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Despite the fact that for the sanity of others I probably shouldn't I will get naked at the drop of a hat. I often walk around the house starkers, including in the kitchen in full view of neighbours and anyone who happens to walk along the back lane. In public pools etc I am more than happy to shower naked and I would swim that way too if I had the chance. I do not sunbathe naked because I don't sunbathe period.

Wow, that's interesting. This is a subject close to my heart at the moment. Someone I care about a lot is under ivestigation and we are waiting to see what the verdict is.

I know what you mean. I have found since immersing myself in this site and the stories posted here which are predominantly written by Americans, that I find myself, sometimes thinking in Americanese when I write.

WOW. It's your birthday. It's been a tough year, but you made it. Here's to the next one being a good one HAPPY BIRTHDAY

WOW!! It's dark alright. And scarily possible. Are you sure you're ready for the 'red list'? See you there. As for writing women... think of the original goals of humanity... the inbuilt instincts that are still there even after we have suppressed them with 'civilisation'. For example hunters need far sight, strong focus, large muscles, strength, the ability to think quickly etc etc. Gatherers need close sight, good colour discernment (to know when berries are ripe and to choose the ripest), soft focus, etc etc. Maybe by recognising the way we are different and why you can get an insight into how and why we act differently and maybe have more rounded characters... not that I am suggesting that either of you don't have them already... no one is as great a critic as ourselves huh?

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Sometimes it does seem that way. Perhaps it's just that this is not your time. When you find the right person then the chemistry snaps and suddenly you don't want the chase any more. You can't make yourself be interested in someone just because they are interested in you. If you have no interest in them... end of story. It may be that the person you are interested in is feeling just as confused about you or maybe he just isn't interested. All you can do is relax and be yourself. Surround yourself with friends, have lots of fun and eventually someone will swing into your circle who will, either in a sudden wham bam or slowly and insiduously, manouvre you into a position where you're just not interested in anyone else. Perhaps you find yourself attracted to the unattainable because it is safe. It doesn't require you to take a chance, to let someone else in, to let yourself out. Don't wrack your brains, don't heartache and analyse... and I get the feeling you do that A LOT.... just get on with living. Do the things you enjoy to do, spoil yourself because you are at your most attractive when you are relaxed and having fun. Don't go looking for it and just be ready to accept it when it comes. Who knows... when you relax and chill out, start being your charming, relaxed, confident self...without the stress this guy might suddenly realise how much he wants you... or you might just notice someone who you want even more. Good luck

Wow... there's a lot in there. I think that any parent who rejects their child for simply being what they are... whether that is becuase they are gay, or because they they don't want to take the life path mapped out for them, or any other reason... is not just wrong but sad. If you are incapable of giving unconditional love to your children then you are not going to get it back and that's the saddest thing for a parent. I agree with you about the respect/approval thing. You can totally respect something without approving of it and vice versa. Can't really comment on American politics or baseball because I am not American and have no idea about baseball. Made me smile anyway

My daughter is 22 now and she came out when she was 12. At that time most of her friends were straight, although they accepted her without question and her best friend was gay... well still is As she got older and made new friends she came to be surrounded by more and more gay young people, male and female. I don't know what age your daughter's teammates are but by the time Lori was 16 she was pretty much in a predominantly gay/bi group of friends. Some of the friends went on to form heterosexual relationships, some gay and some alternated, one or two are still not in any relationship at all. They are all still very young and I think that the later teenage years are a time of experimentation anyway. Some people know for sure that they are straight/gay by this point but others are still keeping open minds and experimenting so it would be unsurprising if they... for example considered themselves to be gay and then changed their minds. I have always encouraged my children to keep open minds when it comes to love... don't look at that package look at what's inside. My daughter had a few boyfriends (ironically all but one turned out to be gay, or at least are now in stable gay relationships) but it never 'felt right' and she is now very settled, engaged to her girlfriend who she's been with for 3 years and counting. As for myself, I have always been attracted to women but I married my childhood sweetheart at 18 and we were together for 15 years when I didn't look at anyone else male or female. Within 3 months of that relationship breaking down I was with my second husband who had been a good friend for a number of years and still is even though we have been parted for over a year (after another 15 year realtionsip) It wasn't until I was free and single... something which I had not been since age 15 and started looking around at what was on offer so to speak that I realised that I could get just as hot under the collar for a woman as a man. I suppose I should have guessed from the fact that I have always been attracted to 'pretty' men, with long hair. I have a real thing for eyes... if they have pretty eyes and they like a bit of rough and tumble don't much care about the rest of the package.

