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You have received some really excellent advice here and there really isn't much I can add to it. I definitely think these are the three key points: -Give him some time -Do eventually express your feelings -Respect and accept his feelings Another angle though, would it help to talk about the sex? (No, I'm not asking for juicy details, I mean with him!) It might make you feel better and it might also be a really good opportunity to broach the subject and possibly find out how he feels. Having sex with friends is bound to be an emotional experience. If you think it's at all possible or appropriate I'd recommend talking about it. You don't have to tell him you're in love with him, maybe just tell him that because you care about it him it was a very meaningful experience for you. Maybe tell him how you feel about it in general? Good luck -Kevin

That's an awesome and beautiful story, J.Ross! Thank you so much for sharing it with us! You know, I think there are several straight ladies here at GA who could be such mothers if so called upon I think that's a wonderful idea, Mattie! Thanks again for the great story! -Kevin

No snow for you either, huh Jovian? Eh, we'll experience it soon enough I suppose. I've been in mild snow before, but never anything notable. Certainly not "blankets of snow" style snow.

I actually did consider that! I ended up deciding to just move my room around - which was fun and helpful in and of itself - so that my bed is directly in front of a window.

Aww thanks, Dion! Actually that's good advice. I used to take a Vitamin D supplement. Probably should start again.

That's very true about the Texan spring; it is right around the corner

Thanks Tob Well, I've never had the joy of walking in a snow-covered field. That does sound lovely though!

Hey Steve, aww That's really sweet of you I am feeling better, thanks

Hmm, how fascinating, disconcerting and fascinating.

Great chapter, very action packed for both storylines! I'm curious about why the general felt it was important to rotate the plane. Hmm, perhaps he's OCD and it would have really bothered him to die in an askew aircraft. With that volcano brewing it looks like things are heating up for everyone!

Very cool feature, CJ! I had fun playing with it! OK, am I the only one who thought Jansen misread what Eric was saying? It seemed more like a poor choice of words - which was only poor because of what was going on in Jansen's head in the first place - than a proclamation of casual intent. So far their relationship has been set up to look like it's going to be serious. Jon pointed out that Eric had never looked at anyone like that before. Much has been mentioned about how much Eric cares about Jansen (and Keith of course), and primarily Eric has expressed his dissatisfaction over his casual hook-up lifestyle. Didn't he even say to Jon that he was considering a relationship? (Maybe not I could be wrong, maybe Jon only asked him, or maybe they only hinted at it, or maybe I misread it completely.) To me Eric wasn't saying "I want to try sex with guys with you." He was saying, "I want to try being in a relationship with you." Both are new to Eric, and he does need to 'try' them, so it's understandable that he could mean to say one and the other be interpreted, but I didn't think for even a minute that he was telling Jansen he only wanted to experiment. Think about the way it was written. CJ set the stage by commenting on the pure emotion between them, and how Eric was aware of that. I don't think Eric was expressing his desire for a hook-up at all. Jansen just interpreted it that way because his guard was up and because Keith planted that idea in his head. Anyway, great chapter, CJ! In fact it was obviously a huge turning point in both the story lines! Take care all, Kevin

What a bastard!

Just for kicks so did I. It's been three years but I gotta say it stayed pretty constant. My current results: My old results: So back then I was about 8% more extroverted, 3% more intuitive, 4% more feeling, and and about 5% less perceiving. All in all I guess that means I got a bit more moderate. Current results: Old results It's worth noting that both my old "actualized" and "preferred" Perceiving-Judging scores were 50% and they randomly chose the letters. This time I seem to way more firmly perceiving in general. Current results: Old results: So pretty much the same. What I said back then: That's still pretty much exactly true and exactly what I was thinking three years later when I was re-doing the test (without first finding this old post). Fascinating. -Kevin

Welcome to the site Iarwain, I'm sorry things have been so rough in your area and I'm glad it looks like the major threat is over. Take care and good luck, Kevin

Happy Birthday, Aaron

Welcome to the site!

Exactly!

Awww, I'm glad you could be there for her and I hope she and the hubby are able to work things out or else move on in positive directions. Yay about your successful opening! Now try to rest and get some sleep so you're ready for the next 2am visitor

I can definitely see your point, it just isn't quite the same stance I have. It's certainly not the opposite of my position either though. As I said, I'm just pretty much neutral on this topic.

If I can just make it through winter I'll be fine. Winters are always the hardest for me. I know it doesn't seem like I've had a particularly difficult winter based on my recent blog posts, and indeed I really haven't, but nevertheless, winters are the toughest. Februarys especially are tough. I'm usually still riding on my fall energy until February. After February things start to come back to life. But in February...well I'm done. No more energy, harder to keep perspective, harder to keep looking forward to spring. As someone with a psychology degree I've often wondered whether or not I had S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). I don't think I do, at least not a clinical case, I think it's too mild. I can usually cheer up, gather up more energy, call from somewhere inside of me for a bit more juice. Nevertheless, I just get so frickin' tired of the death and coldness. I do associate winter with death. The trees are all bare and the flowers are dead. Which is just f**king ugly and depressing as far as I'm concerned. I had an argument about this with Scott recently. Evidently he likes it because he feels like they're being more honest and exposing their core and vulnerability. Yeah whatever, I can see the symbolism in his point, but as far as I'm concerned they're ugly and dead, and I'd feel better not having their lifeless corpses standing around. Of course I know they'll come back in the spring, so I'm not really advocating cutting them all down, but as far as the way it looks and the emotional reaction is has on me I'd much whether no tree at all than a tree without leaves and flowers. It's so gray and drab too. It's like everything takes on this dull husk. The buildings and streets even seem less vibrant, and there's so much less sunshine. It's really bad when it rains. Nothing is more depressing than a rainy day in winter. Sometimes, usually for the earlier months of the season, I fancy myself a sort of flower, a touch of colour and life in an otherwise barren wasteland (melodramatic huh?). By February though I feel like I'm dying too. I've always associated winter with death. I grew up with contact with a farm. When it came to the older, or weaker animals the speculation was always "Do you think it'll make it through another winter?" I always feel like I get older in the winter. I feel like I'm fine for the other months, but I always seem to lose a little more life and vitality in the winter. A little something extra always seems to fade out. It has been a fairly good winter. I've stayed positive, stayed alive. I've tried to stay busy, tried to be productive. But damn I'm ready for the spring. This past week has been the hardest. I feel like I've been in a daze this past week. I didn't fight it much this week. Last week I still had the energy. I made a point of fixing myself up and wearing bright colours, even on my day off. This week I more or less gave up. It was just too hard to keep struggling so I went numb and lost the week. I really don't know where it went. I feel like it was completely wasted and now it's just gone. I need March, or better yet April. I need reprieve from the gray. Today was a rainy winter day.

Oh my! and I try so hard to avoid that Vic, it sounds like you've got a pretty healthy and positive attitude going, and I know you might not be overly confident in my prophesying ability, but let me take a stab at it just to help allay your concern: "I predict that in five years you'll be living happily every after with the love of your life." Now go be happy! -Kevin

Woo HOOO!! That's awesome, Tim! Congrats

Hey Tim I hope it didn't feel like I was minimizing your bad experience. I'm really sorry you got hurt, and as I said there is a lot of wisdom in your advice. All I meant to do was express my own, different, opinion. I hope I did so in a way that was respectful of yours and sensitive to your feelings. If I didn't then I'm very sorry. Take care and have a great day -Kevin

Looking forward to another three years!

I was thinking of Northstar myself. Haha, Gotta love Rage and JT!