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We descended the stairs to the sandy beach below, our hands instinctively interlacing. With our spare hands we scooped up our flip flops. The feel of sand between my toes echoed the warm glow of the sky as the sun slipped below the horizon. His hand guided me along the water’s edge where the salt air was strong and the tide nipped at our feet. The sky darkened as we made our way down the beach, and before long it was almost too dark to see where we were going. “Look!” he said, pulling my a

A short story which makes you believe in wishing upon a star

CIA is exactly right. I've been with someone in a long distance relationship, where he did have SAD. Its rough, and there is months of hard times every winter. Its very difficult to tell if it is the SAD, the long distance or an emotionally unavailable partner...or all. Ultimately you have to decide how much you can handle. You should talk it over with him and let him know how you feel. Should help you decide what to do... G

In answer to your question, for me 200,000 dollars and directly going against a promise....worth it? ....probably

Some of us never wise up Naw seriously....Mark is right, a HUGE number of people start out aiming for med or law. I have one story where my main character is a med student (which is something I know a bit about) and his bf is a law student (something I also know a bit about, thx to my bro). For my story I needed a second degree (professional) to match my main character. *shrugs* ...dontcha know, gay people are just smarter and thus end up with higher education levels

Wow...I assume you had no complaint with my argument, since you picked the one part that wasn't the topic and kinda rubbed it in my face there. Is there a reason you 'seem' so bitter? Especially on this topic...? Anyway, moving on. In general I agree with what you just said here. Most people want to feel special and unique and tthus not easily labelled. You are right, its stupid to have someone end up calling themselves a quasi-bi-curious-frappa-choca-latte-whatever. All the more reason that it should be ok to apply 2 simple'labels' if you really want, tht actually fit, instead of limiting people to smaller niches by accepting more words and only allowing one term to describe them. OK, we agree there, but that is way off topic from the gay and asexual discussion. Take care.

[unnecessarily dramatic voice] Can't we all just get along!!! [/unnecessarily dramatic voice]

Good argument, but I hope you don't believe everything wikipedia says. Asexual is not a sexual orientation, but has mistakenly been 'lumped in' with a continuum of attraction (hetero/bi/homosexual). Yes, we can do the definition thing again, but you are failing to put he word in the present day context for which they are used. So by definition: hetero-sexual (different sex), homo-sexual (same sex), bi-sexual (two sex) and finally a-sexual (non sex)...does not directly mean lack of or without, but that is used to express the usage of the word. When you look up asexual in an actual dictionary, there are numerous biological terms I will ignore for simplicity and then there is "Lacking interest in or desire for sex." It is not referring to an orientation at all. Asexual is misinterpreted as an orientation. For arguments sake though, if we take asexual out of the literal translation and wrongly place it in the same context as our other 3 sexual orientations, it does not fit anywhere on the heterosexual-bisexual-homosexual continuum. I know, you would argue this means you can not be both at the same time. This however is a scale of attraction, specifically to the physical form ie 'man' or 'woman'. To that end an asexual either has no attraction to one form over the other (might as well call it bisexual) or would have no attraction to the physical form of either sex. In this context there is no reference once so ever to any attraction other than that of the physical form. It does not say anything about not being attracted to a certain personality or a deep voice or the scent or emotionally or socially or any other factor. Someone could easily align themselves as asexual but still say they are gay because they prefer a guy's personality or his smell or voice or being wrapped in strong arms or even just for familiarity with the sex itself. It is not a double standard at all, the definitions remain the same, you just have to be aware of the context the words are being placed in. In the end it is not up to you to tell someone how they can define themselves anyways. Even if they are grossly misusing the words and their definitions, who cares? Words are a poor substitute to the feelings, emotions and characteristics that make not only us but life up. You should not worry about boxing everything off and categorizing it, especially if in knowing a little bit, you assume you know everything. I for one know that I know nothing, so I'm in no place to tell someone else who they are.

hahaha omg this thread is a disaster. Don't get me wrong, the question is a great one...especially considering the heated argument. I have no clue how this thread wasn't locked with all the personal attack that was going on in here. I've said much less in the past and been censored for it, totally jealous.... Anyway do I think you can be both asexual and gay at the same time? heck ya I do! There was quite a large debate going on about definitions, which to an extent I think detracted from the topic. Sure, I get definitions are an important way for us to communicate but words fail tremendously at explaining the feelings and intents of things a bit more involved than simple text communication. OK though, lets look at the words. Sure gay or homosexual might be referring to a sexual attraction or in my opinion more specifically a sexual orientation, there is no direct implication to the act of sex actually being involved. I totally understand where those very logical arguments were going early on saying that it was sexual, so asexual implied those feelings and desires were not present. Trouble is the same word can be used in more than one way and in doing so express entirely different ideas. This is sometimes a stumbling block of the english language. In a far as the meaning of the word asexual, they are referring to an absence of sex, or more appropriately interest in the physical act. In using the term sexual attraction or sexual orientation, as what gay/homosexual means, you are not referring to the act of sex, but the physical form of the sex, ie 'a man' or 'woman'. In doing so sex as an act does not apply to those terms. In reality I think the intention of sexual orientation refers more to our desire to have an intimate (I'm using intimate here as 'close' not 'sex')relationship with someone of a certain sex (ie a man's over a woman's physical form), but I understand it is truly impossible for some to see past sex in a relationship. For those people being gay may actually mean to them that they want to have sex with those of the same sex, but that is more their interest in a relation ship over what their sexual orientation actually is. Now beyond the definition...I do believe it is possible for the spirit of the two ideas, gay and asexual, to co-exist. Furthermore I believe it is possible to be sexually (ie physically) attracted to someone and yet still have no interest in sex. We are talking about the attraction to a body, a look, a physical form or voice or smell. That attraction does not have any direct implication to the act of sex. You can even engage in sex with another person and still be asexual. The way asexual is actually used is a lack of interest in sex, having sex does not imply interest, just occurrence. For me personally, the things I miss about my last relationship most do not revolve around having sex. I would gladly live my entire life with that person never having sex and still be happy. That being said I'd be even happier having both with him...but I never said I was asexual

