Kitt

Wade is angry with Matt over so much more than the one aborted conversation about grad school. You cannot look at one specific incident and make sweeping assumptions. The conversation you sighted that "didn't take place" is a symptom of the much bigger problems they have.

I think much more important than what school Matt wants to go to would be his ability to see Reilly. Romantic relationships can and do survive distance and separate schools if the people want to make it work. His son, on the other hand, is a completely different situation. One I can easily see resolved by Wade being accepted to Stanford Law, ranked #3 in the country behind Yale and Harvard. Would be a step up from the school in DC he was considering in this chapter, presents the least upheaval in both his life and his sons, and keeps him close to his extended family and his newest brother.

I seem to remember a big discussion between Matt and Wade a while back. I can't remember if it was at the end of Millennium or early in Paternity, but Wade was less than thrilled with Matt's promiscuity. He had agreed to the no strings sex, but I got the impression at that point it was because he sensed if he pushed a more traditional relationship he might lose Matt. They later amended the agreement to allow one to label someone off limits if they thought the person a threat to the relationship. I hardly think it unreasonable for Wade to expect that Matt would eventually outgrow this need to party like a rock star. It has been said, both here and in reviews, that Wade is being self centered in planning his graduate education without taking what Matt wants into consideration, and that he in fact refused to listen to Matt in the truck on the way home. That is very hard to do when one is being shut out of someones life every time they turn around. For weeks now Matt has been pushing Wade away, wanting nothing to do with planning a future. This started long before 911 so lets not blame it on grief. I'll admit, grief isn't helping anything, but this started a long while back. Now that Wade has hit his limit, it's him being inconsiderate of his lovers feelings? I have always thought people who decided what school to attend based on where a friend or significant other goes to be somewhat short sighted. If all the other factors are equal, comparable curriculum and reputations etc., then by all means chose the school your lover goes to. But if it comes to a choice between a really good school for your chosen career, and one that may be great for your lover but only acceptable for you, you would be compromising both your futures to choose the latter. Not all schools can be great for everyone. Harvard may be a great law school, but MIT would be better for someone looking at technology wouldn't it? Matt may not be Harvard material, but then, Wade may not be an appropriate student at what ever grad school Matt chooses.

I can't help but see the Hayes legacy of self destruction wandering back into the story again. Jeff lost his battle with heroin. He may have realized at the end just how much he was hurting JP and the rest of the family, but didn't have the personal fortitude to fix things. In several stories Robbie was so self destructive it almost cost him his relationship with both Brad and Will, and in spite of everyone smacking him upside the head he plowed on thinking he was completely in the right. It took something as horrid as one of his sons being molested before he pulled his head out of his ass and started to repair relationships. He had finally made it back to a good place and 9.11 struck. Now I see Matt in similar self destructive behaviors, refusing to listen to the people around him and plowing on thinking he is in the right. Will it take something equally as disastrous to get his attention?

Seems the battle lines have been drawn. It appears Matt has little intention of changing things, Frank seems to have decided Will is the enemy and will apparently support Matt, Wade has decided he needs to do what is right for his own future academically, and poor JP is going to be stuck square in the middle. Seems things will get much worse before they get better. The only bright spot I see at the moment is Frank coming back to life. For a reasonably uneventful chapter as CAP goes, it was pretty full of drama, although I can't say any of it was unexpected. Enjoyable as always! Thank You

Is that why my husband still keeps me around after 35 yrs?

Don't be sorry! Extreme situations beget extreme reactions. It makes perfect sense to me that one should consider all the things that go into the decisions before trying to judge them.

Be even nicer if who he dated wasn't something to be thought about at all. Does dating a gal make him any better a kicker than dating a guy? Don't think so!

Perhaps it is a good thing for your niece that they are out of your price range. Can you imagine the therapy bills your sibling would end up with?

Or if they had the chance. Hard to reel him in from destruction of a Ferrari after the fact.

I am sure being fiercely independent and having strong family ties are NOT exclusive. It's why so many parents and children get along better once they are living in separate homes, not because of some upheaval but because it was simply time for the children to fly the nest. Oh, Will makes many rash decisions. That is not to say he doesn't think better of some of them once he calms down. As entertaining as I found the power miter saw and Gucci shoes, it wasn't what I would call a well thought out response to the situation. The flight to Hawaii and keeping a low profile, giving things time to cool off and taking time to think things through, much better.

I say do all three! Hang in there Andy. It's people like you help us get through the chemo and the rest!

I'm not sure I am ready to accept the idea that Will isn't into family the way you say. I will give you that he is trying fiercely to view himself as independent. You site his running away and subsequent emancipation. But he not only came back, but is living at Escorial. I know a few people who were emancipated as teens. The first thing they did was to find work and living arrangements as far from the family as they could. They viewed the emancipation as a divorce from family and bad situations. Will appears to me to want more control over decisions in his life. In any other family that could have been obtained in other ways, but as controlling as Brad can be I think it took something as drastic as the emancipation to start the ball rolling. I am sure some will say its just Will wanting his cake and to eat it too, and to a point I can agree with that, but wouldn't we all do just that if we could?

The problem with "abstinence only" sex ed is its unrealistic. There are a lot of unwanted pregnancies with the "just say no" method!

A failing of mine. But then - I never claimed to be an author. As long as I don't miss that when editing,,,

I don't think so when you consider how many people the family has lost to aids. Sometimes things just resonate. The lack of condom use lately really says something considering how careful Will has been with most of his liaisons Supreme effort and lots of notebook paper? .

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I was pleasantly surprised to see you begin posting so soon after requesting editorial support! I can't wait for the coming postings!

Tim's comments were comprehensive and quite true. He left out though the tendency for people here to assume things. I don't look french, so I must not speak french. I am obviously not deaf, so why would I be fluent in sign language?

Rocky is so much more fun at a midnight showing tho! I can't believe they still do that. I remember seeing it the first time in a run down movie house just off campus in '79.

That it might, more so since Tim's opinion of Mendoza being predatory seems to have been confirmed by his own mother and that chef. I'm curious - was that a family owned restaurant? Momma seemed awful tight with the chef and he seemed very familiar with Mendoza's...dating habits.

Hubby and I argued about adding hot sauce. We finally agreed to stick basically to your recipe the first try and experiment later. Something tells me it will be like my meat loaf, a little different every time.

And just what is a "silent disco"? Has been a long time but as I recall, disco's were fairly loud back in the day.

"Sister Mary Masochist" I love it! I had forgotten just how much of a dictator nuns could be! Dan had a narrow escape from the flour bag. Smart man bringing dinner with him. Any of us with children have been in the forced to bake position, usually more than once. Peter actually handled it rather well! Great story Wayne. I giggled through most of it.