CoTT 2 House of Cards

[Headstall]

Morning, all.   I am still feeling exhausted. No comments from any of you whippersnappers!   

[Sherye Story Reader]

Just now, Headstall said:

Morning, all.   I am still feeling exhausted. No comments from any of you whippersnappers!   

Morning Gary! 

[clochette]

19 minutes ago, Headstall said:

Morning, all.   I am still feeling exhausted. No comments from any of you whippersnappers!   

We'll pretend it's from a good workout my Sexy Lumberjack

[Marty]

32 minutes ago, Headstall said:

Morning, all.

Afternoon, bro.

33 minutes ago, Headstall said:

No comments from any of you whippersnappers!   

So that means I can comment?  

[Albert1434]

Aloha All

[Sherye Story Reader]

3 minutes ago, Albert1434 said:

Aloha All

Aloha Sweet Albert!

[Marty]

9 minutes ago, Albert1434 said:

Aloha All

Greetings, young Albert!

[Drew Espinosa]

Howdy y'all!  

[Headstall]

28 minutes ago, Drew Espinosa said:

Howdy y'all!  

Hi, Drew!  

[Marty]

44 minutes ago, Drew Espinosa said:

Howdy y'all!  

Greetings, wee Drew!

[clochette]

Things are out with the dad situation. He was gone when I woke up at 9.30am. Text later saying he wasn't coming home for lunch. I couldn't refraining myself and text "mom was right". Mom would say she had a feeling the minute she'd passed away that woman would bounce. He only came back home at 6.30pm. When he asked what I meant with my text, a fraction of a second I thought about lying, deflecting the situation, saying it was meant for my brother or something but it needed to be outed and from his face he knew I knew. 

It's not a question of grieving. I'm not stupid, he's only 50 and I knew he'd found someone and not in 10 years. It's a question of whom. This woman  he's seeing is/was a friend of his for years. He met her through his work. They'd text from time to time, he'd help with some housework. She left her husband 2 years ago, just a couple of months before mom was diagnosed. Dad said nothing ever happened as long as mom was alive, that it's not some sort of conspiracy. I believe him. But when you look how things worked out... i just feel like she's been waiting on the side for the spot to be free. He says it's been hard going through mom's stuff this week, seeing old pictures... that he needed a friends and she was there. That she's always been there, helping him, explaining him some stuff of mom's cancer and when his dad was dying (she's an OR nurse) blablabla but he never ever talked to us, to the cancer team, or anyone when I felt like I was all alone holding mom's situation  but he turned to her. Her. I can't help feeling like she's always been there in the shadows. Like I said I knew he'd find someone else and I'd have been happy for him. Really. But anyone but her. I said I never ever want to hear about her, to see her or even worse see her in our house. He said she's feeling bad about this, that she knew mom didn't like her and is anxious about me and my brother. She can only imagine 10% of what I'm feeling about her right now. I don't hate her or him. I don't know her and never want it to change. I just hate that she was there that it had to be her. 

He says he's sorry for disappointing me. I'm not at least I don't think I am. I'm just heartbroken, devastated, feeling both sad, empty and full of angst at the same time. I'm angry at myself for reacting this way and at him for falling for her and at her for being there.

Edited December 29, 2020 by clochette

[clochette]

Oh and my uncle, my mom's brother, just kind of invited himself for the new year's eve this afternoon. I said dad and me had just planned on eating something simple and just lounging.  He said oh it would be too bad to be both alone when we could be together. I'll buy some food gras and meat and at least we can ring in the new year together... oh joy...

[Sherye Story Reader]

1 hour ago, Drew Espinosa said:

Howdy y'all!  

Howdy Drew!

[Sherye Story Reader]

38 minutes ago, clochette said:

Things are out with the dad situation. He was gone when I woke up at 9.30am. Text later saying he wasn't coming home for lunch. I couldn't refraining myself and text "mom was right". He only came back home at 6.30pm. When he asked what I meant with my text, a fraction of a second I thought about lying, deflecting the situation, saying it was meant for my brother or something but it needed to be outed and from his face he knew I knew. 

It's not a question of grieving. I'm not stupid, he's only 50 and I knew he'd found someone and not in 10 years. It's a question of whom. This woman  he's seeing is/was a friend of his for years. He met her through his work. They'd text from time to time, he'd help with some housework. She left her husband 2 years ago, just a couple of months before mom was diagnosed. Dad said nothing ever happened as long as mom was alive, that it's not some sort of conspiracy. I believe him. But when you look how things worked out... i just feel like she's been waiting on the side for the spot to be free. He says it's been hard going through mom's stuff this week, seeing old pictures... that he needed a friends and she was there. That she's always been there, helping him, explaining him some stuff of mom's cancer and when his dad was dying (she's an OR nurse) blablabla but he never ever talked to us, to the cancer team, or anyone when I felt like I was all alone holding mom's situation  but he turned to her. Her. I can't help feeling like she's always been there in the shadows. Like I said I knew he'd find someone else and I'd have been happy for him. Really. But anyone but her. I said I never ever want to hear about her, to see her or even worse see her in our house. He said she's feeling bad about this, that she knew mom didn't like her and is anxious about me and my brother. She can only imagine 10% of what I'm feeling about her right now. I don't hate her or him. I don't know her and never want it to change. I just hate that she was there that it had to be her. 

He says he's sorry for disappointing me. I'm not at least I don't think I am. I'm just heartbroken, devastated, feeling both sad, empty and full of angst at the same time. I'm angry at myself for reacting this way and at him for falling for her and at her for being there.

