Lyrical Laments - 8. Chapter 8 Violation and A Father's Fear

it's a parent's fear. these reflect the feelings of an adult victim and a parent's fear. it makes me angry and sad. 

I'll never have the fear of a parent, thank god, and more so for the fact that I've never experienced this as a victim.  I can't even say the world has changed since I was young to allow this to happen, because the most famous perpetrator at present has been doing it since I was a teen.  Power corrupts, as we all know, but that isn't any sort of excuse as people might think...this is a twisted thing inside the aggressor's mind that ought to be excised.  Where are the signs for this, and how can we prevent this mind-set from getting a foot-hold? 

Sadder still, physical abuse isn't the only form of rape--which is a violent taking of anything against one's will--Kevin was put through a mental equivalent by the very people who should have nurtured and loved him, and no amount of caring and love from me or others could win out in the end. 

Thank you my dear friend for bringing your mind to bear on this subject--I hope your words can bring some order and solace to someone out there....       

 for all those in need

On 10/27/2017 at 2:38 PM, Mikiesboy said:

these make me ... remember and they make me angry

Thanks, tim. They do the same for me....

On 10/27/2017 at 5:01 PM, mogwhy said:

it's a parent's fear. these reflect the feelings of an adult victim and a parent's fear. it makes me angry and sad. 

Thanks, moggy. I was feeling the same when I wrote them... angry and sad....

On 10/27/2017 at 5:09 PM, Caz Pedroso said:

The first brought memories of broken trust. No one should ever have to become a victim, of any sort.

 

The second i feel everytime I allow Alisha to go anywhere without me, or a family member with her. She is growing up and becoming more independant, and the fear in me grows every day. 

 

Well written Gary, a hard subject but one that needs highlighting at times.

 

 

Yes, we need to be constantly reminded this is unacceptable... I fear it falls on mostly deaf ears... and, yeah, it isn't easy being a parent... thanks, Caz....

On 10/27/2017 at 5:12 PM, Valkyrie said:

These are tough to read, and I'm sure they were tough to write.  It's such a difficult subject that's way too prevalent, I'm afraid.  And you are so right about men being victims too.  People tend to forget that.    

Yes, they do. Men are just as vulnerable in this world... it doesn't matter if we might be physically stronger... we often face the same monsters... thanks, Val....

On 10/27/2017 at 5:24 PM, Timothy M. said:

 

Anger and defiance are better than guilt and depression which often rides the victims of sexual assault as a relentless nightmare. Rape is the one unforgivable sin (apart from murder) because destroys your inner self.  

Those hands never go away... so true, Tim. Becoming a victim can crush you or anger you... either way, they change you... thanks, my friend....

On 10/27/2017 at 6:49 PM, dughlas said:

Thank you for clarifying this was not about your kids. That was my first fear. 

I can not imagine the harm done to the victims, it is beyond my ken.

Yes, I wanted to make that clear, dugh. But these are specific... thanks, bro....

On 10/27/2017 at 7:43 PM, Defiance19 said:

Today, in some random twist of fate, these hit extra hard.. this should happen to no one ever...

Sorry for the delay, Def... I've not come back to these till now... no... no one should have to go through such an ugly violation... ever....

On 10/27/2017 at 8:21 PM, LitLover said:

It’s difficult for me, as a parent, to think of releasing my kids into the world knowing how dark and cruel it can sometimes be. Like Dugh, I was relieved to know these weren’t quite that close to home for you.  Both poems are hard to read, but they ring a sad truth out there.  Sometimes all you can do is to be there to help someone pick up the broken pieces as best you can    

Yes, that's about all... I admire those brave souls who come forward... they often become victims again... of a different sort... thanks, Lit....

On 10/27/2017 at 8:26 PM, mogwhy said:

they are tough to read. they are tougher to write. they are brutal to live. trust me.

It was difficult to come back to these, moggy... this subject is sheer ugliness... and a bringer of fear...  

On 10/27/2017 at 8:28 PM, Valkyrie said:

I know they are.  From multiple perspectives.  

On 10/27/2017 at 8:58 PM, mogwhy said:

the thing i thank the universe for, is the fact i don't have to deal with the parent perspective of having a child as a victim. i'm a child and adult survivor of rape and i refuse to be silent. sorry Gary for the hijack 

No worries... I am so thankful my children have avoided being victims... as far as I know....

On 10/28/2017 at 2:38 AM, ColumbusGuy said:

I'll never have the fear of a parent, thank god, and more so for the fact that I've never experienced this as a victim.  I can't even say the world has changed since I was young to allow this to happen, because the most famous perpetrator at present has been doing it since I was a teen.  Power corrupts, as we all know, but that isn't any sort of excuse as people might think...this is a twisted thing inside the aggressor's mind that ought to be excised.  Where are the signs for this, and how can we prevent this mind-set from getting a foot-hold? 

Sadder still, physical abuse isn't the only form of rape--which is a violent taking of anything against one's will--Kevin was put through a mental equivalent by the very people who should have nurtured and loved him, and no amount of caring and love from me or others could win out in the end. 

Thank you my dear friend for bringing your mind to bear on this subject--I hope your words can bring some order and solace to someone out there....       

Assault comes in many forms... I hate the bullies of this world with a passion... there are people who take pleasure in hurting... destroying... others, and that has been since the beginning of time... how is it accepted as okay by so many? Is it me, or is the world becoming more numb... callous... cold?