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Rush, I'm really sorry for you . I dont know if you could handle this with the help of a lawyer. According to the laws in my country, if you have proof of the abuses of your daughter, even if she is an adult, you can intervene and get your daughter away from that beast, even if your daughter doesnt agree with it. I think its worth asking. Good luck.

Hi James Your collection made me laugh more than half an hour !

Hi Tiger, I hope you will live long enough to fulfill your wishes. You are right, I did both, several times, and it's a source of joy (think of it when your mood is as described in your blogs ) IMO, our faith has nothing to do with our understanding of science My brain (just as an example ) has accepted death and its permanence, but IMO it doesnt mean that there is no after-life. I believe what I believe, with the same rights as you do. BTW, religion (in a very large sense of the word) is not fear, it's love. But the battle between "deists" and "atheists" will never end, for the pleasure of eternal discussions between friends .

Sorry to disappoint you, by in my age Death is not a concept but a future . I voted "No" on the first question and "Beginning" on the second. For more about my opinion, see my comment in the Mark Arbour's topic " Suicide: Legal or Not?".

You are a strong man ! Thanks for sharing. I'm sure it will help you to know that we are all with you. You need certainly luck, but even more faith in the success of your cure.

Going to the essential, the definition of homophobia in Wiki is enough clear to understand the meaning of the word : "Homophobia is an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality, homosexuals,or individuals perceived as homosexual. Some definitions lack the "irrational" component. Homophobic is the adjective form of this term used to describe the qualities of these characteristics, while homophobe is the noun form given as a title to individuals labeled with homophobic characteristics. The term "internalized homophobia" is used to describe a prejudice against one's own homosexuality." The important point in this definition is the words "irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination..". Making a joke about gays has nothing to do with homophobia. "internalized homophobia" exists as well, it leads often to suicide. It's our duty to fight against it, to talk about it and to help everywhere when you suspect somebody around you suffering of it. The difficulty is that these people are often aggressive against gays ! A lot of stories in GA show good examples how to help hidden gays to accept themselves.

No, no and no ! The word itself isn't sad, it is, simply. The sadness is yours.... change the glasses on your eyes and you will see the good sides. The sadness will be changed in happyness,

Fighting for gay rights is fighting for Democracy ! Thanks to UCLA, I hope this fight will success. Once more DK stories (I mean DO's) show "realities" about homophobia in High Schools !

I agree 100 % with Mark. The song is wonderful and I had tears in the eyes to listen. But most important is the fact that 10 millions people could in a few hours feel the same emotion. We are living in a NEW world, we now communicate instantaneous earthwide and share our feelings with no limits ! The net as, an instrument of been together, in spite of the distance, is a powerful mean, for the best and perhaps for the worst. Sometimes I shiver....

a fancy dress ? why not ? No more joking ! I can imagine that a gay guy, not clear with himself, fighting either against or at least not accepting to be gay, trying to avoid all the difficulties and perhaps the pain inherent to gayness, could let go his anger about "gay" jokes. Laughing about any kind of misery is certainly not acceptable for the people suffering. But for those who accept to be what they effectively are, laughing about themselves was always a way to increase their resistance against the difficulties of life. Look at the Jewish jokes as a good example. The first one I learnt to use, as a Jewish child : "Somebody says : "I dont like Jews, they have no right to be on earth". My answer : "yes, the Jews and the cyclists also !" the other : "Why the cyclists ? My answer : "Why the Jews ?"

