[DomLuka] I Need a hug......

[Davey]

I was in London on friday for a job interview...... They called today to tell me they want me to go back for a second one. Im scared now......

Ive lived all my life in a village with like 100 people I know everyone and they all know me. I came out here two years ago everyone was great even my rents. Now I might be moving to a huge city with millions of people..... Like I said Im scared and I need a hug. My bf isnt about just now to give me one

I think im going to cry im so nervous...

 

Dave

 

xxxx

[Rocketcnj]

You've got it, Dave ...

 

<<<<<<HUG>>>>>>

 

If it makes you feel better to have company, there are a lot of us making some big life changes right now. I'm seriously considering a cross-country move away from the place I've lived all my life. Pretty challenging, since it'll be entirely new people, places, etc. I guess the question is, is it something you really want?

 

Just remember, fear is the same thing as excitement, physiologically (physical body reactions.) It's just the way you look at the situation that makes it one or the other.

 

Kitty

 

P.S. Keep us posted. And keep breathing. (I tend to hold my breath when I get anxious, which doesn't help too much ).

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Dave, I am adding my post to Kitty's since I do the same thing she does...I forget to breath when I get anxious and if one thing falls apart, I find a chain reaction.....I made some big changes for me in the last few years and it took quite an adjustment and was slow in developing...and like Kitty, I have decided when I make that final long term move its likely to be on the other side of the country or even Canada or Europe...but that will be big for me too...so lots of hugs Dave....and maybe your BF may decide to join you....and don't forget to check the GLBT center in London and as I recall Boy Needs Therapy lives in London....so, if he is reading this I bet he will give you a Hug in person if you make a connection with him....and with that he can give you advice on where to live, etc..I bet the GLBT Center in London has all sorts of support groups, housing help, etc.....

 

and there is the internet to do research:)

 

and those of us across the Pond can give you lots of hugs and encouragement and cheers that you will be able to succeed and hold you hand, wipe the tears and tell you to remember to breath:)

 

Michael

[reapersharvest]

Make it an even two: **hug**

 

I can tell you as someone on the other side of the Atlantic; city life grows on you.

[Mark Arbour]

I was in London on friday for a job interview...... They called today to tell me they want me to go back for a second one. Im scared now......

Ive lived all my life in a village with like 100 people I know everyone and they all know me. I came out here two years ago everyone was great even my rents. Now I might be moving to a huge city with millions of people..... Like I said Im scared and I need a hug. My bf isnt about just now to give me one 

I think im going to cry im so nervous...

 

Dave 

 

xxxx

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Hey Dave,

 

Change is always tough, but it usually represents opportunity. I can only tell you what I'd do. In situations like this, I try to maintain as positive an outlook as I can. If you're considering moving to London for a job, it must be a good job, no? How exciting is that? There's a great big world out there full of really cool things. You can look at this as your chance to reach out and grab them!

The other thing to keep in mind that London is a really awesome city. There's so much to do...art, history, the Queen, drag queens, drama queens...what more could you want? More important, my experience with big cities is that there are smaller communities formed within them, whether it's a borough, a neighbourhood, or a building. With luck you'll find a group that feels as intimate as your home town.

Plus there's lots of hot guys there.

[NaperVic]

Dave,

 

Congrats on getting a 2nd interview, hopefully you get an offer!

 

 

Question, will your bf/so be moving with you if you go?

 

 

Take Care,

 

 

Vic

[lagomorph]

I agree that London is a great city. I wasn't there long, but I never wanted to leave. I'm looking to move to a bigger city right now, and if you had told me 5 years ago I'd be saying that, I'd have laughed in your face. The first time I came to a city I nearly got run over by a car. But I think change is good. You never know what you can do until you just go for it.

 

Val

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

*hug* Moving's always scary, I did the reverse thing to what you may be doing though (oh yeah, check out that grammar...) I moved from the second biggest city in England, to the middle of no where in West Virginia. It's scary at first but really you'll probably adjust to it, if it happens. I mean, you'll be busy at first with working and moving and time really does fly when you're busy so before you know it you'll be settled in without even realising it. At least that's how it happened for me. Of course I moved back here after my gap year, so I can't speak for how things will work long term.

 

Boy Needs Therapy lives in London

Actually I live in a city in the north of England, my uni's here and I couldn't afford to live in London atm.

[reapersharvest]

I agree that London is a great city. I wasn't there long, but I never wanted to leave. I'm looking to move to a bigger city right now, and if you had told me 5 years ago I'd be saying that, I'd have laughed in your face. The first time I came to a city I nearly got run over by a car. But I think change is good. You never know what you can do until you just go for it.

 

Val

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NOthing could tear me away from NYC, not even when I amlost got run over by a limo in front of the Pierre while trying to wedge myself into a cab. A luxurious way to die.

[Mark Arbour]

I moved from the second biggest city in England, to the middle of no where in West Virginia. It's scary at first but really you'll probably adjust to it, if it happens.

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Well, there's moving to London, then there's moving to West Virginia. The first is like checking into a Ritz Carlton, the latter is like checking into a Motel 6. For those of you who don't know what those US hotels are like, keep in mind that many of the people on Jerry Springer come from West Virginia.

 

So Ben, what was the biggest culture shock/event you experienced when you moved to WV?

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

So Ben, what was the biggest culture shock/event you experienced when you moved to WV?

 

Oh gosh, where to begin...umm, the fact that almost everyone was scarily religious, the fact that crap is a swear word, that it's at least half an hour to everywhere, or the fact that everyone denies that gayness exists there and yet, I was friends with a guy who was regularly blowing several other guys in a disused part of his school, and I myself was at one point having a relationship with a guy, all be it a rather illicit one that I'm not overly proud of now...

