Yuki Winchestor Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 does anal sex hurt when it happens? 1 Link to comment
Site Administrator Cia Posted March 23, 2011 Site Administrator Share Posted March 23, 2011 Well that's a blunt question. Honestly, just about anyone can answer it though Not just gay guys. The short answer is, if you're not careful, yes. Even then for some people it always hurts a little, at least at first. Some say it doesn't hurt at all. Depends on you and your partner, I guess. Lubricants are very helpful, the slippery-er the better. Usually if you relax the pain goes away, but that takes time to learn how to do. Sex of any type, especially for beginners, can be uncomfortable and make you tense. That's not conducive to a pain-free encounter. Then again, practice makes perfect Just be safe, be with someone who cares to make things feel good for both of you and you'll be fine. 1 Link to comment
TetRefine Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Lots of lube is important to anal sex since its not like a vagina with natural lubricants. Plus it feels better on both ends if its wet and slippery. Flavored, mouth-safe lube is lots of fun. I like the blunt, straight-forward way you asked the question too. Link to comment
myself_i_must_remake Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Sometimes lubricant makes things worse. I was eighteen. It was my first time. Scented hand lotion was the only thing on hand. It stung really bad. Link to comment
TrevorTime Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 I always use lube. And like Matt says, it makes the ride much more enjoyable for both partners. In my experience, other lubes work just as well as the traditional ones (KY Jelly or Astroglide). I have used Aloe Vera lotion and hair conditioner, and both worked fine. You want to stay away from shampoo or soap tho, because those will give you a burning sensation in your rectum. As to the pain, if you use a finger first and loosen up the entrance, then it makes it so much easier. 1 Link to comment
Cyhort Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Nope. I have ridiculously sensitive skin which is even more sensitive in the sensitive areas so lube tends to burn and not feel very good. I use spit instead and that works better than lube ever did. And, yeah, it can hurt if you're not used to it or if you don't prepare properly. But like everything else it just gets easier with practice, practice, practice, lol. Link to comment
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Yuki Winchestor Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 *blushes* i was kind of curious because i was wondering what happens to the sphincter muscle during anal sex. I heard that it can tear during anal sex. I have been reading yaoi mangas a lot lately. I wanted to know whether guys actually do it in missionary or is it only for vaginal stuff. I admit i am embarrasingly ignorant about this but i just want to know things work for guys. At the moment, i just dont have the anatomy for that 1 Link to comment
TetRefine Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 *blushes* i was kind of curious because i was wondering what happens to the sphincter muscle during anal sex. I heard that it can tear during anal sex. I have been reading yaoi mangas a lot lately. I wanted to know whether guys actually do it in missionary or is it only for vaginal stuff. I admit i am embarrasingly ignorant about this but i just want to know things work for guys. At the moment, i just dont have the anatomy for that Well most positions that work for straight people work for two guys two, although sometimes they have to be slightly modified. But really, gay sex isn't miles apart from straight sex like some people are led to believe. Link to comment
Camilo Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 There is this wonderful book called, The Joys of Gay Sex. You should read it. It'll answer any questions you have about gay sex. Plus, it has pretty pictures Also, don't listen to things online about sex. Make sure you double check things, such as alternatives for lube. Link to comment
Leah Ray Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 does anal sex hurt when it happens? lol so precise this time! Anyway, i dont think provided you use lots of lube, do fingering and relax! Practise makes perfect! Link to comment
Site Administrator Cia Posted March 23, 2011 Site Administrator Share Posted March 23, 2011 A big thing with using alternatives to lube is to make sure they ARE condom safe. Safe safe safe! Again, positions and what works depends on the partners for the most part. Body size, support surface being used, athletic ability Those are just about the only limiting factors. And yes, sometimes if you aren't careful about stretching or using lube whoever is 'bottoming' can get torn, usually microtears that are just uncomfortable but not dangerous. The best way to treat those is to just use a warm sitz bath (hot water enough to sit in, you can use soothing bath salts or not at your preference) and ointment will usually have you right as rain in a day or two. Link to comment
Tipdin Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 It's cool that so many of you said PRACTICE! I really, REALLY like that idea. WOOHOO! Make him beg and then make him glad! Link to comment