I would seriously doubt that everyone in the group started out stable, witty, intelligent, blah blah blah. They've been on a journey that you are only just taking the first steps on. As has been said before me... give yourself a break. If you are having such a downer on yourself how do you expect anyone else to do anything other. You say they don't like you but it sounds as if you are not giving anyone a chance to get to know you, not the real you anyway. You are still the new guy and they have to get your measure. If you follow Rush's excellent advise I would be very surprised if things haven't changed... a lot.. very soon. Keep us posted hun... it will be great to see you blossom. You can practice on us. Edited after seeing Mark's post...... Rush AND MARK's excellent advise

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You really can't make someone like you. The fact that you broke up with this person is likely to have hurt... even though there was justification, even though you both knew it was for the best, even though it WAS for the bets, even though other people were treating you badly because of it. People are strange creatures and they seem to always want to blame someone else when things go wrong. Strangely it seems to go that the more at fault someone is, the more they seek to lay the blame at someone else's door. You broke up with them... ergo it's all your fault. In a way remaining friends would have thrown a light on the fact that it WASN'T all your fault so would have made them face the fact that at least some of the fault was their... a hard thing to do. Perhaps you can contact them and say... hey what happened was no one's fault... it just happened. It's over now and we have both moved on. We are different people so let's see how we go. Don't expect miracles though... the hard fact is that even though you want to remain friends THEY might not, if that's the case there really isn't anything you can do to force them.

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Hmm... interesting. I think that it is difficult to identify blindspots because of the nature of the beast. I am all for stretching myself out of my comfort zone... I don't think I have one. I like to try different things... writing from different perspectives in the same story... chaging tenses, changing persons... stretching language and grammar. On the other hand I am all for playing to my strengths. I don't write comedy, although there is sometimes light relief within the story. I don't write pure romance.. there is always something else going on. I don't know... do I avoid those things because I don't feel comfortable with them... no, I don't think so. I think it's becase I write what comes to me... I write part of myself into every story and I am dark therefore so is my writing. I have light spots, a wicked sense of humour and that comes out too... but it's not prevelant. I rarely sit down and deliberately plan a story.. it just comes out. Therefore it is difficult to tackle concepts such as comfort zones and blindspots. I give what I am given. The only times I have deliberately planned and written a story about a particular subject etc have not often come out well.

It's really hard to say. Sometimes there are visual or audio signs and signals but not always... with the rise of metrosexuality it isn't so easy any more. For me it's a feeling, a gut reaction I suppose and I have been pretty accurate so far. But to say precisely what it is that presses the buzzer... I don't know.

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Aww. You smell of..... chocolate. We have all the videos... except for Glee and Leverage which I have never heard of.

You're okay. You are fine as you are, who you are. You are going to get better and better. You are not alone and will never be alone. Whatever happens you will cope. There are people who care. You are going to be alright.

I know. He wants the film can you believe And it's all because he has the hots for Hannah Montanna and her goofy friend. I think puberty is kicking in early He may not know good TV but he knows what he likes in babes.

So does Thomas.... cute little goatee too.... WOW you are a great looking bunch. What the hell am I doing here? Oh yeah.... Looking at YOU :)

Thank you. I enjoy reading and writing in equal measure, and it's all I seem to be doing these days. I have no life guys... thanks for supplying one... lots

Hahaha. I have an eight year old son so Drake and Josh, iCarly, Hannah Montanna and the Suite Life of Zac and Cody are kind of staple tv in our house. As for my most embarassing tv admission... hmmm I don't know. I don't really watch that much TV when Ef is not around but I have to admit to a liking for 60 minute makeover and Extreme Makeover Home Edition. I suppose, though my most embarassing admission would be to getting drawn into Naruto. I love the programme... especially the ones with Sasuke in them... ooh but he's cute for a twelve year old.... and when we start talking the later series when they are all sixteen... oh my!!!