Sweetie, I am not going to take anyones side. But want to tell you that when my dad found someone else and told our mother he wanted a divorce (they had been separated for 10 years and even though mom lived with him for a year with her trying to get back on her feet while my sister and I was finishing high school), she signed the divorce papers. She had moved out a year before. The lady that our dad married we never liked even though I tolerated her and so did my sister. We always thought she was selfish and wanted our dad to put her first before us. We knew she loved our dad and vise versa. We were happy our dad had someone and we went over there, well I had to cause I lived with them cause of our mom had passed away, but we still was around her. Just be glad your dad wants you around and he loves you and your brother and never stop loving him and spending time with him cause one of these days he may not be around. I did that after my stepmom passed away and my late husband called it Daddy's Day. And he told me the same thing I just told you. Never forget the special times you had with your mom and remember the happy times you had with her and your dad. That way you will always have good memories. Never remember the bad ones cause they will bring you down. Think happy thoughts. Let your dad (like my siblings and I did) have someone to hold at night to comfort him. That is what he is missing. Give him that gift. The Gift Of Love!

Edited December 29, 2020 by Story Reader

[Bucket1]

34 minutes ago, clochette said:

Things are out with the dad situation

[Marty]

38 minutes ago, clochette said:

Things are out with the dad situation. He was gone when I woke up at 9.30am. Text later saying he wasn't coming home for lunch. I couldn't refraining myself and text "mom was right". He only came back home at 6.30pm. When he asked what I meant with my text, a fraction of a second I thought about lying, deflecting the situation, saying it was meant for my brother or something but it needed to be outed and from his face he knew I knew. 

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He says he's sorry for disappointing me. I'm not at least I don't think I am. I'm just heartbroken, devastated, feeling both sad, empty and full of angst at the same time. I'm angry at myself for reacting this way and at him for falling for her and at her for being there.

 

[Headstall]

1 hour ago, clochette said:

Things are out with the dad situation. He was gone when I woke up at 9.30am. Text later saying he wasn't coming home for lunch. I couldn't refraining myself and text "mom was right". Mom would say she had a feeling the minute she'd passed away that woman would bounce. He only came back home at 6.30pm. When he asked what I meant with my text, a fraction of a second I thought about lying, deflecting the situation, saying it was meant for my brother or something but it needed to be outed and from his face he knew I knew. 

It's not a question of grieving. I'm not stupid, he's only 50 and I knew he'd found someone and not in 10 years. It's a question of whom. This woman  he's seeing is/was a friend of his for years. He met her through his work. They'd text from time to time, he'd help with some housework. She left her husband 2 years ago, just a couple of months before mom was diagnosed. Dad said nothing ever happened as long as mom was alive, that it's not some sort of conspiracy. I believe him. But when you look how things worked out... i just feel like she's been waiting on the side for the spot to be free. He says it's been hard going through mom's stuff this week, seeing old pictures... that he needed a friends and she was there. That she's always been there, helping him, explaining him some stuff of mom's cancer and when his dad was dying (she's an OR nurse) blablabla but he never ever talked to us, to the cancer team, or anyone when I felt like I was all alone holding mom's situation  but he turned to her. Her. I can't help feeling like she's always been there in the shadows. Like I said I knew he'd find someone else and I'd have been happy for him. Really. But anyone but her. I said I never ever want to hear about her, to see her or even worse see her in our house. He said she's feeling bad about this, that she knew mom didn't like her and is anxious about me and my brother. She can only imagine 10% of what I'm feeling about her right now. I don't hate her or him. I don't know her and never want it to change. I just hate that she was there that it had to be her. 

He says he's sorry for disappointing me. I'm not at least I don't think I am. I'm just heartbroken, devastated, feeling both sad, empty and full of angst at the same time. I'm angry at myself for reacting this way and at him for falling for her and at her for being there.

Oh, god, this is so tough for you, Clo. My heart goes out to you. I won't stick up for your dad, but I suspect he's afraid... afraid of being left behind and afraid of being alone, afraid of hurting his kids... 

I hope your family can get past this somehow, dear sweet Clochette. This is an awful time of year to be feeling the way you are... maybe talking to your brother will help.    

[Page Scrawler]

2 hours ago, Drew Espinosa said:

Howdy y'all!  

Hey, Cutie Pi! 

 

@clochette 

[Albert1434]

I am making a meat sauce for spaghetti

   

Edited December 29, 2020 by Albert1434

[Sherye Story Reader]

1 minute ago, Albert1434 said:

I am making a meat sauce for spaghetti

That made me hungry for spaghetti and meatsauce. My dad's recipe. And I have already ate. Thanks a lot! lol

[Marty]

6 minutes ago, Albert1434 said:

I am making a meat sauce for spaghetti

Spoiler

  Looks yummy!

Either lock the door, or make an extra portion.

'Cos I reckon Sherye will be hightailing it over to your gaff once she sees what you're making.

 

Edited December 29, 2020 by Marty
typo

[Sherye Story Reader]

2 minutes ago, Marty said:

 

I would probably do that then I would move in with you, @Marty! Just kidding. I couldn't resist! lol

[Sherye Story Reader]

I was/am reading Sidewinder and my phone went off and scared the bejeebies out of me. I thought good grief, phone, you trying to scare me out of my skin? I jumped almost out of my chair. I was so into my reading that I forgot where I was. I was into Coy and Boone looking at the land they loved and might buy.

[Sherye Story Reader]

11 minutes ago, Story Reader said:

I was/am reading Sidewinder and my phone went off and scared the bejeebies out of me. I thought good grief, phone, you trying to scare me out of my skin? I jumped almost out of my chair. I was so into my reading that I forgot where I was. I was into Coy and Boone looking at the land they loved and might buy.

Gary, that made you happy when I posted that, didn't it?

Edited December 29, 2020 by Story Reader

[Page Scrawler]

I'm making taco grilled cheese sandwiches for dinner.