Kevin, you sound sensible, polite, and pragmatic to me.
If the "spark" isn't there, It ISN'T there, and pretending it is would only hurt you and whomever you were with.
I think you come across as kind and considerate, otherwise you wouldn't be worried at all about this stuff.
Well, ok, there was ONE very weird and strange thing in your post:
Dude, is it really good to spend that much time at Walmart?
<running and hiding before Kevin sees this...>
CJ (Who is allergic to shopping)