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Whhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaat???? LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

I have the capacity for a lotta things, not that I'm bringing attention to any of them or the lack of them in someone else. Cuz that part didn't need a response. Of course. I agree with all of that and it could be interesting to point em out in contrast to the black & white top/bottom idea. But something could just be said about the specific act of bottoming and topping and why each is viewed differently with different respects and my original response to the thread was just me giving my thoughts on why bottoming is "looked down on".

It escaped me where he claimed he had perfect writing skills. I'm a writer...of a lotta things...I don't have good grammar. J. Boob. me is. ** Peanut #%# butter. Was that funny as well? And it's not as if he was publishing an article in some global news report so it kinda just goes over my head what you're getting of on. Yes, yes, yes, labels = bad/unnecessary/incorrect/whatever, not everyone falls into categories and it's bad to generalize yada yada but for the sake of talking about idea, the idea could be, well, talked about and I don't think this incapable of producing a good discussion.

It's not about how much you enjoy it, it's about power. Bottoming is a submissive position and when you're submitting yourself to the "authority" of another (the top), it's easier to be viewed as the weaker of the two. Another thing is that there seems to be a whole lot more bottoms than tops out there (I may be wrong, but it just really seems that way) and when you have this sea of bottoms waiting for one top to do them, it's harder to see the quality in any of them. If that is true, then it becomes the problem that the bottoms are more eager to give themselves up cuz of they're in surplus and that little heightened desperation decreases their attractiveness.

You totally missed Neph's joke.

fried chiken

I have nuts

Happy birthday DREWBERT! = )

If his fingers are wrapped around your fingers, then how can they be wrapped around..... oh wait, I forgot the other hand. Carry on

Damn....your blog is still showing up...that feature needs some work. kidding

Happy birthday K!!!!

If it was a story with characters name Eros and Yang Bang, I'd want sex on every page

I don't know, that seems a little much. The thing my mom use to always say (mostly in jest) is that she doesn't need my dad but we are together as a family because we want to be, not because we need to be and I always thought that's something that makes us work so well. So that whole bit of "I feel empty without him/her" or "I don't feel complete without him/her" I'm not sure that's really love. At least not long term. To me, that's more of a desperate craving than selfless love. The minute you start relying on someone to make you feel something, you throw yourself away. Don't undervalue independence. Love is an addition, not a replacement to life, and when I end up with someone, it'll be because I want to, not need to.

I have two. One of them is named David. It's an inside joke and kinda ridiculous.

Happy birthday Chia.

Or does Justin Bieber look like lesbians?

Soooooo.....you're the woman in your avatar right?

are you in drag?

I'm not much for either the Xbox 360 or PS3 but I've long been a Sony fan starting with the original playstation so I pick that. Although...Ninento has released some of the funnest games I've ever played at a kid. Pokemon, Mario everything, Zelda.

Happy Steveday!

You should go because it's only two days of school, you can easily make up the work esp if you ask about it ahead of time, and Jason Mraz is awesome...........or...........you shouldn't go because school's more important than a concert that's most likely not a once in a lifetime experience like you dramatically put. In other words, do what you want. No one else would know your study habits, stakes, and aptitude. You're a grad student, you prolly (should) know how to balance your own work/play by now.

Oh the subject matter's long forgotten, I just happened to see that it was on the top of the lounge page.

What a misleading thread title

You've raised one of the most difficult questions one can ask himself when presented with a similar situation but I think you handled the situation well. I often wonder how people with authority come up with the will to exercise their power when it affects so many lives and I wonder if I'll be able to do it if I were given the decision to make. Unfortunately my inexperience gives me no insight into myself. However, I'm inclined to accept that in most cases, there really isn't room for much emotion in business, especially if business is to be conducted efficiently. Not saying you must be an ass, but there is only so much you could do and while it's nice to express sympathy/empathy to those in desperation, there's sometimes nothing within your power to prevent it. Every person's gain is another's loss. When you hire someone, you're rejecting another applicant, when you give someone something, you are not giving it to someone else, that's the reality of a world of limited resources and the best you can hope for is that your difficult decision will be taken well and understood without a feeling of personal attachment. I suppose as an employee, it's to his or her benefit to understand that this decision making process is not an easy one and one that must be made. On the other hand as an employer, it may be your benefit to extend genuine care, in a professional manner of course, but without it leaving you with a lingering feeling of despair. As long as you can recognize the impact of your actions and handle the situation appropriately, there's no reason to beat yourself over it. If you watch The Office, there was an episode in Season 1 where Michael contended for the entire duration of the episode on who to let go in the office. Ultimately he came to a decision but it was met with rebuttal by the person he layed off and he was kinda hurt by having to hurt someone else. Your attachment to your humanity is a good thing, and I encourage you to seek more understanding of who you are and what you plan to do with yourself. However an unyielding grip can prevent you from achieving greater things. Hopefully you'll be able to come to a steady compromise.