Adulting is Hard

[Wayne Gray]

19 minutes ago, MacGreg said:

Lol, I never said I aspire to be a first-class chef. Not everyone possesses the joy of cooking.

It makes it that much more special when you make the effort anyhow.

You have other talents anyway - being the expert with your hands that you are.

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What?  I didn't mean THAT!  I meant building stuff.  Wow.  Dirty people.

 

[Fae Briona]

2 hours ago, Puppilull said:

So I guess I never learned how to play nice or rather niceties. Some of you know my abrupt side and I can't stop it. I rarely intend to be mean. Just to the point, perhaps.  

This!  Sooooo soooooo this. 

Logic, numbers... fine.  Interacting with other people like a normal human.... not so much.  I've thought recently that I'm probably somewhere  on the autism spectrum.

[CassieQ]

9 minutes ago, Wayne Gray said:

You have other talents anyway - being the expert with your hands that you are.

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What?  I didn't mean THAT!  I meant building stuff.  Wow.  Dirty people.

 

We're all filthy here, get used to it.  

[Wayne Gray]

Just now, CassieQ said:

We're all filthy here, get used to it.  

My kinda crowd.  😈

[mollyhousemouse]

4 minutes ago, Fae Briona said:

This!  Sooooo soooooo this. 

Logic, numbers... fine.  Interacting with other people like a normal human.... not so much.  I've thought recently that I'm probably somewhere  on the autism spectrum.

i work with engineers @Fae Briona, i tell them they can handle the science & numbers & i'll handle the words ☺

[Brayon]

2 hours ago, MacGreg said:

@BHopper2

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Use a muffin pan; place an egg in each opening (or however many you want to make)
Bake for 30 minutes
Place eggs in an ice-water bath for 10 minutes.
Voila.

That's so simple, I can't mess it up.

[TetRefine]

At 27, I still can’t tie a tie well enough to wear. I’ve always gotten other people to tie them for me, then when I take it off I just loosen it and slip it over my head. That way I can just put it back on next time without having to tie it myself. Some of my ties have been tied for four or five years...

In my defense, I only wear a tie probably 3-4x a year and despise every second it has to be around my neck. 

[Wayne Gray]

7 minutes ago, TetRefine said:

At 27, I still can’t tie a tie well enough to wear. I’ve always gotten other people to tie them for me, then when I take it off I just loosen it and slip it over my head. That way I can just put it back on next time without having to tie it myself. Some of my ties have been tied for four or five years...

In my defense, I only wear a tie probably 3-4x a year and despise every second it has to be around my neck. 

The longer this goes the more I realize that I sorta suck at adulting.  Ditto, @TetRefine!

[MacGreg]

14 hours ago, Fae Briona said:

Logic, numbers... fine.  Interacting with other people like a normal human.... not so much.

What is a "normal human"...? We all have quirks. 

[Former Member]

11 hours ago, TetRefine said:

At 27, I still can’t tie a tie well enough to wear. I’ve always gotten other people to tie them for me, then when I take it off I just loosen it and slip it over my head. That way I can just put it back on next time without having to tie it myself. Some of my ties have been tied for four or five years...

In my defense, I only wear a tie probably 3-4x a year and despise every second it has to be around my neck. 

I was forced to wear a tie for decades while working in retail in the late seventies through the nineties. When you have to wear them every day, you learn how to tie them (even if it’s not exactly one of the standard methods). It never made sense to me to have to dress up to work in a discount store, especially considering that women had much greater freedom in their dress code. And there were few male customers who wore ties when they shopped in those stores.

Still, it was better than the IBM-inspired dress code of white shirts and ties with black slacks for engineers in the pre-Silicon Valley high tech industries.
 

Eventually I changed employers and no longer needed to wear the tie. My location in the Bay Area and changing standards meant that we generally wore company-supplied polo shirts with our employer’s logo on them in one job – and red shirts with khaki pants at another (guess who?).
 

These days, I only wear ties to weddings and funerals. And the last wedding I attended was in the early nineties. My brothers have been informed that when I die, no ties or dark, sombre clothing is to be allowed at my memorial service. It cannot be a religious service and no hymns may be played (even though my father was a Protestant minister and my brothers and their families are very religious).
;–)

Edited April 30, 2019 by Former Member

[Marty]

10 hours ago, MacGreg said:

What is a "normal human"...? We all have quirks. 

[Former Member]

I was once given a button that said, ‘Why B normal?’

My mother hated it and wanted to ban me from wearing it…
;–)

Edited July 4, 2019 by Former Member

[Fae Briona]

My first boss where I currently work -- on my 1yr anniversary -- gave me a small plaque that read, "Wait a moment. I have to put on my, "Gosh I Really Care" face. I still have it hanging in my office (along with quotes from Nietzsche, Jung, and His Holiness the Dalai Lama).

[Wayne Gray]

7 minutes ago, Fae Briona said:

My first boss where I currently work -- on my 1yr anniversary -- gave me a small plaque that read, "Wait a moment. I have to put on my, "Gosh I Really Care" face. I still have it hanging in my office (along with quotes from Nietzsche, Jung, and His Holiness the Dalai Lama).

This seems to be a theme with you, Fae.  🙂  Dealing with all those damn feelers in the world!

