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Why take a life partner?


I was going to write this deep, brooding blog entry. Actually I did. And I posted it. Only I posted it in my personal, no-one-has-access-or-even-knows-about-it journal. The catharsis came simply from writing it and I didn't actually want to make people sit and wonder what words of support they could offer to make me feel better when really I was already feeling fine having written it.

 

So I do feel better. Emotional crisis averted and all that jazz.

 

Then if my still contemplative but soothed state I wrote another entry. Decided it to post it privately too.

 

So here, dear friends is the third entry, and it consists of a single question. A question which I hope will make you gain insights into yourselves more than I hope it will give me my own insight. I'm still curious to know the answers, and of course I'll consider them carefully, but at this point it comes down to a more thoughtful, philosophical pondering than any sort of need or want to actually know.

 

So the question is:

 

Why take a life partner?

 

Considering that I've just spent the better part of the last hour and a half contemplating this, I don't particularly think I'll hear very many things I haven't already considered. I'll probably hear some, but unless you go for something really deep and out there, I've probably already considered it. Nevertheless, as I said, I'm curious about your responses and I hope you get something out of it -be you single or partnered already - so I hope you'll indulge me.

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CarlHoliday

Posted

It all depends on what you need a partner for. Knowing what I know now, I might not have looked for someone until much later in life when having that special person beside you on rainy nights makes more sense. For me a life partner means someone I grow used to, to the point where the foibles are balanced against what you need in a partner.

 

I don't do lonely very well so I look forward to having someone around at the end, whether it's my current partner or someone new. As much as you may look forward to dying together, reality means one or the other going first. My current partner is not healthy, worse than me, so I expect to be looking for a new life partner ten or fifteen years from now.

 

Carl

Meeko

Posted

I'm gonig to answer your question with one of my own Kevin...

 

Why not take a Life Partner?

 

And if you come up with more answers for this one then the other, we'll then there is your answer...

Deep enough for you? haha Prob not.

 

 

But really I'm sure you've heard this before, but I'm saying it anyway.

 

I'd want a Life Partner, because of the fact that I don't have much people who are really to close to me. At least this way I'd know there was at least one person out there who loves me.

 

Hope that helps, take care Kev.

sumbloke

Posted

Hang on! You mean there's a choice? Why didn't I get that memo?

 

I don't think that we all want or need the same things. Me, I'm a big family person - I can't imagine life without family around me and a partner is a part of that. I don't say it's the only way to have a family or that it is necessarily a complete family but it's the start of one. I also need somone to be my strength from time to time - and of course that doesn't have to be a partner, but I find a certain security in having someone for whom I (in almost all cases) come first when I need something. Then there's sharing. I haven't done much in life so far but I have things I want to do and I want to share them. I want to build a house (well maybe not from the ground up but...) and I want to travel some more and other stuff and I want someone to share those things with. Does it have to be a life partner? No, but if I didn't have one I think I'd have to live in a commune.

 

Jakob

Objectivist

Posted

There's really no good reason to take a life partner. Unless you like having sex with the same person, and having a deep emotional connection while your having sex or as some people like to call it 'making love' or at any other point in your life. Unless you like being tortured by your partners habits that really irritate you. If you like to be nagged at by the same person till you die... Dieing from either their nagging or natural causes. If you like waking up to the same hidious face every morning. or kissing them on the mouth even when they have yet to brush their teeth. Or waking up to an empty bed, when they are away for whatever reason, and smelling their scent.

 

If you like smiling like the luckiest person alive knowing that your parnter is yours and no one else's. If you like interlocking your fingers with those of your partner while walking along and stuff like that. Then sure you should take a life partner.

 

I dont know why anyone would want a life partner.

 

:)

 

Hopefully that didnt help you.

 

 

James

old bob

Posted

Hang on! You mean there's a choice? Why didn't I get that memo?

Jakob

Hey Kevin,

You forget the most important point in your "study".

"Why take a life partner?" is a wrong question, because it's only a theoretical question. To find or not a life partner doesn't depend on your choice or will. If it will happen or not is something you can't decide alone. Fate, Destiny or if you prefer Hazard rule your life. If you have the chance to come together with a person with whom you think you could stay, than the question, and its answer, will come from itself.

"Searching" a life partner is the best way to spoil your chances to find one.

I hope you will soon or later live the confirmation of my point of view.

Take care,

Old bob

AFriendlyFace

Posted

Wow thanks you guys! Awesome and insightful posts one and all :D

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