Mark Arbour Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 A big thing with using alternatives to lube is to make sure they ARE condom safe. Safe safe safe! Again, positions and what works depends on the partners for the most part. Body size, support surface being used, athletic ability Those are just about the only limiting factors. And yes, sometimes if you aren't careful about stretching or using lube whoever is 'bottoming' can get torn, usually microtears that are just uncomfortable but not dangerous. The best way to treat those is to just use a warm sitz bath (hot water enough to sit in, you can use soothing bath salts or not at your preference) and ointment will usually have you right as rain in a day or two. I love it when women talk knowledgeably about anal sex. Link to comment
Tenebrae Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 does anal sex hurt when it happens? Sometimes. It all depends on what stud I have a hold of at the moment. As for using lubricant regularly, yeap. I even use it when I'm not engaged in sexual intercourse. As said before, the less friction, the better. Link to comment
rustle Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 There is this wonderful book called, The Joys of Gay Sex. You should read it. It'll answer any questions you have about gay sex. Plus, it has pretty pictures Also, don't listen to things online about sex. Make sure you double check things, such as alternatives for lube. Terrific book. I'd forgotten about it. The illustrations are great. Lube of some kind is absolutely essential, in my opinion. Spit works fine for me if there's plenty of it. Some lubricants can cause condoms to fail (please use one every time, w/o exception, and I don't mean one of those from a truck stop restroom), particularly if they're petroleum-based, like vaseline. Pain in some degree can happen, but if you work up to it gently, it's not so bad, then it gets better. Much better. And, yeah, thanks for asking a direct question. You're online, and nobody can see anybody blush. Link to comment
Site Administrator Cia Posted March 24, 2011 Site Administrator Share Posted March 24, 2011 I love it when women talk knowledgeably about anal sex. I am a write what you know type Sex is and should be fun when it's with the right person, with lots of room to explore if you trust your partner. There are certain things I can't know as a woman but others, well... Yeah, that's where that comment is going to end. And Cam, no I am not going to write any sex manuals so don't ask again! Link to comment
Jwolf Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 A big thing with using alternatives to lube is to make sure they ARE condom safe. Safe safe safe! . **sings** If your gonna get a piece of my love... well then you'd better wear a glove. Sorry, I just watched American Idol and I couldn't help myself. Link to comment
DragonFire Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 does anal sex hurt when it happens? Is the pope catholic? I mean seriously! lol First time is a bitch, to start, no getting away from that. But if you have a considerate partner, plenty of water based lube then it should the make the initial stages less uncomfortable. Unless he's hung like a horse, in which case prepare yourself for a bumpy ride. Saying that, once you're broken in, then no, it wont hurt. Link to comment
comicfan Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 Lube is important, so are condoms. Practice makes perfect. And naturally before you put anything in you better be working to loosen that muscle up. Link to comment
hh5 Posted April 1, 2011 Share Posted April 1, 2011 You could feel pain running down your leg as there are two sciatic nerves. It also depends if the probe is navigating the large intestine correctly not hitting a bend or an organ. Good thing roto router isn;t needed. I did hear that one should not eat for 12 hours ... anal sex ... after a cleared dump schedule Gosh it sounds like being a bottom is tiring ... no food until after 12 hours? I wonder if the giver would ever suffer if the anus clamps on it. That be some un-relax bottom. Link to comment
TrevorTime Posted April 1, 2011 Share Posted April 1, 2011 I wonder if the giver would ever suffer if the anus clamps on it. That be some un-relax bottom. Nope, it actually feels very good for the "giver" when the guy who is bottoming clamps down on it. Trust me, I know this from personal experience. Link to comment
Cyhort Posted April 2, 2011 Share Posted April 2, 2011 I did hear that one should not eat for 12 hours ... anal sex ... after a cleared dump schedule Gosh it sounds like being a bottom is tiring ... no food until after 12 hours? This isn't true. I've bottomed literally right after getting back from lunch, two hours after, seven, etc and there's never been a problem. Link to comment
DragonFire Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 This isn't true. I've bottomed literally right after getting back from lunch, two hours after, seven, etc and there's never been a problem. All in the same day? Link to comment
Cyhort Posted April 5, 2011 Share Posted April 5, 2011 All in the same day? Actually more than that once or twice, lol. Link to comment
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