FYI - I'm an ESFP (Myers Briggs).

[Thorn Wilde]

Mine is pretty big. I suck at bills. I hate looking at my account balance. The whole money thing just gives me anxiety, lol! It's a pretty inconvenient thing to be terrible at.

@Wayne Gray I'm INFP.

[Former Member]

1 hour ago, Wayne Gray said:

FYI - I'm an ESFP (Myers Briggs).

I recently read an article by a woman who was attempting to write about the women (mother/daughter) who created the questionnaire. Initially the company behind the questionnaire was cooperative, but required the writer to go through the training as though she was going to administer them herself – requiring her to pay the more than $1000 fee. After she completed the sessions, they declined to cover the cost as they had suggested they might and stopped responding to her.

There are strong indications that the whole thing is a scam, a pyramid scheme. It is easy to intentionally change the results of the questionnaire by adjusting the answers to a few of the questions. The results are not an indication of your permanent ‘type,’ merely an indication of a particular period in your life. It is no more scientific or magical than a horoscope.

[Wayne Gray]

1 minute ago, droughtquake said:

I recently read an article by a woman who was attempting to write about the women (mother/daughter) who created the questionnaire. Initially the company behind the questionnaire was cooperative, but required the writer to go through the training as though she was going to administer them herself – requiring her to pay the more than $1000 fee. After she completed the sessions, they declined to cover the cost as they had suggested they might and stopped responding to her.

There are strong indications that the whole thing is a scam, a pyramid scheme. It is easy to intentionally change the results of the questionnaire by adjusting the answers to a few of the questions. The results are not an indication of your permanent ‘type,’ merely an indication of a particular period in your life. It is no more scientific or magical than a horoscope.

I've found the types remarkably useful when dealing with coworkers.  Like, real-world situations.  Knowing the common strengths and stressors of each "type" is helpful.  I have applied use here, and I know it works in our organization in my limited usage.

So, believe what ya will, and so shall I.  🙂

[Thorn Wilde]

6 minutes ago, Wayne Gray said:

I've found the types remarkably useful when dealing with coworkers.  Like, real-world situations.  Knowing the common strengths and stressors of each "type" is helpful.  I have applied use here, and I know it works in our organization in my limited usage.

So, believe what ya will, and so shall I.  🙂

That's cool that you've applied it in real world situations. I've only ever applied it to myself... Since you can take the test (or derivative tests) for free loads of places, I think the pyramid scheme thing wouldn't be so effective...

[Reader1810]

2 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

That's cool that you've applied it in real world situations. I've only ever applied it to myself... Since you can take the test (or derivative tests) for free loads of places, I think the pyramid scheme thing wouldn't be so effective...

I recall taking this test for free (the four letter label looks very familiar) but I can’t remember my results. 

[Former Member]

5 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

Mine is pretty big. I suck at bills. I hate looking at my account balance. The whole money thing just gives me anxiety, lol! It's a pretty inconvenient thing to be terrible at.

I was evicted and became homeless because of my ineptitude with finances. I now have my monthly bills automatically paid for out of my checking account. The ones with fixed amounts are paid by my credit union. My utility bill (gas and electric), which fluctuates, is automatically withdrawn by the utility. My Disability payment is direct deposit.

This allows me to play with the remainder for things like groceries and other expenses.

I had considered changing the account the Disability is paid into and having an automatic transfer move a smaller amount into checking, but not only would I need to figure out how to deal with the utility bill (non-fixed amount), but it would be extra work to set up.
 

I would have had to declare bankruptcy, but my homelessness period plus the fact that my Disability income cannot be taken by creditors meant that my huge debt is now too old for my creditors to pursue. The only debt that I repaid was to the phone company that I get my internet connection from. It was far smaller than the amounts I owed two credit card companies (I only had two credit cards).

[Wayne Gray]

 

 

 

1 minute ago, droughtquake said:

I would have had to declare bankruptcy, but my homelessness period plus the fact that my Disability income cannot be taken by creditors meant that my huge debt is now too old for my creditors to pursue. The only debt that I repaid was to the phone company that I get my internet connection from. It was far smaller than the amounts I owed two credit card companies (I only had two credit cards).

Credit cards are the devil.  The fact that it's just expected that we'd go into debt to an organization which can change the rates they charge at any moment is a terrible failure of our society.

[Former Member]

I have a debit card, but no credit cards. There have been times when having one would have been convenient, but not having one has saved me lots of money. No interest payments!
;–)

[Thorn Wilde]

26 minutes ago, droughtquake said:

I have a debit card, but no credit cards. There have been times when having one would have been convenient, but not having one has saved me lots of money. No interest payments!
;–)

I've never had a credit card, either. I'm pretty happy with this fact. I'd be so much worse off if I had one...

[Fae Briona]

3 hours ago, Wayne Gray said:

This seems to be a theme with you, Fae.  🙂  Dealing with all those damn feelers in the world!

FYI - I'm an ESFP (Myers Briggs).

INTP is what mine normally comes up as; It can very depending on when you take it and what version.

[CassieQ]

2 minutes ago, Fae Briona said:

INTP is what mine normally comes up as; It can very depending on when you take it and what version.

I'm the same