Ten things

(1) I believe in you more than anyone else

(2) Nothing you can say can make me love you less

(3) nothing you can do will make me less proud

(4) Being the best in everything is not living a life of goals and achivement, it is allowing goals and achievement to live your life. Love is life

(5) Standing up for yourself is what makes you a man and gives you self respect

(6) Dont live your life for others.... live it for yourself

(7) You are the most wonderful, intelligent, amazing person I have ever met

(8) You make me complete

(9) I will support every step you take

(10) .... 9 inches (i couldnt think of a 10th.... )

big hug

West

Westie... are you SURE you're gay. I mean couldn't I at least borrow you at weekends

Paya...

'getting from an excellent student to a loser who won't finish the finals..' Darling you will NEVER be a loser.

As someone who also has trouble saying no I have to say to you sweetheart that you are ging to have to learn no matter how hard because if you don't the universe will do it for you. I was pretty much the same as you. Every spare moment filled and mostly promised to others. Then I had my back issues and I could be quite as much there for everyone but I was still expected to drive around and be the one who takes my mother shopping twice a week no matter what blah blah. So I lost my license and can't drive. And they my back got worse and then I had to give up full time work.... moral

I am now happier than I have ever been with my life. I work part time in a job I love. Doesn't pay well but I'm happy. I write write write which makes me more than happy. But I can't walk well, can't drive and am in pain most of the time.

COME ONE babe. Quit while you're ahead. Don't wait until the universe does it for you.

Cut out of your life EVERYTHING that you don't absolutely need. Some people hoard physical stuff you hoard mental stuff. Stop it.

Oh and although I think it is extremely unlikely but if your man accidentally gets thrown out with the rest can you throw him my way.

Oh Oh Oh... how about cloning. Can I clone you...both of you. One to wash and one to wear

Take care of yourself

Balance is the key word.

Find the kind of balance in your llife between duties and personal happiess that gives you challenge and satisfaction. If all you do is be a busy bee all the time then you might miss the little special things that you enjoy.

Also, failing is learning too It just teaches you things from a different perspective.

You got so much going on make clear what your priorities are and focus on the big picture.

What else... hmmm. You are going to places in your life! I just know so

Paya,

Whatever you decide, just try to do the best to not have any regrets (mostly in regard to your PhD, but applicable to everything else).

If you've come this far and decide to set working on your PhDaside, it might not be something that you can pick up where you left off later.

Just remember, no regrets.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Vic

Well Paya i can only reccomend taking things one thing at a time

If you can take doing it all then go for it

Lean on Westie, he's a lovely guy and i'm sure he will support you as much as he can.

Look at it in terms of making a list and grading each thing to do A to E. You get the A things done first, then B then C etc. until everything is done. I did that with my studies and it really worked It's just a case of being able to tell what is most important to you.

Then once you have done that, you can if you want to take out all of the things that are E grade and then free up some time or anything below a C grade

Whatever you decide we are all behind you all the way

John xx

devote all my time to my career, earning money and being awfully rich

This is a goal of great worth . Just not forget that this is a hard path, you need self confidence, you need good friends, you need fierceness in your behavior.

I wish you good luck in your new future. I am sure you will have all what you need to be successful

Well, you f**ked up. Join the club. All of us do that. What is so awesome is the way you've acknowledged it, figured it out, and now you're planning to not do it again. How many of us do the same thing over and over again and never learn? (answer: most of us)

One of my colleagues told me that he'd never worked for an institution that wasn't willing to work him to death. It's up to us to put up walls and boundaries to prevent that from happening. I look back and think about the hours I worked, and I can't say that in retrospect it made much sense to push that hard. On the other hand, the memories and important moments that I cherish are those I spent with people I love.