I can honestly say, that to me hiv is a disease amongs others, not a stigma.
Still it is responssible to be open about it in a relationship. It is not a death sentence, there are no guarantees in life, period. It would just be foolish to turn away if you have something real in your relationship.
I read the whole thread and it made me really sad. This reflects gay community in so many ways.
There really are countless ways to practise safe sex and loving. My heart goes to the many people carrying hiv and reading this thread too. They have a right to have all aspects of life, love and sex included. They shouldn't have to be hiding and ashamed of themselves. It is just a disease, not the whole person.
I would be so hurt if my partner would keep being hiv+ from me. That doesn't show enough respect to me. I would wanna know.
If I had hiv, gosh, I would try to live my life as I do now. And pray that the one I love would accept me as I am, with all that I am. Just as I do now.