Wow, we're pretty much in the same area need job, need bf. I have had 2 long distance bf. We met only in WebCam. I have help them in life. I get what you mean things being one sided. In fact when its one sided it may get draining versus a rewarding relationship.
Boston - 99% Republican right?? Sorry been thinking of Fraiser and Cheers.
I can see why you're scouting around in the republican arena (To find job or bf connections)
I wonder if these days coming you may have to scout around in the Democratic area.
All I can say for now. Best of luck. Have a Boston Tea Party