Writing Sex Scenes

[Etienne]

I'm just wondering about this.

 

I get so involved with my characters that I invariably become aroused when writing a detailed sex scene, as opposed to a brief mention of having had sex.

 

Does this hold true for most writers?

[JamesSavik]

I typically don't write sex scenes and leave the hot, messy, wet stuff to the readers imagination.

 

Everybody knows how to have sex or can figure it out relatively easily. You can quickly run out of material for sex scenes- after all there's only so much you can do and just so many positions.

 

The real magic is in the dynamics between people. That is a well that will never run dry.

[Dio]

I'm just wondering about this.

 

I get so involved with my characters that I invariably become aroused when writing a detailed sex scene, as opposed to a brief mention of having had sex.

 

Does this hold true for most writers?

 

Can't say it does. The only sex scene I've ever written was to make a point. It wasn't really arousing at all. I suppose though if I were to ever start imagining two of my characters having sex in a different context it might turn me on. But isin't that kinda like asking if you get an erection reading porn?

 

I like James' answer. My hero. Preach preacher!

[Etienne]

But isin't that kinda like asking if you get an erection reading porn?

 

 

I don't think so, because not all porn is exciting.

[Lugh]

I'm just wondering about this.

 

I get so involved with my characters that I invariably become aroused when writing a detailed sex scene, as opposed to a brief mention of having had sex.

 

Does this hold true for most writers?

 

 

Not me.

 

I'm usually so involved with where the knees and elbows are, and who is doing what to whom, and all the little details of emotion and conflict and dominance and power.... that I don't have time to consider the actual f**king part at all as sex that is supposed to make me get horny.

 

Now when I'm re-reading it.... total different story.

 

Lugh

[viv]

No. There's a big difference between a sex scene in a story and pornography. Porn does very little for me as it's purely about the sex, whereas a sex scene in a story is about so much more. If your characters are in a loving relationship the sex can be an expression of that love and that's far more arousing than any porn I've ever seen.

 

I totally agree with you, I was just having this very debate last night. It's not about the sex. It's a story and you connect with the characters and you relate to the plot and then, as the characters you have so connected with experience a part of love or sex in whatever form it takes place in their story, it is not about porn, but more about watching them grow and learn together.

 

To me it is a fascinating thing to be able to feel the persons angst or aprehension or embarrasment, to connect on a level like that shows how well written something can be. I also think that some of the best stories allow you to create parts of the details in your own mind.

 

Also, I am with Lugh, things have to be physically possible and plausible and I am more worried about those details than anything else when I am writing a sex/love scene.

[dkstories]

I have to be very careful about getting aroused by some of the sex scenes I write for certain stories.

 

Other stories are okay...just certain ones are dangerous.

[DomLuka]

I'm just wondering about this.

 

I get so involved with my characters that I invariably become aroused when writing a detailed sex scene, as opposed to a brief mention of having had sex.

 

Does this hold true for most writers?

 

for this author it does. but that's cool. i figure that if i get bored with a sex scene i'm writing, most readers will, too.

[LittleBuddhaTW]

Actually, I'm usually already aroused when I'm writing a sex scene. I can't seem to do it unless I'm horny. However, I haven't really thought about, once I'm writing it, whether or not it makes me even more aroused than I was to begin with ...

[JulienGregg]

I'm just wondering about this.

 

I get so involved with my characters that I invariably become aroused when writing a detailed sex scene, as opposed to a brief mention of having had sex.

 

Does this hold true for most writers?

 

 

That's only happened a few times for me. It happed a lot when I was writing The Spell, but not so much while I wrote The Craft, because the type of sex that was in there just wasn't my idea of a good time. I usually feel silly when I write a sex scene. That's probably why there isn't much sex in most of my stories.

 

Julien

[Demetz]

:blush:

 

I "write" sex scenes with a certain other user on GA... provides lots of material should I ever decide to include one in a story

 

As it is I lead up to a sex scene, then leave the really raunchy stuff to the reader's imagination. Choreographing porn in text form is kind of difficult anyway...

[Jack Scribe]

:blush:

 

As it is I lead up to a sex scene, then leave the really raunchy stuff to the reader's imagination. Choreographing porn in text form is kind of difficult anyway...

 

Choreography is the key word. A valid sex scene should include the angst, hesitation, agressiveness and the awkwardness. Verbal and gutteral sounds should also be represented.

 

Some sex scenes seem to be out of an Olympic event. I read, completely amazed, at the body contortions that some writers (not GA) use to explain "the act". And then the gallons of______. Come on, give me a break.

 

I'm a hopeless romantic and any sex scenes I write have that as the foundation.