I got to thinking about sexuality again today, specifically about how trends seem to change with how we present our sexuality, even as fashion or social trends change. It got me really wondering, is the latest trend of seeing so many people describe themselves as BiSexual now a new reality or just a cop out that gives a new generation an ounce of credibility in the eyes of their peers.
My pondering should not be taken as an attack on people that are truly BiSexual or anyone who identifies themselves as such for whatever reason, more just the musing of an enquiring mind.
See, I can't help but wonder if this sudden increase in the number of people, especially the younger generation that identify themselves as BiSexual, is not more a matter of self preservation as society finds a loop hole in our perception of sexuality that lends to greater social acceptance among our peers.
When you take the time to chat with a few of these people, I have found that a few are very clearly open to sexual partners of any kind, but the majority seem to be hiding behind a definition that is not seen as threatening by people who would be more inclined to pick on someone who identifies themselves openly as gay.
We are a creature that are set to evolve and find ways to protect ourselves, and I can't help but wonder if sexuality is influenced by societies perception of what is right, what is wrong, and what is acceptable as a middle ground between the two. Does this grey area where we are kind of not so inclined to take exception, the place where those who are different from what our peers consider normal, become the place where we seek refuge? Is it the case that BiSexual, which could be taken to be less threatening than a fully gay person, is the new cool, a place that gay people can become lost in, in order to avoid conflict?
I few years ago when I was working as a doorman in Swansea in South Wales, I first began to notice this trend as more and more of the gay 'scene' became less and less intimidated being seen out on the straight 'scene'. Those gay bars of yester year have become less of a trend now, as gay people have become more and more entrenched in our modern society here in the UK. But that is not to say that gay people have it all easy now. Yes generations have changed their perception here, even in the twelve years I've lived here I've noticed this, but it is still not easy to be a gay man or woman in the UK.
Bullying is still common place, and if you speak to most gay people, they have all gone through a tough time either at school, work or even in the home. So it does make me wonder if this is a whole new trend of humanity finding a new way to mitigate that strife we experience as a homosexual, deflecting some of the hostility towards our sexuality by identifying with a grouping that is perceived by our society as a less intimidating and wholly more acceptable sexual difference.
Thought for today - "The best way to find yourself is to loose yourself in service of others." - Mahatma Gandhi
Song for today - Girls and Boys by Blur