. If you're in a committed relationship, why would you even want boundaries? And what message are you sending when you keep secrets?

YOU ARE RIGHT DO NOT HESITATE, GET RID OF HIM. -now.

2.When Opposites Attract *Interracial story* ~All his life Darius knew he was straight. But after being forced to transfer to a new school his whole perspective changes when he meets Ryan. Not knowing what to make of or how to act on his feelings Darius and Ryan become fast friends. Darius soon becomes face to face with a dilemma, his old life of 'the streets' is quickly calling him back and his love for Ryan is growing. Can he juggle both? I vote for this one.

I've been using Microsoft Word for a long time but I just recently bought an Apple and had no choice but to change over to using Apple's word processing program called Pages. MAJOR downgrade. It sucks.

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Nummy. Who is he? Sorry, I don't get out from under my rock very often...

I'm so old school that I'll bet I was spitting my pants on the dance floor before half of you whipper-snappers were even born! I went completely mental when The Weathers Girls came out with It's Raining Men. Patrick Hernandez, Born to Be Alive. Bonnie Tyler, Holding Out For for A Hero. Laura Brannigan, Gloria. 2 Unlimited, Tribal Dance. Billy Idol, Mony Mony. Carlos Ponce, Rezo, (club mix) Exile, Kiss You All Over. The seventies had a lot of good music too...

Many members of my family hail from Canada. Can you say Ouellette? I've always been intrigued with Canada. Not just because of its mind-boggling beauty, or because I love a french accent, or because my family is from there, or because guys are not as quick to shave off their body hair, or because the architecture is so handsome, or because gays can marry, or because you DO use the metric system, but because there are so few roadside billboards. I hate those. They mar the natural beauty of the landscape. And politics is so, so... polite! (Usually)

Excellent situation to ponder. Is it possible for a three-way relationship to last and be fulfilling for each of the parties involved? Yes, I believe it is. More important, is the, 'probable' part of the equation. I'm not sure how relevant it is but I grew up in a multi-generational household. My mother's parents AND grandfather, my dad's father, my three siblings, their spouses and kids, - and the animal menagerie. Ok, so we had a house full of people. Diabetes, lung cancer, blindness, physical disabilities, and retardation all played significant roles. Needs had to juggled and prioritized. One of the first and most lasting things I learned was that I did not come first; that some of the needs of others were more important than my own. If that isn't a great foundation for someone in a "trilationship" I don't know what is. That said, I think a "trilationship" could be a very rewarding situation. But the people involved need to be very conscious. It seems that the framework would have to be carefully worked out prior to the start. Communication - high quality communication, would be an essential ingredient. Human emotions are very easily disrupted. For a trilationship to be successful, I would assume the people involved would have to be quite remarkable. I should like to know them. And what constitutes success? What landmarks need to be passed to know things are on track? How are problems resolved? How are un-resolvable problems dealt with? And who gets to sleep in the middle? (I put dibs on that!) Just living together for a hundred years doesn't mean that the situation was successful. Perhaps it may only last a decade but ended by way of mutual consent and happily ever afters. Children, for lack of a better description, are a big monkey wrench. Who's are they? Who gets them if there is a break up? As I said, high quality communication and very conscious living seem to be paramount in such a situation. But I wouldn't be adverse to entering into something like that. I'm grounded well enough to weather some pretty hefty storms, but I certainly wouldn't enter into the trilationship without some VERY serious thought and planning. There's no immorality or dishonor as far as I am concerned.

Cobalt blue, 2-door Toyota Yaris. I used to drive a black towncar. Am I schizophrenic?!

People today seem to be so self-absorbed. Either trying to be perfectly perfect in every way or trying to be completely disconnected from others and any consequences of their own actions. In order to be in a fulfilling, long-term relationship, one must believe in a greater good. That the relationship is worth giving up some minor desires or needs. We don't teach children how to sacrifice and work cooperatively anymore. I've been in a relationship for 20 years so far. This being in love stuff ain't easy! But if the two people involved have some common interests and goals, there is a foundation on which to build. But it takes TWO to make it work. Most of us are so needy, (though we'd never admit it!) that our needs overwhelm the relationship, straining it beyond repair. Nobody is perfect. Don't expect your partner to be - nor yourself.

My avatar is a Malathar Dragon named Tipdin. I adopted him (literally) form the artist to represent the dragon in the stories that I've been telling my kids for nearly 30 years.