BoyNeedsTherapy Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I don't know if this is the right place to post this, or even if I should post this at all, but I just found out that someone I knew was killed this week by his mother, who then killed herself. I'm really stunned and kinda shook up about it all. I probably shouldn't even post this, I mean, who wants to know about something so f**ked up? But, omg, what kind of a world do we live in? He was 16 years old...at times like this I lose all faith in humanity Sorry if this isn't the place to post this, and if people object to this post then feel free to delete it...I guess I was going on the whole 'its good to talk' vibe... Ben :,(
Trebs Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I don't know if this is the right place to post this, or even if I should post this at all, but I just found out that someone I knew was killed this week by his mother, who then killed herself. I'm really stunned and kinda shook up about it all. I probably shouldn't even post this, I mean, who wants to know about something so f**ked up? But, omg, what kind of a world do we live in? He was 16 years old...at times like this I lose all faith in humanity Sorry if this isn't the place to post this, and if people object to this post then feel free to delete it...I guess I was going on the whole 'its good to talk' vibe... Ben :,( <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It's always good to talk and ya, this is horrible news. I'm not one to say if this is or is not the right place - but I think here, or in the general discussion of the main forum - either works. Bigger question - how are YOU doing? I never lost any friends when I was younger, though I did lose my dad when I was in high school, but it was expected. Can barely imagine the shock the news was when you first heard it... No matter what, while there is bad, there is also infinate good - faith endures. <hug> We're here for you
dkstories Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 On a post like this, almost anywhere you feel comfortable is the right place to post this. Here, you'll reach most Dom Luka fans, and a few others, while General Discussion would reach most board users but some Dom fans wouldn't see it. That's why here is just as good as General, because it depends on your level of comfort more than anything. As Pisces did, I extend a hug to you. Losing someone you know, much less a friend or family member is very difficult. To lose someone in a situation like this is even worse. Talk to people about it, let yourself grieve, and time will help you heal. Keep us in touch and let us know how things are going. Rant if you need to, rage at the world, and let those emotions out. Holding them in does little good in the long run.
Rocketcnj Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 On a post like this, almost anywhere you feel comfortable is the right place to post this. Here, you'll reach most Dom Luka fans, and a few others, while General Discussion would reach most board users but some Dom fans wouldn't see it. That's why here is just as good as General, because it depends on your level of comfort more than anything. As Pisces did, I extend a hug to you. Losing someone you know, much less a friend or family member is very difficult. To lose someone in a situation like this is even worse. Talk to people about it, let yourself grieve, and time will help you heal. Keep us in touch and let us know how things are going. Rant if you need to, rage at the world, and let those emotions out. Holding them in does little good in the long run. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ben....DK, Kitty and Ann said it best....and its good to talk about it, let out the feelings...if your friend has siblings, I hope you get to comfort them and they you and the same for all your friends that knew your friend....Counselors and Grief Centers also help and Lots of Hugs and tissues. Athough I am not formally religious I like to think that your friend is now like an Angel looking out for you and I truly believe our loved ones stay in our hearts, minds and souls long after they depart...so I know he is with you and those he loves...sometimes it even helps to do things like hold a Memorial Service where you do what your friend loved..maybe he loved nature and plant a tree in his honor or if he loved animals then do something with lost pets..etc...I am sure the love you all have for him will carry on..in the mean time lots of Hugs and cry and let out the feelings and talk about it and grieve your loss and then when you are ready, you will move on in your own time. and we are here for you no matter what Extra Rainbow Hugs and Hershey Kisses and Rainbow Jelly Beans and our deepest sympathies Michael
Mark Arbour Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I don't know if this is the right place to post this, or even if I should post this at all, but I just found out that someone I knew was killed this week by his mother, who then killed herself. I'm really stunned and kinda shook up about it all. I probably shouldn't even post this, I mean, who wants to know about something so f**ked up? But, omg, what kind of a world do we live in? He was 16 years old...at times like this I lose all faith in humanity Sorry if this isn't the place to post this, and if people object to this post then feel free to delete it...I guess I was going on the whole 'its good to talk' vibe... Ben :,( <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ben, My heart (I do have one) goes out to you. We hear about these kinds of things periodically here in the US, and when I do, I'm saddened but it never really hits home. It must be horrible when it's someone you know. About a year ago, a guy I knew got killed in Iraq. He was in the army. I'd read all those casualty numbers and been fervently against the war before that, but it reduced everything to such a personal level. It was devastating. Hang in there bud. You've got global friends pulling for you.
Novelty Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I don't know if this is the right place to post this, or even if I should post this at all, but I just found out that someone I knew was killed this week by his mother, who then killed herself. I'm really stunned and kinda shook up about it all. I probably shouldn't even post this, I mean, who wants to know about something so f**ked up? But, omg, what kind of a world do we live in? He was 16 years old...at times like this I lose all faith in humanity Hey Ben, sorry to hear about that. This world is messed up and bad things happen. We always hope it'll never happen to us, but sometimes we just can't avoid it. It's always good to talk - don't bottle up whatever you're feeling inside. I hope you're coping with everything.
NaperVic Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I don't know if this is the right place to post this, or even if I should post this at all, but I just found out that someone I knew was killed this week by his mother, who then killed herself. I'm really stunned and kinda shook up about it all. I probably shouldn't even post this, I mean, who wants to know about something so f**ked up? But, omg, what kind of a world do we live in? He was 16 years old...at times like this I lose all faith in humanity Ben, you post wherever you want to post. Your right, it is f*cked up and I really don't know what to say. Sixteen is just so young!! sigh.... Here's a big hug Vic
Conner Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I'm sorry for your trouble, Ben. Senseless tragedies such as this often create a geart deal of anger and frustration within us. Nothing but unanswered questions bombard our brains. Please ask your friends and loved ones for help when it really gets bad and find a way to get the anger out. Take care of yourself. Hugs you tight, Conner
BoyNeedsTherapy Posted April 30, 2005 Author Posted April 30, 2005 Thanks guys for all your hugs and supporting words. It still hasn't really sunk in. I feel so helpless. I emailled my friend to say that I'm thinking of him and here for him if he needs me, but it just feels like such a nothing gesture, especially as I can't be there physically for him (I know them from when I lived in America, but with being back in England now there's the whole distance thing). He's the first person that I've known close to my age that's died, and the only person I've known to die under such horrible circumstances. I guess I just feel somewhat lost right now... Thanks again guys for the hugs etc, I really do appreciate them. Ben
BoyNeedsTherapy Posted May 4, 2005 Author Posted May 4, 2005 I'm doing ok, it was so weird, I found a CD a couple of days ago full off pictures from when I was in America. I was looking through it with my bf and I found a few pictures of the guy that was killed and his brother too. It was so weird. My friend emailled me today he sounds like he's doing ok, but I can't even imagine what he's going through. Thanks again for all your condolences guys, I really appreciate it.
Davey Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Hey its not easy to lose anybody under any circumatances please remember we are here to help... most people on this board have lost some one close to them im sure, I know I have, but I believe our loved ones still look out for us, they give us the strengh to carry on, just remember them for who they were. When I lost my best friend/bf I was only 15 I can remember thinking why? It took time to realise it was just his time. I still love him with all my heart and I carry him with me through every day I live. We will always have our lost one's with us in our hearts. I hope time will help heal the wound this loss has made. Love Dave
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