NaperVic

Strictly from this reader's perspective, Nifty is the archive. I find it simple and easy to use and it's What's New page is a great way to easily keep up on the latest updates. I like that it's such a comprehensive archive. I love that I can go to Nifty and find a story that I read in 1995 (yes, last century!). It's the first place I go to when I want to find a story I want to revisit. Sure there is crap there, but crap is in the eye of the beholder. If I were running Nifty and tried being gatekeeper on quality, about 95% of it wouldn't be posted. However, if I were running GA eFiction, about 70% of what's there wouldn't be allowed. Again, eye of the beholder. Nifty's survived many years when other story sites have come and gone. For example, now that Archerland has closed, I was worried about what would happen to Jfinn's the Human Condition. Luckily, it's still on Nifty. So to answer your question, I'd say Oui to posting on Nifty. So basically, you want to use Nifty to gain readership, but as soon as you hit the big time, you'll leave? Your questions kinda sound like some of the reasons Nifty has had to add all the fine print in their Terms of Service. If I were Nifty, I'd probably be miffed too with Authors requesting their stories being pulled. Or Authors posting some of their chapters on Nifty and posting the rest of them at another site. It's been my experience that some authors can at times be sensitive & egotistical . As the Nifty archivist, that meant he was dealing with hundreds, if not thousands of them. Nifty's TOS are probably a response and a coping mechanism to reduce the amount of work he (they) had to do. I think if you mentally commit to posting a story on Nifty, I think you should post it to completion on Nifty (whether or not you get hosted elsewhere in the interim). Take Care®, Vic

There's a discussion thread that started when the rep system became available: Discussion Thread on the Rep System But as Yap said, the reputation count is the sum of all the times people 'Pos' one your forum posts minus all the times people 'Neg' one of your threads. So if your rep moved from 16 to 18, that means two of your forum posts have been recently Possed. Then again, it could mean 3 of your forum posts have been recently Possed, and one has been Negged. Or 10 of your forum posts have been Possed, and 8 Negged. You get the idea.

it makes him that much cuter that he's a daddy.

He finally comes out...now people will really saying he's living la vida loca http://abcnews.go.co...ory?id=10234454

I'd be flattered that the teen thought your sweater was fashionable enought to wear .

Glad to hear from you Kevin and glad things are going well!

My understanding is that the mirror sites mirror the main site, that the content is the same on every one of the mirrors (with the exception of new content appearing on the main site first and then showing up on the mirrors when they update).

It's like Nifty...you have to weed through a lot of chaff to get to the wheat, but the wheat's there.

Perhaps I'm just being naive, but I do really see the networking benefits outweighing the ocassional leg humping troll . I would hope that people would use it for friendship potential, not just for hookup/attraction potential. I'm constantly out to dinner or hanging out with straight women. This could help let other gay guys know that I'm gay (and available). The difference between the pink triangle and grindr is that only gays would know versus everyone being able to see the pink triangle. I'd wear a pink triangle if only other gays could see it and it were invisible to angry folks. Heck, in my younger, bolder days, I wore some kind of rainbow necklace, bracelet or anklet to let people know.

Paya, I'm confused. I don't understand your concern of someone who walks by you seeing your picture. I mean, they're walking by you, so they're seeing you in real life. If your picture is an accurate representation of yourself, they should be one and the same, so what's concern??? Assuming this tool isn't used by non-gays for malicious intent, I think it would be nice to know who's gay around me. Not necessarily for hookups, but just to know who the brothers are. For example, say you're in a grocery store, and your iPhone tells you that the cashier for one of the lines is gay, I'd go to that line. Or say you're in a dealership buying a car, say your iPhone tells you that one of the salesmen is gay, I'd go to that queen . Maybe I'd get the family discount.

Article about an iPhone app that makes gay-dar obsolete (or useful for those who's choser is broken). Grindr Article from the San Fran Cronicle

Tisk tisk paya. Next you'll want the gaydar to only locate guys who are interested in you. Just be glad yours is picking out the gay guys.

Have you thought about an online personal ad on Match, yahoo personals, or gay.com? They're all kinda like nifty, where you have to weed through a lot of the chaff. But those might be some good options for someone in your situation. Good Luck! Vic

I'd have to say Owen from The Lo(n)g Way and maybe Jase (Rory's step-mom ) from Desert Dropping. To this day Owen is still my fav (I can almost taste the fruit punch from his lips when he kissed travis). And if I'm going with age appropriate, I've always liked Jase from Desert. Dating a shrink might be fun.

I'll add you corvus . I'll pm you...

I never really thought I hid my gayness out in the real world and certainly don't hide it with my online persona here on GA. I don't have Gay & Available stamped on my forehead, but I don't deny or deflect when people ask. However, a friend called me out on the fact that my Facebook profile doesn't provide any direct evidence that I'm gay. Sure there are clues that the trained eye can deduce, but nothing definitive to say 'I'm Gay'. In the past, I've justified the lack of information to being a private person. But I've called myself out on the B.S. I think it has to do with the fact that I have so many distant relatives and people from High School on Facebook. Just thinking about H/S seems to get me in High School mode . And relatives...all those weird aunts who are always judging . In a way, I'm being a hypocrite. When I look at FB profiles of people in my past, I check to see whether they come out and say they're gay. I always admire those that do. I need to be a good example to anyone else that might be looking. What if I have some young, distance cousin who might be confused or questioning? I need to be out for their sake. And if someone has a problem with my being gay? They can always drop me as an FB friend. It's not like I'm going to lose any sleep over it. Another reason I want to be more Out on Facebook is due to friends I'm adding from GA. I started worrying about inconsistencies between NaperVic of GA and Facebook Vic. I won't necessarily let my hair down on FB as much as I do on GA, but I do need to be more honest about who I am over there. Take Care®, Vic P.S. - I'm still not adding you Nate

Funny, I think if I setup a poll, the majority of people would think you didn't blog enough . Good luck with the new guy. Don't go looking for reasons to not like him. I worry about explaining GA and being a Domaholic to the next guy I date. I hope that doesn't scare him off

Happy Birthday MattieCakes! Hope WWDP be today as a present!

So I've been working up the nerve to go and start a conversation with this guy at the gym whom I've had a crush on for ages... But reading your blog helped me decide not to . I don't want to be called a creep (and would thus have to find a new gym due to shame/embarassment). Welcome back to GA activity! I too recognize you from AD.

I'm curious Tim, isn't this the purpose of the Q&A Forum? Wouldn't it be better to just ask questions as individual threads? Having multiple questions and multiple answers in one big thread sounds difficult to read or to keep track of... Just my thoughts .

Perhaps he'll send it to you after you complete the domluka website redesign you started in 2006.

You didn't have your 'Caps Lock' set, did you?

And then ask him to explain how hanging out in GA chat will also bring the paper closer to perfection .

He's available, and it appears he likes long walks on the beach...

That's what my mom was thinking -- although she probably thought grandkids