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Re food porn, my mouth is watering like mad. In fact this is me: :-O.......... I'm not sure what can be said or done about the oil rig explosion. At least it isn't killing humans right now, although its long term consequences may be a lot worse than it'd seem.

Fermented herring. Although it's not I'd-rather-die-than-eat-it -- just foul. Marmite is also gross.

I know how you feel -- the first time you fall in love has a way of never really fading away, like radioactive waste. :nuke:

Hmm, this is a very good topic! I used to go to the gym 2-3 times a week, but I haven't in the past year. The simple reason for that is that, now that I've got a paramour, I don't need to keep handsome to catch flies. Of course that is also a fairly awful reason. I could go to the gym again, but I can't -- because I only have one pair of shoes, and they're loafers. Again, fairly awful reason. But in order to join all of you in your endeavors... I used to do pushups, crunches, etc before gyming; I think I shall recommence that, at least until I get a new pair of shoes. I don't drink any soda, but apparently the juices I drink are concentrate and have even more sugar than soft drinks. So I'll mix it with water and eat real fruits instead. :2hands:

Try shrooms. Just kidding. Mostly. Maybe do it at different times of the day, I find that makes a difference -- after dinner, waking up, before sleeping, randomly in the day. Since this is a relationship, appending the sex to occasions may be nice. But Camilo is right, you'll have to kind of keep bugging him to try what you want to do. If he thinks he's in for the long haul, he might as well try everything once or twice. Oh, and sex in public places can be interesting. Libraries are good for this. And offices. And laboratories. Etc.

Ah, missed it. But I did celebrate a few days earlier.

I'm getting my hands on that movie. :king:

I don't own a hat, but I wear my boyfriend's when he leaves it with me and it's sprinkling (like it is now). It advertises the Red Sox, which presumably is baseball team.

My Fair Lady. "All I want is a room somewhere / Far away from the cold night air ... Someone's head resting on my knee / Warm and tender as he could be." Who could resist that? And although Julie Andrews would've been a great Eliza, Audrey Hepburn brought something very special to the role. The Sound of Music. That opening shot, and the swell on "The hills are alive..." with the ingenious lovely dip into minor on "with the sound of music." Ah. Gone With the Wind. Not perfect, but epiczors. Casablanca. The "La Marseillaise" scene. Enough said.

If you're sure you want to come out in your professional life, I wouldn't be surprised if some of your clients start hitting on you. I would think hard on that, though. It's too bad you can't go to bars or bowling, but maybe you could wean yourself into a minimal amount of alcohol, and learn how to bowl. Going to places for the express purpose of finding people is quite annoying though; it'd be easier to go with friends, but presumably you need to find the friends first. Online dating, maybe? It's worked for me. I would also recommend dressing like a gay. Not flamboyantly, but in a deliberate way. I'm being vague, but I know nothing about clothes other than they're for taking off.

I've never used anything like this, but I wouldn't use it, not because I have any moral objections, but b/c I'd be paranoid, constantly looking around to see if someone is, you know, *evaluating* me. I've never tried Craigslist, but I met my boyfriend on Manhunt (although we tell inquisitive people that it's "through a mutual friend named Craig" -- easier that way). So there's the good, and there's the bad.

This is interesting, I actually don't know what Hispanic entails, vs Latino, etc.

hey paya, i know exactly what you mean with the concealed gay thing. at least you have reasonably good gaydar! as much as it seems sketchy, a good way to find fellow gays is via the internet, where sites run the gamut from NSA things like craigslist to dating places like okcupid, etc. i met my boyfriend on one of those sites. on the other hand, you've enough gaydar and apparently are not completely straight-acting, so you may find the right guy w/o needing some seedy meatmarket site. it'll work out one way or the other.

Good that you're feeling it now, than in four years and looking back at a wrecked attempt at a phd (or mfa, or ___). Good luck with grad school!

Oh dear, that's where the census taker went. I like liver, although sometimes it's done badly and is horrible. But that goes for anything.

Are you sure he wasn't kidding with you? That does seem like the sort of thing that would make an interesting joke...

Ooh you should add me! I, too, am not out on FB, although there are clues the discerning eye can spy.

Life as a constantly challenging, creative and molding force is, and I think should be, one's passion. :king:

Trudge out to go to lab in the morning, the air biting my face, hair freezing. Nothing better in the world! :2hands:

I can't imagine not being able to be happy with what I do, but maybe my standards are just too low. Just think, though -- one is human, one shouldn't be perfect. Where would that leave anywhere to go forward? If you wrote a perfect article now, you would obsess in the future about that one "perfect article" you'd written in the past. I'm sure you'll get to a place where you'll be satisfied. An opera anecdote about Donizetti, composer of bel canto operas such as Lucia di Lammermoor: "Donizetti, when asked which of his own operas he thought the best, spontaneously replied, 'How can I say which? A father always has a preference for a crippled child, and I have so many.'"

I'm planning on being all gay and touristy in Provincetown for a few days over spring break (which starts March 13), thesis allowing, with my bf. It's off season, so we probably want to visit the rest of the Cape, like Nantucket and Martha's Vineyard. Does anyone have advice for what to do/see there? Remember we're poor graduate and prospective graduate students. Thanks!

you don't even have to pay for it sometimes! when I was really young (long long time ago... ok not that long) i used some extremely ad hoc household items. i won't tell you what they are.

Aww, you both look good.

I don't think it'd be an exaggeration to say that you're one of the most beloved gay fiction writers on the internet. Oh, and about what Vic said... beer has a lot of calories too. The best choice is to go to straight vodka.