Why are straight guys so...

[Chris82]

...weirded out when they see a penis? One of the dude's at work went and saw Bruno with his wife and when (Ive never seen it, too dumb looking for me) a dick scene came up (sillouetted) he insisted that they leave.

 

Virtually every straight person Ive ever met upon the sight or mention of a dick start going all squirmy inside. You HAVE one. You SEE it. You see it EVERYDAY. You see it SEVERAL times everyday. You TOUCH it. You touch it A LOT in a day. You stick it INTO THINGS no less than a gay/bi person does. You do damn near EVERYTHING a gay/bi male would do with their's. So how come the moment a picture of a dick shows up they get all quesy?

 

I look forward to what everyone else's opinions are!

 

-Chris

[MikeL]

To quote a GA member, "I don't sweat the small stuff. Whatever I have no direct control over, doesn't matter." 

 

Hey!  Anyone who likes frogs is OK by me.

 

I'm one straight guy who is neither turned on nor turned off by a penis.  From learning to swim at the YMCA when they were exclusively male institutions and swim suits were not permitted to many a common shower at school or in the Army, I've seen all shapes and sizes and have come to the conclusion that I'm glad to have one.

 

At a family lunch recently, our three year old grandson started using the word "penis", not in a gross way nor in a scientific way.  He got rather personal, pointing at each person at the table and saying either "You have a penis" or "You don't have a penis" and did so correctly for each person's gender going all the way around the table.  His dad explained later that the little guy's first four words were "Mama, Dada, no and penis".  That's what you get for trying to teach your child the proper terminology.  He will use it correctly if not at an appropriate time.

[JamesSavik]

The intensity of homophobic reaction is proportional to homo-erotic arousal.

 

While our frog is not phased by the sight of a penis, those that become somewhat unhinged are coping with some sort of internal struggle with their own homo-erotic feelings. 

[Cia]

Yet a lot of straight men love porn that isn't solely f/f. lol One never knows why some people are so weirded out by things.

[TetRefine]

Ron White explains it perfectly.

 

[Bill W]

Does Shakespeare's line from Hamlet, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." ring a bell.  Maybe they're afraid that seeing one will turn them on.  LOL

[rustle]

Some of the reactions are for show. The same guys, if able to catch a glimpse, without getting caught, might stare and drool.

[Chris82]

Ah once again social stigma ironically ruins society.

[methodwriter85]

The intensity of homophobic reaction is proportional to homo-erotic arousal.

 

While our frog is not phased by the sight of a penis, those that become somewhat unhinged are coping with some sort of internal struggle with their own homo-erotic feelings. 

[Chris82]

Ah its just too bad how some others miss out on the fun. Oh well. Damn.

[W_L]

Maybe all the guys you know are afraid of comparisons

 

How big is their house, car, or personal possessions? It could be a Freudian inferiority complex

[Chris82]

Heres where the part of me that overanalyzes things starts surging forward.

 

Its just so...ironic how perturbed some straight guys behave towards any talk of an organ they possess. But are they truely grossed out by it (shouldnt, they own one right?) or is it just social stigma? Its like "yay I love pussy but dicks gross me out." While I care not for the female anatomy, Im not grossed out by it. If the circumstance arose, I wouldnt turn down a woman just because she didnt have my preferred anatomy. I wouldnt like it as much, but Im not going to be grossed out by it. Then again I know a few gays who act like pussy is a poison thatll kill them. So maybe Im just an exception. Isnt sex with anyone about how good it feels?

One of my friends (straight) was telling me its a choice to be gay. He wasnt being malicious about it. I told him its not exactly that black and white. I could have sex with a woman. I just wouldnt want to. He said that there made it become choice. Im like dude its not that simple. I like all the features of a guy, not just the part where theyve got a dick. If it were that simple then I might as well go find me a chick with a dick. He said if I could have sex with a woman then it would make me straight. I was like wha? That doesnt make any sense. At that point a warm hole is a warm hole. Theres more.....dimension to this sorta thing. I don't know. Ive kinda had some reservations that straights will never understand. Im sure the same could be said inversely.

[Xtro]

Okay, here's something else to dwell on.  An awful lot of straight men find F/F (two women) material to be fantastically erotic.  Apart from the obvious - they would like to assume the role of either woman - the fascination with same sex 'erotica' is mirrored by the amount of straight women who find M/M material equally erotic.

 

And this is before we get to the Oral phobias.  "So if you won't go down on me, why should I go down on you?"

 

Yeah, I know.  The only difference between a straight and a gay man is a six pack.  Or half a bottle of Jack Daniels...

[joann414]

LOL, can so relate to this. My hubby and I were going to see Brokeback Mountain in theatres when it first came out, and we asked out best friends to go. the hubby was like, hell no, I am not going to watch two queers in a movie.  He still has not seen the movie.  I find it so ironic because he is divorced now, and his ex says he could hardly ever get it up.  That is the reason she left. "doesn't even scratch my head in confusion"

Edited March 31, 2013 by joann414

[Chris82]

Does getting a straight guy drunk ever actually work? Cuz none of my straight friends ever display any "adventurous" behavior while intoxicated.

Edited April 1, 2013 by Chris82

[Chris82]

Since no one said 'yes' I'm taking this as a 'no?'

[MJ85]

Does getting a straight guy drunk ever actually work? Cuz none of my straight friends ever display any "adventurous" behavior while intoxicated.

 

One has to wonder just how..."straight", the guy actually is if that...works.

[methodwriter85]

   I'm sure it does...but...doesn't it make you kind of a shitty person to take advantage of someone who's so drunk they can't stand?

