Manifesting Character problems

[Persinette]

That's an interesting point. Especially for someone who is just physically affectionate. Physical affection does not mean a signal for sex.

 

I actually bought a book a while ago with the intention of using it to create or express conflict in relationships. The Five Languages of Love. That particular conflict (Misinterpreting physical affection) was one that hadn't occurred to me.

 

 

I realized that you can't post explicit stuff in the eFiction area. Right now, I need just a grammar check, and putting the final polish on the story to make it pop (adding little extra details to add a little more character or whatnot).

 

As for the freakiness... It's Furry BDSM.

 

Glad you could get something useful from it!

 

Eh, furries don't bother me. As for the BDSM, well, RACK is the rule of thumb .

 

(Sorry for the delayed reply - I've been moving and I completely forgot about this topic.)

[Rechan]

Glad you could get something useful from it!

Lately I've considered actually Jacob being the touch-based one. That he is just physically affectionate, and the other guy interpreting it as him always wanting sex. Not sure just yet.

 

I'm actually wrestling with it. I'm having to create the other guy from whole cloth to compliment/contrast Jacob, and it's a little tricky. It's much easier to see the Other Guy's flaws than it is Jacob's in the relationship. Which is a bit counter productive.

 

Eh, furries don't bother me. As for the BDSM, well, RACK is the rule of thumb .

RACK?

 

Alas, the story I was looking to get edited is at this point DONE. I've all ready submitted it for publication. It's as polished as it's going to get.

[Persinette]

Lately I've considered actually Jacob being the touch-based one. That he is just physically affectionate, and the other guy interpreting it as him always wanting sex. Not sure just yet.

 

I'm actually wrestling with it. I'm having to create the other guy from whole cloth to compliment/contrast Jacob, and it's a little tricky. It's much easier to see the Other Guy's flaws than it is Jacob's in the relationship. Which is a bit counter productive.

That could work, but if you don't mind me saying, it shifts the character responsibilty pretty heavily. It removes the character flaw from Jacob and simply makes it a misunderstanding, losing the opportunity for character growth on Jacob's part. (If done too frequently it also runs the risk of turning Jacob into an Author's Darling.)

 

Maybe you could put Jacob aside and create his partner as an entirely seperate character, then work out what problems would realistically come up between these two people?

 

RACK?

 

Alas, the story I was looking to get edited is at this point DONE. I've all ready submitted it for publication. It's as polished as it's going to get.

Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.

 

Oh, darn. Good luck with it!

[Rechan]

That could work, but if you don't mind me saying, it shifts the character responsibilty pretty heavily. It removes the character flaw from Jacob and simply makes it a misunderstanding, losing the opportunity for character growth on Jacob's part. (If done too frequently it also runs the risk of turning Jacob into an Author's Darling.)

 

Maybe you could put Jacob aside and create his partner as an entirely seperate character, then work out what problems would realistically come up between these two people?

I have some idea of Jacob's partner, but it's a little odd mishmash. I'm not sure how it Sounds, so to speak. Or if they go well together.

 

As for the first point, I was thinking about his partner and how his partner would interpret love and affection. I was thinking that he would be the type to enjoy giving/receiving gifts, and acts of service (cooking for you, coming to your performance regardless of his interest, other gestures of affection). With these, I figured also being touchy/feely would be too much. But you're right, that making it a misunderstanding isn't speaking to Jacob's faults.

 

Hrm.

 

Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.

Ah. I've always heard it as just Safe, Sane and Consensual.

 

Btw, thanks for coming back to the thread.