My first thought was 'What's he talking about? This makes perfect sense', and then it occured to me that I've been with his nibs so long that I automatically understand his phrasing. I read that sentence and my brain sees this:
It occurred to me that as hard as I tried to do what he wanted during sex (verbally stroke his ego {Oh baby, big bick, yada yada} and, not that it wasn’t fun to do that, or a lot of effort to do that, but I did try to make him happy by doing what he likes), so he was trying now, after we were done, to make me feel satisfied by using tender gestures and not throwing his clothes on and running out of the room.
You don't see the red bits in your head, too? My bad.
Good point.