Edited May 24, 2005 by BoyNeedsTherapy

[lagomorph]

Ben,

 

Having spent the first 18 years of my life in WV, I feel your pain. You also cracked me up. That half hour to everywhere comment is great. I lived an hour and a half from the nearest walmart until I was 13 or so, and then they built one that was only 45 minutes away.

 

Val

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

Apart from going back to my parents house, no where that I go on a regular basis is more than 15 minutes away (most places are only 5-10minutes, but there's a great shopping place 15 minutes away, lol)...I walk almost everywhere I ever want to go...I love being in the city.

 

What part of WV were you in Val, if you don't mind me asking?

[lagomorph]

Ben,

 

I'm from Logan County, in the southwest part of the state. Coal mining country.

 

Val

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

Really? I wasn't actually too far from there, just a few counties sorta north, near the Ohio river.

[Davey]

Man you folks are great!

To answer a few of your questions. The job im going for is in the retail field its buying for a major food retailer. hence why im even considering this! Chris (bf) is from London origanlly his folks moved north about ten years ago, so if I get this he wants to come with me. I love him to bits and I know he'll be there to support me, if times get hard emotionally either way on how this goes. Its still scary but thanks to your comments im felling better! Still its 4:40am here and I cant slepp LOL!

 

Time to go to my current job and ask for a few days off again!

 

Love you Guys

 

Dave

xxx

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

It sounds like a great opportunity even if it does involve a big move. I'm glad your bf will be going with you, things will be much less scary that way. Oh, and I too am part of the no sleep brigade, lol, we could have badges or something

[Davey]

It sounds like a great opportunity even if it does involve a big move. I'm glad your bf will be going with you, things will be much less scary that way. Oh, and I too am part of the no sleep brigade, lol, we could have badges or something

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I want a badge!

Oooh maybe we could start a new no sleep club!

[reapersharvest]

I've given up on sleep for the most part. It's midnight here and I have to get up at 6:30.

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

Oooh maybe we could start a new no sleep club!

Oooh we should, I'd like that, lol. My other half might not approve, but y'know, you date an insomniac and this is what you get. Well, what he gets is me knocking over lamps at four am and me complaining when it takes me 10 minutes to get a chocolate bar out of the packet (if you try to make it go out of the open end that process will happen a *lot* quicker btw ) Ah well, he'll get his revenge by waking up at 7am, and waking me up too, when I will have hopefully had some sleep.

 

Ben

Edited May 24, 2005 by BoyNeedsTherapy

[Rocketcnj]

*hug* Moving's always scary, I did the reverse thing to what you may be doing though (oh yeah, check out that grammar...) I moved from the second biggest city in England, to the middle of no where in West Virginia. It's scary at first but really you'll probably adjust to it, if it happens. I mean, you'll be busy at first with working and moving and time really does fly when you're busy so before you know it you'll be settled in without even realising it. At least that's how it happened for me. Of course I moved back here after my gap year, so I can't speak for how things will work long term.

 

Boy Needs Therapy lives in London

Actually I live in a city in the north of England, my uni's here and I couldn't afford to live in London atm.

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Ah..and silly me, I thought you lived in London...well, I am sure its an expensive place...just like NYC..in any event, we all hope our Dave will be fine and since Dave's BF goes with him..that will help:)

 

and from one insomniac to another...I just read your post about eating chocolate and now you just made me hungry....yummy chocolate:)

 

and um Ben, since your blond natural hair is coming through..i say, save the dye and keep it natural blond..I bet its cool....and me with my buzz cut, well easy to maintain but also not much there any way) I admire any one with a beautiful head of hair:)

 

Michael

Edited May 24, 2005 by Rocketcnj

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

and from one insomniac to another...I just read your post about eating chocolate and now you just made me hungry....yummy chocolate:)

 

and um Ben, since your blond natural hair is coming through..i say, save the dye and keep it natural blond..I bet its cool....and me with my buzz cut, well easy to maintain but also not much there any way) I admire any one with a beautiful head of hair:)

 

Lol, I always eat in the middle of the night, so I try not to buy too many snack things so I have to eat fruit or something else healthy, but after a pretty stressful day I decided that chocolate was necessary, lol.

 

And I think I might leave my hair like this, I mean, it's not so bad being blonde, and I know that my bf prefers it like that, not that he'd ever say so in so many words.

 

Ben

[Davey]

Ok so this day is just getting weird...

 

I just got a call from the guys who are doing the interview. Seems there in Scotland today and tommrow visiting suppliers, and have asked if Iwould like to move my interview forward to save any travel. There heading north as I type. Ok so now im shitting myself! Im going to Inverness this afternoon when I get off work to meet them its an hours drive each way so I won't even have time to change after work. Can you tell im nervous cause im just rambling on here f*ck f*ck f*ck.

Oh well when you guys next hear from me it'll all be over.....

 

Love to you all

From A VERY scared Dave

xxxx

[BoyNeedsTherapy]

Good Luck Dave!!

[Davey]

I didn't get the job

I got a better one

they told me I need more experience on the shop floor so they offered me the Managers postion of the store the interview was in. Its a huge tesco extra store I guess to you stateside guys its like a walmart size store.

Chris is ecstatic seems he doesn't really want to go back to London but would have If I had gone (I think I love him more for that! ) Its a massive payrise loads more resonsibility but the best part is we decided im moving into chris's flat there. Im so happy just now I could burst.

 

Thank you all for you encouragement and kind words

 

I love you all

 

Dave

[sat8997]

Dave

 

Congratulations !!!!

 

And Chris definately sounds like a 'keeper'.

 

Sharon