I think you express this very well and pretty much agree with your point of view. I'm sure I could fall in love with anyone: man, woman, trans. It's the person that counts. As for the sex part, I personally feel I could be very easily persuaded to enjoy intimacy with anyone I loved. And I have certainly found both men and women attractive. And there is something else queer about my inner world too, which is not entirely about sexuality, but has to do with the fact that when I am powerfully attracted to someone, I often feel that I don't just want them, I want to be them.
Thanks for this interesting blog.