I'd never viewed porn until I was in my early twenties and it was with my husband. His younger brother was coming to visit, he was seventeen, and asked my husband to get him a movie to watch. (porn). My husband told me to get one at the video store that day. I was like, "What?!!!!" He looked at me strangely and said, yeah. You can rent them at the video store. I told him I'd never seen them. He told me I'd have to ask, they keep the listings for them in a notebook under the counter probably.
Thank goodness I knew the lady that ran the video store. She laughed at me when I stuttered trying to tell her what I wanted. I flipped through the big notebook that contained the covers of the porn movies. I was like hmmm. Decided I'd like to see some of them so I rented five. Of course back then, you got to rent a movie for the weekend for five bucks, and anyday after that was three dollars per day.
Well, hubby was shocked when he came in and I had five of the movies and told him I wanted to watch them too. His brother stayed in our back room, and I guess watched his that night. Well, I didn't realize what I was getting into. We didn't even get through the first movie over the weekend. I was fascinated, aroused, and just plain pleasantly, shocked. I took them all back that Monday morning even though we hadn't even finished the first one to keep from paying late charges. I started renting one a week. This went on for about two years. Then I graduated to m/m, and was hooked. My hubby could either watch or cover his head with the pillow. He eventually admitted that he enjoyed it also.
While, I think we should take steps to try to limit what our kids are exposed to, don't fool yourself into thinking you are monitoring them all the time unless you have your finger on them. Seriously. No Way can you keep it from them. I just always hoped my daughter was as late getting exposed as I was because it was quite a nice surprise when I discovered porn. Of course, mine is pretty tame porn. I had to look up a couple of things you posted here to see what they meant. No way would I be remotely interested in it. I think my mouth was probably hanging open as I read it on my laptop. Didn't even know there was such a thing.
So, I don't think you're a mence to society if you view porn or incorporate it into you and your partner's relationship if it is a mutual thing, but I'd draw a line on the type of porn I'd watch or that I'd even think of my daugher watching. It certainly takes a different mindered person to do some of the stuff I read.
Each to his own I guess.