I'm not a gay male, but bisexual female. There's times that I hate my body because my hubby has the genes that keep him slim, muscular, and at 62 turns 30 year old heads. I'm very me. At 54, I were jeans everyday, boots, and t shirts or sweat shirts. My weight flucuates all the time. I've never been bigger than a ten or smaller than a five. Who cares? He just wants me healthy. Surprisingly, both sexes seem to gravitate toward my laid back, don't care if I'm sexy or not image. so, I think happiness with your self image sends out a message to those around you. JMO