you will always be individuals ... love never makes you one, neither does marriage or other partnerships, you are always you, but unity comes from your desire to love each other.

best wishes from me... to you both

Don't let fear of losing you hold you back from finding what you could become at the side of someone special. You won't lose who and what you are. Will you change? I hope that you would. I hope whoever you invite into your world pushes, challenges, and lifts you up. I hope they make you smile when you otherwise wouldn't.

Any relationship that requires you to lose yourself to follow in it's wake isn't worth exploring.

But, this doesn't sound like such a thing.

If he's willing to step into the unknown with you ... take the leap, Fae. 🙂

Both Wayne and tim know.  Marriage hasn't changed me except for the better. Loving tim, having him in my life has been the greatest of gifts.  Nothing, and no one is perfect and relationships are work. But they are worth it each and everyday. We have had challenges, pain, sadness, hope, love and joy but it's all better and easier with my partner in my life. 

You will always be you, only better. 

All the best. 

SP is more concerned about loosing himself than I am. It seems he was prone to do that in his younger days.

There is another passage in The Prophet that talks about avoiding true love as leading to an 'unseasoned life'; that you would avoid the lows it can bring, but also the highs. It's where the title for this post comes from, and I wish I had found it when C was so concerned about taking that final leap into a relationship:

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When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.

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But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.