I am glad to hear that your Christmas has an happy ending. And I wish you that your plan works out next year.

But just in case: Imperfection can be relaxing. Don´t be hard on yourself.

;-)

Hugs to you.

tim, I'm so glad that your Christmas turned itself around.

Having a plan is a great idea!  Let someone (Mike) know what the plan is so he can help you execute it.

Oh, fireworks on Christmas night, eh? A Happy New Year come early

I am glad to hear that your Christmas has an happy ending. And I wish you that your plan works out next year.

But just in case: Imperfection can be relaxing. Don´t be hard on yourself.

;-)

 

Hugs to you.

I just know that if I actually planned things, i could have what I want. The reason i felt so bad is because I wasn't planning. .. thanks Lyssa!!!

tim, I'm so glad that your Christmas turned itself around.

Having a plan is a great idea!  Let someone (Mike) know what the plan is so he can help you execute it.

Michael is actually happy to help, if i know what i want doing .. which this year i didn't... he helped me with dinner today and we had a great time together!!

Oh, fireworks on Christmas night, eh? A Happy New Year come early

Mmmm yeah .. hehe.. Night, morning, afternoon ... LOL.  Nice when the kid aint home... hugs AC xoxo

Smart man

Smart man

Ask me at the beginning of Dec 2017!! We'll see.

planning is everything.

Hey don't worry, if you get to early Dec 2017 and you find yourself without a plan, just shout, and we'll all pitch in and give you ideas.

My suggestion for a plan would be to do less and relax more.

Or you simply remember the feeling from after and realize Christmas will happen, perfect preparation or not and it will be fun. Choose the things you really feel give you joy and skip the rest of those musts.

The only thing I bothered about at Christmas was getting some good food to eat for just the two of us. Oh yeah, I also threw up a garland of flashing lights, but hardly ever switched them on, no Christmas tree. My partner asked me if he could take down the lights, I told him to hang on a bit, just in case friends come round. Don't want them thinking we're totally unfestive! Actually I don't give a damn, Christmas for me is doing just whatever the two of us want to do

planning is everything.

 

Hey don't worry, if you get to early Dec 2017 and you find yourself without a plan, just shout, and we'll all pitch in and give you ideas.

Thanks, Sasha!!  I know you're right. I'm not saying I want some Martha Stewart perfect thing, but I just want to have things that I honestly like to do, done before Christmas Eve. I want to be able to just sit down on Christmas Eve, watch a film with Mike, drink some spiked eggnog and know I'm done. Or maybe go downtown on Christmas Eve and look at the decorations and have a meal out, knowing that I'm done.  You know?

I've made some notes and added a few things to my Nov/Dec 2017 calendar. I will do this!!

My suggestion for a plan would be to do less and relax more.

Hmm maybe. But there are things that I like to give. So if I want to do that I need to get organized. 

Or you simply remember the feeling from after and realize Christmas will happen, perfect preparation or not and it will be fun. Choose the things you really feel give you joy and skip the rest of those musts.

You're right ... and making the stuff i like to make is what gives me joy. So i want to do that, but not on Christmas Eve! So i need a plan. It'll work, if i plan it. Each job i want to do, isn't long but i need to start earlier than i did this year.  I want to be able to enjoy Christmas Eve, rather than having to work through it all. 

The only thing I bothered about at Christmas was getting some good food to eat for just the two of us. Oh yeah, I also threw up a garland of flashing lights, but hardly ever switched them on, no Christmas tree. My partner asked me if he could take down the lights, I told him to hang on a bit, just in case friends come round. Don't want them thinking we're totally unfestive! Actually I don't give a damn, Christmas for me is doing just whatever the two of us want to do

I like the decorations and the visiting. But I'm also lazy and easily frustrated. So i think starting early, doing a bit at a time will work. So I'm scheduling dates, to write cards, to bake a couple of batches of cookies, to make fudge and then to wrap it, so it's not a huge panic near the day. Happy New Year!!

But what you described in your original post wasn't simply poor planning, but something else. That lack of joy over preparations should be observed, so you can avoid it next year.

OK, Dr Phil... Ehum... Dr Puppi will shut up now. LOL

But what you described in your original post wasn't simply poor planning, but something else. That lack of joy over preparations should be observed, so you can avoid it next year. OK, Dr Phil... Ehum... Dr Puppi will shut up now. LOL

I think it's my lack of planning that made it something else. I blame myself for being lazy. I like Dr. Pupp and she never has to shut up!! She gives great advice!

A man with a plan ... just remember not to get upset if things don't go to plan. It's not all the stuff that makes Christmas ... it's a gift of love.

A man with a plan ... just remember not to get upset if things don't go to plan. It's not all the stuff that makes Christmas ... it's a gift of love.

I know you're right about that dugh. I'm fairly flexible and i think if i give myself a fair chance it will all work. If something goes astray, well it's because it's out of my hands. I can comfort myself with the fact i tried. 

Hmm maybe. But there are things that I like to give. So if I want to do that I need to get organized. 

I think people who love you and care about you would be just as happy knowing you didn't stress but only did what you were able to. And I don't think you're lazy. If you don't get it done for Christmas, tell yourself they'll be just as happy and surprised in January. 

I mean I get wanting to do stuff you like to make people happy, but I bet none of them wants you to be stressed and angry at yourself for not living up to some arbitrary ideal of what Christmas should be like.

Anyway, I'll shut up now. Give Michael a hug from me for taking good care of you.

Happy New Year tim 

I think people who love you and care about you would be just as happy knowing you didn't stress but only did what you were able to. And I don't think you're lazy. If you don't get it done for Christmas, tell yourself they'll be just as happy and surprised in January. 

I mean I get wanting to do stuff you like to make people happy, but I bet none of them wants you to be stressed and angry at yourself for not living up to some arbitrary ideal of what Christmas should be like.

 

Anyway, I'll shut up now. Give Michael a hug from me for taking good care of you.

 

Happy New Year tim