Here a test about jokes about gays : LORD NELSON The new inmate at the mental hospital announced in a loud voice that he was the famous British naval hero, Lord Nelson. This was particularly interesting, because the institution already had a "Lord Nelson. The head psychiatrist, after due consideration, decided to put the two men in the same room, feeling that the similarity of their delusions might prompt an adjustment in each that would help in curing them. It was a calculated risk, of course, for the two men might react violently to one another, but they were introduced and then left alone and no disturbance was heard from the room that night.The next morning, the doctor had a talk with his new patient and was more than pleasantly surprised when he was told "Doctor, I've been suffering from a delusion. I know now for a fact that I am not Lord Nelson. "That's wonderful," said the doctor. "Who are you?" Smiling coyly, the patient replied, "I'm Lady Nelson." CONDOM A gay man walks into a drugstore and asks the pharmacist whether he sells extra-large condoms. The pharmacist replies, "Yes we do. We stock the 'Magnum' brand by Trojan. Would you like to buy some?" He responds, "No sir. But would you mind if I waited around here until someone does?" HOLIDAY FUN Two couples decide to spend the weekend away together at a posh hotel. When they get there, one guy suggests they indulge in partner-swapping as a trial. After 2 hours of solid sex by the fireside, the guy turned to his new partner and said, "Wow! This is the very best sex I had in years... I wonder how the girls are doing?" BOSS'S DILEMA Boss, to four of his employees: "I'm really sorry, but I'm going to have to let one of you go." Black Employee: "I'm a protected minority." Female Employee: "And I'm a woman." Oldest Employee: "Fire me Buster, and I'll hit you with an age discrimination suit so fast, it'll make your head spin." To which they all turn to look at the helpless young, white, male employee, who thinks a moment, then responds: "I think I might be gay..." GAY SON A gay man, finally deciding he could no longer hide his sexuality from his parents, finally deciding he could no longer hide his sexuality from his parents, went over to their house and found his mother in the kitchen cooking dinner. He sat down at the kitchen table, let out a big sigh, and said, "Mom, I have something to tell you: I'm gay." His mother made no reply. The guy was about to repeat himself when she turned away from the pot she was stirring and said calmly, "You're gay, doesn't that mean you put other men's penises in your mouth?" The guy said nervously, "Uh, yeah, Mom, that's right." His mother whirled around, whacked him over the head with her spoon and said, "Don"t you ever complain about my cooking again!" SMALL GUY A small guy goes into an elevator, when he gets in he notices a huge guy standing next to him. The big guy looks down upon the small white guy and says, "7 foot tall, 350 pounds, 20 inch dick, 3 pound left ball, 3 pound right ball, Turner Brown." The small guy faints! The big guy picks up the small guy and brings him to, slapping his face and shaking him and asks the small guy, "What's wrong?" The small guy says, "Excuse me but what did you say?". The big guy looks down and says "7 foot tall, 350 pounds, 20 inch dick, 3 pound left ball, 3 pound right ball, my name is Turner Brown." The small guy says "Thank God, I thought you said, "Turn around." GAY GORILLA Two gay guys are walking through a zoo. They come across the gorillas, and after a while they notice that the male gorilla seems sexually aroused. One of the men just can't bear it any longer and reaches into the cage to touch the powerful mammal’s member. The gorilla grabs him, drags him into the cage and mates with him for six hours non-stop. When he's done, the gorilla throws the man back out of the cage. An ambulance is called and the man is rushed to hospital. Next day his friend visits the ward and asks, "Are you hurt?" "AM I HURT?" he shouts in reply. "Wouldn't you be? He hasn't called, he hasn't written ..." ALL OUR SONS Four men go golfing together, three head to the first tee and one goes into the club house to take care of the bill. The three men start talking, bragging about their sons. The first man tells the others, "My son is a home builder and he's so successful that he gave a friend a new home - for free." The second man says, "My son was a car salesman and now he owns a multi-line dealership. He's so successful that he gave a friend two BMWs." The third man, not wanting to be outdone, brags, "My son is a stock broker and he's doing so well that he gave his friend an entire stock portfolio." The fourth man joins them on the tee after a few minutes of taking care of business. The first man mentions, "We were just talking about our sons. How is yours doing?" The fourth man replies, "Well, my son is gay and he must be pretty good at it. His last three boyfriends gave him a house, two cars and a stock portfolio." And this one is for me : OLD GAY MAN What a drag it is getting old… When I went to the bar tonight, I noticed this old boy about 75-80 years sitting all alone in the corner and he was crying over his cocktail. I stopped and asked him what was wrong. He said: “I have a 22 year old lover at home. I met him a month or so ago, right here in this very bar!” He continued; “He makes love to me every morning and then he makes me pancakes, sausage, fresh fruit and freshly ground, brewed coffee.” I said: “Well, then why are you crying?” He said: “He makes me homemade soup for lunch and my favorite brownies and then he makes love to me half the afternoon.” I said: “Well, so why are you crying?” He said: “For dinner he makes me a gourmet meal with wine and my favorite dessert and then he makes love to me until 2 :00 am.” I said: “Well, for goodness sakes! Why in the world would you be CRYING!” And he said: “I CAN’T REMEMBER WHERE I LIVE!! Should I now be immediately lynched ?