[Yettie One]

Some interesting answers.

 

I don't think it is just a straight thing though. I know gay men that are offended by the idea of the female anatomy just as much as a straight male may seem to be by the sight of a penis.

 

Personally, my take on the situation comes down to fear.

People are largely motivated by an assumption of how people/friends/family will perceive them in a certain situation. A young straight male might up talk "pussy" around his peers to make himself look trendy, cool or more than he really is Likewise, your straight friend may very well have been worried how his girl, or other people who know him may view him if they know that he sat through, and enjoyed a movie with a naked man in it.

I have also noticed that in most cases where someone is reacting to something, it could be a reaction that is learned. Homophobia is not something that occurs naturally. Like any prejudice it is learned through rhetoric that one see's or experiences growing up. People who display these traits are doing it to fit in, create an impression or out of the belief that if they do not, society or people important to them will see them as something they do not wish to be associated with, even if secretly they are or may not really give a toss about.

 

How we are perceived or regarded by our peers is a powerful driver on our actions. It is my opinion that this is often the (however not conclusively the ONLY) underlying motivator to what we do and what we say.

[Y_B]

Does getting a straight guy drunk ever actually work? Cuz none of my straight friends ever display any "adventurous" behavior while intoxicated.

 

I think if a person doesn't have the natural curiosity, not even alcohol can bring it out, but if they do, then alcohol may or may not give the potential boost given the opportune moment. I've messed around with 1 or 2 straight guys and they weren't intoxicated. They just had the natural curiosity and I extracted it during the right opportunity. But, this touches again on the whole idea of sexuality being fluid and not so black/white and how no one is 100% straight, etc etc, blah blah.

 

I noticed that most of the sexually curious guys out there are curious strictly for the physical part of the deal, there's no emotions envolved and those guys are not curious to feel attachment to a guy, just what it's like to get off with one. A friend of mine can pose as a good example. I've known him since my freshman year in college. Smart, very liberal and open minded but definitely straight. I don't want to be too presumptuous but I know him well enough to know that if I play some cards just right, I should have no problem getting him to mess around with me. Of course, I'm not out to him and ironically I think if I am, he wouldn't be as accesible. Anyways, I know that if we are to ever do something stupid like that, it would purely be for a physical kinda thing and there will be no cuddling at the end, so to speak and there may not be seconds.

[Xtro]

To extend that even further - I suspect that the physical side is okay with a lot of people, regardless of orientation or gender, because it does not involve any long term commitment to a relationship - or emotional involvement. 

 

Once you get into the commitment and responsibilities - emotions and feelings for each other, beyond the purely physical - then it becomes a whole new ball game (no pun intended.)

 

For me, the cuddling and spooning and touching and relaxing is sometimes more important.  And, as an old friend said to me a long time ago - you need something to keep the two of you together once the sex goes.

[C J]

I never knew anyone who had a problem with seeing a penis.  I have to wonder about the guy in the theater.  How did he ever get through school?  It would be nearly impossible without seeing a few now and then.  My first thought is he's trying to conceal what is really a secret interest.  You know, like that line from Shakespeare.  I think that's the reason more often than not, especially when it has something to do with sex.

 

I notice people get rather upset with these kinds of things, like they are offended by someone who reacts like the guy in the theater.  That seems as extreme as what they are annoyed with.  People have lots of strange reactions to things that make them uncomfortable, and most of the time there's an unintended message attached.  If you can figure it out then you have more insight into their minds.  That's a good thing.  It gives you the ability to better understand human nature.   Some will say they are too smart and in control to be subject to that, but I think they're only fooling themselves.  Nature will always have the upper hand.  Anyway, I don't mind seeing any body parts, and I don't know why anyone would.

 

It's as true as anything, humans are always trying to represent themselves in what they believe to be the best possible fashion.  It's unfortunate that most of the time the picture they present is something less than accurate.  In that respect, any other animal is far superior to humans.

Edited April 7, 2013 by Ghostboy

[Henry_Henry2012]

Does getting a straight guy drunk ever actually work? Cuz none of my straight friends ever display any "adventurous" behavior while intoxicated.

 

Doesn't alcohol lower down the libido of a man if taken excessively? Cause there was one time in college wherein this straight friend of mine always stared at my eyes and said "Can I kiss you? You're hot..." (probably the effects of alcohol = he's delusional) whenever he's hammered at one of his parties. And when I actually let him kiss me, he vomitted on my neck. 

 

I think I've gone past adventurous for straight men on that page.

[Celethiel]

Ok as a friend of a self claimed "violently homophobic" friend i will explain his view as he told me

Dick makes him physically ill, he don't even like looking at his own or thinking about it in any terms or idea. For porn he watchs Lesbian type stuff because he don't wanna see dick.... at all...

Now he was partially taught this by his father who was homophobic (also a cop) to the point of rant telling for percieved limp wrist.

 

Note: he's not against gays, though he's afraid we'll try to get into his pants and rape him in his sleep or so he jokes with me... Though I've slept in his bedroom and actually in the same bed (lack of room to do otherwise) enough times that I could have if I wanted to. Although I've been woke up a couple of times rather rudely from stroking his feet in my sleep and cooing to quote him...ie he kicked me for it...

 

Now other guys are not the squeemish... I know of a developer of a perverted game who refuses to create very many gay characters but loves dick girls.... and to quote him: it's because he likes boobies....

[TetRefine]

Now other guys are not the squeemish... I know of a developer of a perverted game who refuses to create very many gay characters but loves dick girls.... and to quote him: it's because he likes boobies....

 

That makes no sense whatsoever......