Menace Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) So, I was wondering if you guys/gals are gonna have gaybies. (gay couples having babies = gaybies) Just wondering. Edited September 18, 2012 by Menace Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashi Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) No.... If he/she turns out to be gay, it's fine. But I won't plan it. Oh..., you changed the question. Well, don't know. Edited September 18, 2012 by Ashi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
methodwriter85 Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 I love being an uncle, but kids are not in my future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesSavik Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 I like being lazy and shiftless too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sympathia Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 YES, definately! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
K.C. Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 No to future babies because I already have a baby (even thou she's now a teenager, she'll always be our baby ) But I would never call her a gaybie. She is very vocal about being a straight chick, she is kill me if I called her a gaybie, LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Henry_Henry2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 I love kids. If not mine then my future partner's. Grew up with a small family. I want small versions of me that I could call my own someday. Probably when I'm financially stable, then I'd start planning on it even if I'm without a partner on my side. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rustle Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I'm with James on this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canuk Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 been there, done that: my "gaybies" (and I concur with KC Grim - they both would KILL me if they were called "Gaybies!) are now 24 and 29. My partner did suggest it 10+ years ago that we'd have a child, I honestly feel I have done my bit and really don't want to do it again! (That said - Sympathia, I would have your babies any day or night!!! ;-) ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikelaing74 Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 Snuggle and I have talked about this once, he's never ever brought it up again, my response was that bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyhort Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 No way. I'm way too selfish to give up my whole life to raise a kid. The closest I'd wanna come is being the cool uncle that gives other peoples kids too much candy and buys them stuff their parents don't want them to have Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prince Duchess Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 Yes, I want kids definitely too erly for them now. Im still trying to find myself and child would only hinder it now but in the future definitely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gulab Jamun Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Would love to, even if I dont ever have a partner....but letting single men adopt kids is not high on the priority list of adoption agencies in India (I wonder what the status is in the west). Men are deemed inadequate as parents, unable to give a stable, loving, caring home.......and if you add homosexuality to the equation....hmmmm, the nicest thing said is that we are irresponsible..the worst you can imagine Straight single guys have been able to adopt but have to wait a much longer time than normal.....sorry rambling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zombie Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Since 2002 in the UK there's been legal parity with straights for all gays - whether single or a couple - who can provide a stable loving family environment, and discrimination because of sexuality by any adoption agency has been illegal since 2007. Here's an extract from one UK agency's web site: "We do not have any requirements about your marital status. Our adopters may be single, married, in a civil partnership or living with a partner. You can adopt jointly without being married. We welcome gay and lesbian adopters whether they are single or looking to adopt jointly with their partner." I would guess preference will always be given to couples, and if you leave it too long then in terms of age there will come a point where that will start to count against you, but that seems sensible. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
W_L Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) I'd love gaybies, but then again, I want puppies too. Can't i have both? (Imagining a litter of horny gay puppies) Honestly, I know I need a partner before I think about kids. Edited September 20, 2012 by W_L Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TetRefine Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Sorry, but "gaybies" has to be the dumbest name I've ever heard babies called. So if a baby is adopted or birthed by a same-sex couple, does that make it any different from one adopted or birthed by heterosexual couples? I'm no science major, but I'm pretty sure a baby is a baby regardless of who brings it into the world. Calling them "gaybies" only cements the stereotype that children raised by same sex partners are somehow different and less "normal" then those raised by straight parents. *facepalms* Now, would I want a BABY? Possibly, but not until I felt like I've lived a while. I want to continue traveling the world, and be able to go out on a Friday night till 4 in the morning without trying to find a place for the kid to stay. Once I get tired of living the good life will I consider having a kid. But not until I'm past 30 and have a decent financial standing. Traveling and going out every weekend costs money, and kids cost loads of money. Some of my friends from high school had kids right after graduating, and they've pretty much screwed themselves into being poor for the next 25+ years. I've spent a lot of time working with kids over the past 8 years and I love them, but its always nice to be able to hand them off to their parents after a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
