Wayne's Poems - 21. Dad

I hear this often, but I do not know what to say, other than I'm sorry. 

Thank you for sharing. I know it costs to do so, but I'm glad you have. 

When you first shared this with me, i wanted to encourage you to post it.  I thought better of it knowing you'd do so when it was okay. Fathers have a such huge impact on us ... they can hurt us like no other. Many of us spend a lifetime, even after they are gone, trying to earn their love.

Thank you, Wayne xoxo

14 minutes ago, MichaelS36 said:

I hear this often, but I do not know what to say, other than I'm sorry. 

Thank you for sharing. I know it costs to do so, but I'm glad you have. 

Thank you.

The thing is, I actually expected less of him when I said the words. I expected to be rejected entirely. But he'd had years to suspect, and I'm sure he already knew. I never should have accepted this barely tolerated stance, but it was the best I could have hoped for at that time.

It costs. But my hope is that it will help others know they're not alone in their struggles with family.

3 minutes ago, Wayne Gray said:

Thank you.

The thing is, I actually expected less of him when I said the words. I expected to be rejected entirely. But he'd had years to suspect, and I'm sure he already knew. I never should have accepted this barely tolerated stance, but it was the best I could have hoped for at that time.

It costs. But my hope is that it will help others know they're not alone in their struggles with family.

I hope getting it out helps others and you. I am very lucky in that my whole family was accepting of me and now my nephew. Me being me, really didn't care what anyone thought, I was going to be me, no matter what. And on the night I told them, my parents smiled and said, "Be the man we brought you up to be."  I think, except for the odd occasion [a broom and my mother, was involved] I've done that. 

19 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

When you first shared this with me, i wanted to encourage you to post it.  I thought better of it knowing you'd do so when it was okay. Fathers have a such huge impact on us ... they can hurt us like no other. Many of us spend a lifetime, even after they are gone, trying to earn their love.

Thank you, Wayne xoxo

I thought about it right away, but I did need time to let it roll about in my mind. Your letting me know about WolfM's work, and his poem about his family helped too.

Thanks, tim. 🙂

9 minutes ago, MichaelS36 said:

I hope getting it out helps others and you. I am very lucky in that my whole family was accepting of me and now my nephew. Me being me, really didn't care what anyone thought, I was going to be me, no matter what. And on the night I told them, my parents smiled and said, "Be the man we brought you up to be."  I think, except for the odd occasion [a broom and my mother, was involved] I've done that. 

You are so lucky, that's true. Awareness of it is good, and you have that. It helps you to appreciate what you have in those who love you, tim and your nephew.

I'm happy for you, and anybody who doesn't have to live through choosing to be themselves or to hang on to people who love them only because of a lie. Because there's no winning in that decision.

Very powerful and touching @Wayne Gray

19 minutes ago, spyke said:

Very powerful and touching @Wayne Gray

Thanks, spyke. I'm glad it spoke to you.