This is not a 12-step plan. It is a set of actions and attitudes intended to improve loving relationships between any two people. It applies to gay couples as well as to straights, married or not. Give them a try.
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1. Never both be angry at the same time.
2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3. Yield to the wishes of the other as an exercise in self-control, if you can't think of a better reason.
4. If you have a choice between making yourself or your partner look good, choose your partner.
5. If you feel you must criticize, do so lovingly.
6. Never bring up a mistake of the past.
7. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
8. Never let the day end without saying at least one complementary thing to your partner.
9. Never meet without an affectionate greeting.
10. When you make a mistake, talk it out and ask for forgiveness.
11. Remember, it takes two to make an argument. The one who is wrong is the one who will be doing most of the talking.
12. Never go to bed mad.
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I've been thinking of posting this for a while; I'm doing so now because I know a couple who could benefit. I wish them and you peace and love.
Your comments are welcome.