W_L Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Sorry, but "gaybies" has to be the dumbest name I've ever heard babies called. So if a baby is adopted or birthed by a same-sex couple, does that make it any different from one adopted or birthed by heterosexual couples? I'm no science major, but I'm pretty sure a baby is a baby regardless of who brings it into the world. Calling them "gaybies" only cements the stereotype that children raised by same sex partners are somehow different and less "normal" then those raised by straight parents. *facepalms* Now, would I want a BABY? Possibly, but not until I felt like I've lived a while. I want to continue traveling the world, and be able to go out on a Friday night till 4 in the morning without trying to find a place for the kid to stay. Once I get tired of living the good life will I consider having a kid. But not until I'm past 30 and have a decent financial standing. Traveling and going out every weekend costs money, and kids cost loads of money. Some of my friends from high school had kids right after graduating, and they've pretty much screwed themselves into being poor for the next 25+ years. I've spent a lot of time working with kids over the past 8 years and I love them, but its always nice to be able to hand them off to their parents after a while. It's a cute name, but one that should not be spread around in pre-school, elementary school, or... you get what I mean. Tet, didn't your parents ever have pet names for you, when you were a kid. Gaybies is just a way of expressing affection, like I used puppies in the same regards above (I've known a lot of people with a bunch of kids, who call them their pups, ) A label is just what people make it, don't let that define your kids or you. Who knows, you might be raising an entire hockey team of big bulky boys and girls, who no one would ever call gaybies without getting their teeth knocked out by a hockey stick Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TetRefine Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 It's a cute name, but one that should not be spread around in pre-school, elementary school, or... you get what I mean. Tet, didn't your parents ever have pet names for you, when you were a kid. Gaybies is just a way of expressing affection, like I used puppies in the same regards above (I've known a lot of people with a bunch of kids, who call them their pups, ) A label is just what people make it, don't let that define your kids or you. Who knows, you might be raising an entire hockey team of big bulky boys and girls, who no one would ever call gaybies without getting their teeth knocked out by a hockey stick Of course they had nicknames (ones I won't repeat here ). But they were not anything that could be misconstrued and be used to ostracize me and make me feel different in a negative way. Gaybies just seems derogatory and unnecessarily places a label on a child who doesn't have the first clue about what it means. Maybe I'm just more of a straight-world assimilationist (if there even is such a thing), but theres no need to differentiate between babies/kids raised by straight people and those raised by gay people. It only furthers the thought process that were separate and don't want to be fully part of the mainstream world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celethiel Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Plan... not nessarilly, one way or the other... I don't mind having a kid... someday... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yettie One Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Some days I think yeah, heck yeah, I'd be a great dad. Other days I think HELL NO! Difficult q Menace Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Menace Posted September 21, 2012 Author Share Posted September 21, 2012 Of course they had nicknames (ones I won't repeat here ). But they were not anything that could be misconstrued and be used to ostracize me and make me feel different in a negative way. Gaybies just seems derogatory and unnecessarily places a label on a child who doesn't have the first clue about what it means. Maybe I'm just more of a straight-world assimilationist (if there even is such a thing), but theres no need to differentiate between babies/kids raised by straight people and those raised by gay people. It only furthers the thought process that were separate and don't want to be fully part of the mainstream world. Well, I did stole the word from the gays. Maybe from the LA gays LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Y_B Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Gaybies just seems derogatory and unnecessarily places a label on a child who doesn't have the first clue about what it means. It's not really derogatory, he just thought he was being clever with wordplay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joann414 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I agree with Y-B. Menace meant no harm guys. it was just an in general question. Nothing more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celethiel Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 he means harm... lots and lots of harm ....lol he's Menace... of course he don't... I didn't think much of the wording one way or the other... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sacredlove Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 I would love to adobt kids someday but i'm afraid this is not possible in near future in india:-( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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