I had ! we were alone, a nurse, my wife and me. The gyneco was away, in his garden, flucking flowers and he came to late, a few minutes after my son (the one who is gay !). It's one of my best memories .

Tu quoque, mi fili ?

Sorry Kevin, as a bi myself, I would like more details about your comment. Do your refer to the comment : and the answer : It would be interesting to know, perhaps in an other topic, why Andy don't like bi. Since a long time I expected to find somebody who have the guts to explain me why ? Now that I found one, I dont want to let him go

Here, in Switzerland, about 80 % of the bottles and other glass materials are recycled. The nest bin is 2 minutes away from home and old paper is collected twice a week. Now that smoking is forbidden in all public places, everyboby who is smoking on the streets has to take care of his cigarette-ends. If you throw them on the ground, you can get a penalty ! Geneva is a clean town .

Funny, I would I should be 20 again . When you get older, you will learn and experience that real love has nothing to do with your wishes Its like a lightning, it strikes you what ever who the other is. The real must is not what he cares about you, but what you care about him. . Have you ever heard about Cupidon's arrows ?

Just a few words to support Adrian's post. Your words in your post are clear : You are right, forget about him. I know it's not so easy, but I'm sureyou will .

Thanks for the support, Kevin. I know I'm rough, but I learnt that life is short, you never knows when your last day will come. It's even shorter in my case, so my trend is to never waste any minute in hopeless grieving ! .For example, it's the same problem with an abscess in your teeth or a tooth decay. The more you wait, the more pain the dentist will cause ! I dont fully agree with that ! Nicholas is too young to waste his time to look back. The important is his future. Looking back is good for old chaps like me. Nothing to add to these words. As usual, Kevin is resuming the best what I hope for our friend, and BTW, this time with a (very) few words .

This video show the deep part of the american soul, violence, need of brutal power, pride to own weapons and to have the right to use it. The only positive side is that the gunmen use it as a game and satisfy their needs on targets and not on other men. We saw the same games in a recent film about the italian mafia : "Gomorra" . You can see the trailer under : http://www.screenrush.co.uk/video/player_g...ilm=134985.html. Violence is not a particularity of US only .

wow! once more I admire your wisdom. I wished I had the father your sons have ! I'm sure they will support not only the fact that you are gay but even more the way you and your wife live your gayness. It's an model for us and I thank you to share it with us.

I'm really sorry for you, but life is life. My advice comes from years of experiences ! You have to confront the reality, time for grieving is passed. Be a man, accept your fate, you will be rewarded. Either your sorrow will vanish or you will find a new friend and build a new future with him, letting the past become fine memories. Youe said : "now i don't know where to turn.". I'm sure you have a lot of people around you, some you know and many others you dont know yet. Break your shell, loneliness is only a mood, not a fact. I wish you good luck Old Bob (who knows what he is talking about)

As I said in my topic ("How to inform and support young gays" in the Teen spot), the best way to stay healthy is to participate in GBLT groups, or to talk openly with other gays if there no group where you live (see my post under : Visit my topic ) . Apart the examples from my group (Dialogai in Geneva) brought in my post, an interesting survey was organized last year. 531 gays in Geneva answered the questions. You can download the survey under survey . The shown results are optimist, much better than any campaign! BTW I'm sorry, for french speaking people only .

Thanks for the tip ! Has anybody an idea how I could get it ? I haven't any local contact here around be from whom I could get it. BTW, it is really worth to try it ?? Thanks in advance for your opinion .

Saturday evening, badly shaved (I dont shave on weekends), in my office, resting from an hard week, with one of my old pipes... If you compare with my first picture from 2 years ago : , you will see how quick age can be red on an old face . But the mind is still young !

Hi Benji, I'm just a few years elder than you, but I went the same way. Death is normal, natural, but my fear is painful agony. When my time comes, I just hope that people around me will help me to "go through" without pain. I cared about it. Did you allready hear anything about "Exit (ensuring choices for a dignified death)" ? If not, see exit.