Gotta agree with Lacey, Tet and Cam are very cute, and cuter together . Paya and West are also a cute couple. You guys are far from the first tho... For instance, 2 of the admins met through the site, Trebs and DK. They now live together out on the sunny west coast and have a make-shift family going I know robbie (rknapp) and john (Rakuten06) met on GA, haven't heard from either in awhile tho. I met my ex on another site a lot like GA, partially because its creator was a former team member here. I later found out he was a member here too, but was inactive for a couple years. Our official status now is 'complicated' due to long distance issues. I know there have been lots f others, but thats all I got on the top of my head, and I know a few might be best forgotten. ....and also I think half the site is in an e-crush with joey (JSmith)

I'd say 'That's the spirit!' but you might miss my sarcasam...

I don't remember the last time I called a car an auto, that is certainly not usual stateside. There is a lot more wrong with this paragraph than usage of foreign terms. The physics behind this accided is completely impossible and there is no regard for anything medical here either. This is just a story but Dark is right, this information is out there for anyone to look it up. It is called research, which some authors do very well, others not so much. That being said maybe he just wants to enjoy coming up with a story, and you can choose to enjoy it for what it is, or not read it, or better yet, pass your suggestions onto the author and maybe they will make an effort to make their story more accurate Or in other areas like Canada, where it is pop Greg

I think she nailed it I agree with a lot of what has been said so far. To focus on the actual intent of this thread, that being the coherency of forum posts, I think it is a mixed bag. Yes, the point is communication, which would generally make the process of getting your idea across important. On the other hand though it is a casual form of communication and in many ways I look at it more as a conversation. To that end I purposefully will employ incorrect grammar very often so as to mimic the way I actually speak and for that matter think. The spelling, well that is just my fault. In terms of actually being understood, well I may be shooting myself in the foot there but as many have said, life is too short. I don't care if I don't make sense, neither should you, just move on As to a point that has not been addressed yet (and here I can not help put on my old team member hat), being in the 'author' member grouping has nothing to do with any specific qualifications as you have suggested. The Writer Support Team (WST) does not police and test everyone who wants to be in that group. That group is specifically created for anyone who wants to post stories in the eFiction section of the site. Being in the group allows you to do so, and designates you as someone who has posted something to the site. There is no guarantee of coherency placed upon that member by the staff here, there is simply no way they could be expected to 'vet' everyone of them. Well crap, I quoted CJ's post to point out how he uses 'relaxed grammatical standards in dialog', which is what I do in forum posts occasionally. Anyways, I already covered that above, so I won't bore anyone with it again. hahahaha, you are awesome mark!! (I could have used lol there, but didn't want to disturb anyone with that grammatical taboo) Greg This message has been spell check approved.

Death Note is ok. Bleach is good. Naruto is good. The first I ever watched was full metal alchemist, still one of my favs. Enjoy!

One ...and it is flat as a pancake!

Awwww, thanks everyone!! I was actually on call on my birthday, so it was all work. Maybe I'll get around to something fun today.....suggestions? Greg

Happy birthday Eric!!!! hope you had a great day G

We still love you

Hey Nater! Hope you have a very Happy Birthday!!!! Make a wish Greg PS-if you were in Canada you wouldn't need to wait one more year to be fully legal

Congrats on all accounts!

Happy Birthday Myr!!! Greg

Trebs and there were never any doubts about who would take gold. The US did well, and made it a great game. Congrats to TEAM CANADA! Greg <--who is very dressed at the moment

Who do I have to proposition to make this thread disappear? Greg....who is very irked

This entire thread is rediculous...seriously. No one who has posted on here even has any authority (save steve), so its all moot. Chat is open to all members, not just the 'entitled ones' Certain topics are off limits for legal reasons (explicit sex stuff with minors around, drugs...from any age group, etc)...this is to protect the admins, who have some liability, and the site. Most members pick up these limitations quickly and follow them...this shouldn't be a problem. Don't like these issues...then go use MSN or whatever. Wildone is right, members usually do a good job watching each other and giving gentle reminders. This shouldn't be necessary serisously. Why can't ya'll just be adults?! Maybe then it won't be an issue that mods arn't online 24/7. Come on people, share chat and act appropriately. It is a priviledge, not a right....and one that is already a pain in the ass to mods and admins. Maybe it would be nice for us not to make their lives harder...for once??! *waits to be called names* Greg