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My brother in law, currently in the Navy and my sister, a Navy veteran, will be coming to my house on Memorial Day. In addition to it being 1 1/2 years since we've seen each other we are celebrating Memorial day and their recent post to my state for the next 4 years. I have a lot to be thankful for this Memorial Day, and I will be happy to show it to them!

I write intimate scenes, but not always sex. I'm not afraid of it but I tend to be a bit more oblique and the more intimate the body contact the less overt I am in writing it. For me, I don't plan for it to happen but if it comes when I write the story then I will leave it in. Sex in fiction can be great, if done right, I like it, mf/mm/ff, none of it bothers me. It's interesting to read other's take on writing them however. I know that intimate scenes are some of the hardest for me to write, it's a fine line between getting the emotions and the physical actions right and to try and make them clear to the reader without losing sight of what is going on with the characters. I've read sex scenes that were all of 2 sentences but evoked the sense of a wild crazy sex scene that was titillating without writing the actual physical actions and I've read stories that have page long sex scenes giving every dirty detail that were very blah. I think you have to try writing them to see how you feel about them, and with each story that feeling might change. Oh... and then get a second opinion that helps too!

Good for you! Congratulations on becoming yourself, as hard as that is!

Sometimes the scars serve as a reminder of things that are best left forgotten. Sometimes the scars make us remember those things we should never forget. You have to decide what they mean to you.

I'm guessing Yang is going to be towards the head of that list

1. Fidgeting. Gods I hate watching someone twitch. Not like occasionally but those who swing their legs or tap or click a pen. It's annoying as all freaking get out. 2. People who touch me even when they know I hate it. Seriously, if I don't like getting hugged and I've told you that then it's just sadistic to do it. 3. Like others on here, people who are late or don't show up for plans with calling or letting me know. Seriously, how hard is it?

snickers. idk, my cat is lazy and contrary. He just might love up the zombie instead. And he looks evil to boot, his average look is a sneer of disdain.

Awww, Natertot's all growed up Hope you enjoy it hun!

That is a disgrace. One day the haters of the world will have to come to their senses, at least one can hope so. Hugs.

I never considered suicide, though I had the means and the opportunity pretty much anytime I wanted. I was a what I called a "punisher". I would cut or hurt myself, stop eating, do drugs or drink, be with people who were abusive, just different things like that. I was angry at my life, some of the people in it, and myself a lot of the time. If I was focused on hurting me, I was doing it and I could control it, it helped to distract me from the things that hurt me that I couldn't control. My life wasn't as bad as some, I know plenty of people have had it a lot worse but it was bad enough. It was my dirty secret for the most part, I never told anyone. I still haven't divulged all the awful details to any one person though I have shared bits and pieces of my journey to others. I would have to say that learning to value myself helped a lot. I met someone, finished school early and left home at 17. That was the biggest factor for me, to get away from the negative influences in my life that provided me with the means and the excuses to hurt myself. It's always a struggle, I still have the tendencies but with a family now and kids I don't want them to see me do those sorts of things. They are mimics and I would never want to teach them that. We work on positive ways to channel anger and frustration, to help them learn and to reinforce it for me.

Good points Paya. And Yay! for the great best friend who reacted so nonchalantly!

Snickers. I actually had people think that image would offend me due to the fact that I have young children. I think that we as adults are much more open to lewd suggestion than children are. It's all in what we teach them. Graphic sexual shots? Bad. 2 men in underclothes not even really touching? Please, whatever. People like to impose morality, it makes them feel more important if they feel they are "better" in some way than other people. Count me out, thanks, I like being immoral, not to mention at least some hot sex in my fiction

Good for you Paya! There is a certain level of freedom in sharing yourself with someone. Glad you can experience that!

Well I feel like I know you quite a bit better now! Congrats on the new status at work and on the personal revelations. Good luck on working on yourself, it's one of the hardest things in life to do, change your own perceptions of who you are and how you project that to others.

Nope, not interested, couldn't possibly read anything by you, never, not in a million years

You know how I knew I had finally become an adult. Instead of checking out the boxers all I wanted to do was pull my car over and pull up the jeans on the hooligan who was darn near walking with his pants around his knees. Course the guys just showed the tops of their boxers when I was a teen but still... They're called underclothes for a reason!! In any case, thanks for the laugh, this was too funny!

Happy Birthday Patrick!

Good luck!! I really hope this time around you avoid all the debacles you blogged about last time. The only suggestion for cranky relatives, gags. Yup, lots and lots of gags

There is a way you can combine the two perhaps, such as Nephy said. Find the story topic in the e-fiction area and put a full (or as much as you are willing to share) explanation as to why you are finishing the story in there. If the story is already partially under his profile in e-fiction I do not see why you should move it to yours and lose the reviews and such, plus using the same title twice might confuse readers. What you can do is put a small explanation in the chapter notes on the chapter you started writing, that will show up on the story when people look at the details, you don't have to do it with each chapter. Also there is way to edit the story and add your name for co-author, which is another way to reduce confusion. I agree with liking to see stories finished, however you go about it will be good, imo.

Congrats on the transfer to UCR! Sucks about the job but you didn't seem happy there before so maybe this is a jump to better things!

Your Type is ISTJ Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging Strength of the preferences % 67 25 62 67 The Inspector: The one word that best describes Inspectors is superdependable. Whether at home or at work, Inspectors are extraordinarily persevering and dutiful, particularly when it comes to keeping an eye on the people and products they are responsible for. In their quiet way, Inspectors see to it that rules are followed, laws are respected, and standards are upheld.

I don't use e-readers or anything like that either. Honestly I read so much faster than an audiobook would play that it would only frustrate me. And on long car rides I use audio cd's and books for my kids so I listen to my ipod typically.

Hope you have a great day Layla!!

Needles don't bother me but I only have my ears pierced and one small tattoo on my outer right ankle. Yup, boring, that's me.

Scream away, sometimes it is the only thing that keeps a body from ripping off someone's head and doing all sorts of bad things to it.