Sarah

And this is her sister Marbles They are gorgeous. Marbles looks like one of my cats.

My 12 year old daughter has a big crush on him since seeing Twilight. I saw some pics of him in her room and she blushed and said they were her friends, then she admitted that actually her friend had given them to her because she knew how much my daughter like Robert Pattinson. Aww....

Hi Razor, If you are way behind everyone else, then I must be way way behind everyone else because that's the first time I had heard about postsecret.com. Thanks for mentioning it. I had a look at the site, and it's such a great idea. I'm going to order some of the books. Sarah

A couple of people have said to me that I should go and see Marley and Me, but I refuse. I know I will sob and sob and sob!

In my experience, just because someone is family, it does not mean you will get along with them. Some of my family are lovely, some aren't. I could not live with my parents again..EVER! They are judgemental, and drive me nuts. However, I have friends who have been incredibly supportive of me and I would say they have been more like family than my actual family have been. There's that well used saying 'you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends'. I believe that gets used a great deal because it's true! Is there any way you could move out into a place of your own, or share with a friend?

I hope for your sake, that's the last you will hear from them.

I'm sure your friend will get comfort from you being there. One of the worst things you could say would be "I know how you're feeling", because nobody but the person grieving knows how they feel. You could be honest with your friend and tell him that you are not sure of the best way to help him, but that you want to be there for him and support him in any way he wants you to. And yes, if you have the sort of friendship where you hug, then hug. You will probably find that your friend has days when he seems better, and then days, or moments when he suddenly becomes emotional. That is part of the grieving process and he needs to go through that.

I hope the test results are negative and that your health improves soon. I also hope that your family are accepting when you come out. Sarah

I'm glad you have got rid of them. They aren't friends they are spongers. If this situation arises again, just tell them no. You don't have to make up an excuse. In my experience, if you do that, they will find a way around the reason you have just given them. Keep calm, and say, "I'm sorry you are in this situation again, but you can't stay with me". Refusing them doesn't make you a bad person. You are a decent person who is no longer prepared to be walked all over.

On New Year's Eve, we get together with a big group of friends and see the New Year in together. We always have a great time. I find that New Year's day is a usually a bit flat for me. To everyone's disgust, I always take all the Christmas decorations down on N Y day. Once Christmas is over, I want them all put away. In fact, if I lived on my own, they'd all be down now! :-)

Whether he thought it was a boy or not, he should still have had the cat neutered. That was pretty irresponsible of your ex, as well as the fact he then left the cat with you. Unneutered males will roam for miles in search of a female in heat, they will get into fights with other males, and FIV is very common in unneutered cats, which can be caught easily through fighting and mating. Also, the cat population is getting out of control and they are suffering because of it. There are just too many cats and too little homes. I've got 4 cats, and would have given this mum and her kitties a home. Well done for keeping her, and her kittens, until you could find a good home for them.

I'm looking forward to seeing this movie. Someone I know, in America, has seen it and said it was fantastic with great acting.

I have only just read the whole of this thread, and I agree with Jessiflash. You both crossed the line of being 'just friends' some time ago. Your feelings developed to a point that it would have been awful to have seen him go off with other guys. I think you did the right thing by telling him how you felt. If you hadn't, you would have always been wondering 'what if'.

Take things easy Jovian. I was so worried when I saw the first message. Sarah x

OMG! Didn't that hurt like hell???? I'm a bit squeamish about piercings.

Aww...it sounds like you had a great time. Good luck both of you.

I can't think what the most erotic word is, but I agree that, for me, 'moist' has to be one of the most disgusting.

Glad to hear you are feeling great. Sarah x

It's strange how our lives often turn out. I was 17 when I met my (now)husband, and when he asked me out, I went but didn't really think it would last beyond a couple of dates. I honestly didn't think he was my type, and so just saw the dates as a bit of fun. However, for reasons I still don't always know the answers to, we just seemed to get on really well and enjoyed being with each other. Now, 25 years on, we are still together. The guy I went out with, before I went out with my husband, was somebody I was besotted with and when he asked me out, I was over the moon. I really thought he was 'the one', yet 3 months into the relationship, I finished with him because there was no chemistry between us. You just never know when you will meet the right person for you. Sarah

Hope it works out for you. Sarah :-)

Well yes he's made some big mistakes,and paid for them too, but I'm a fan of Boy George's. IMO he's very talented.I'm going to see him in concert on Saturday.

I don't really know anything about Clay Aiken, but after reading the link to the story, it would seem he was once a contestant on Pop Idol? The reason I ask is because a few years ago, on the English Pop Idol, Will Young won it. There was speculation about whether he was gay or not while he was taking part in the show. Will 'came out' to the press after he won, although I believe he was 'out' to family and friends way before then. There were several headlines about him being gay etc. I really don't know what all the fuss is about. Does whether an artist is gay or straight affect their singing? (I'm not being serious btw!)

Who? Simon Cowell?

Thanks Smarties. It is difficult to stop being hard on yourself if that's how you have always been. It is something I've managed to get a grip on though. There are of course times when I revert back to it, but no where near as often. I hope your mum manages to stop being so hard on herself.