I am definitely with Mark on this one, being someone who is also 'trying to work my way towards a more benign attitude' and maybe not succeeding as much as I hoped I might for some of the same reasons and others which are my own.
I have to admit that try as I might I cringe and get angry when someone tells me that 'Jesus loves me' and the very mention of Christianity makes my skin crawl. This is not something I am proud of and it is something i am actively trying to work past but there it is...
However, your post was open and honest and I respect you for it. To be frank it gives me hope.