I can see that you are really struggling to find your place here. While I haven't read all of your postings, I've read enough to make me think that a lot of what you post is intended to draw attention.
As for the 'punk bitch' phrase, I personally don't care for it, but I understand if it is a phrase that you identify with and use with friends and such. Maybe because I'm a female and this particular word comes across as rude, but f***, s**t, and a** don't bother me (probably because they aren't gender specific to me). I don't like derogatory words for other races or sexualities either (even if someone uses it to describe themselves). Therefore, I try to ignore it as best as I can.
I use 'curse' words all the time in my writing, but I don't use them in status updates or in general posts. In stories and in blogs, people have a choice of whether to click on them to read them. Posting in status updates, the gallery, or general postings (ie. commenting on posts in the community), however, is visible to everyone, and it is not something I can 'avoid' seeing as they are often right there on the front pages of the Forums, especially when you use all caps—it's like you are screaming it at me.
That being said, I would recommend refraining from using that phrase (or offensive ones in general) in status updates, comments on posts in the forums, or in titles of your blogs. Then those who don't care for the phrase aren't blasted with it every time they open the Forums page. Maybe it would be best to use it in your stories or inside your blogs (I'm sure most of us realize by now that we might see it there) as those are places where we have a choice whether or not to read it.