What Age Is 'No Longer Young'?

[JamesSavik]

30...I agree it is a state of mind, but my mind is telling me I don't want to live to turn 30. I've thought long and hard about how, if I'm still alive at 29 that is, I want to die. For the longest time I had decided air embolism, but then I found out it's a myth that it will kill you instantly...So I'm back to square one.

 

Carousel anyone?

 

[wildone]

It's all relative to who you're hanging out with in a given situation.

 

When I'm hanging out with the 55-65yo gay queens, I'm the young chicken that gets pawed on .

 

When I'm with the 20something students, I'm the middle aged sage .

 

Come on Vic, they think of you as the old perv

 

Dead...you're no longer young when you're dead.

 

Can't disagree with this logic.

 

It is funny, I'd say around 30 it definitely becomes a sliding scale. When I was 30, I thought 40 was old. When I was 40, I thought 60 was old. The thing is past 30 everyone below 30 is young. :wacko:

[wildone]

Carousel anyone?

 

 

I really wish they'd make a remake of Logan's run. I saw it when I was like under 10 but the idea that society would come to a time and place where you would have to turn yourself in to be terminated has always haunted me.

 

Didn't help that my Mom who watched it with me was bugging me about it as I approached my 30th birthday

[colinian]

My granddad has a saying about when you're no longer young that I think is very funny:

 

"After 16 it's all downhill."

 

Colin

[Y_B]

Overall, I think people should learn to just embrace their age and all the benefits, connotations, and shortcomings thereof. If you truly believe in the beauty of life, you will see that every stage of life is worth being in.

 

 

It seems to me that while remaining highly subjective on the matter of age and youth can be good if the purpose is to keep a better outlook on life, it may ultimately benefit one more in the long run to simply acknowledge that he or she is a certain age and accept it. By acceptance, I don't mean admitting defeat but rather let go of negativity. The cultural obsession with youth is gradually becoming a disorder if you want my honest opinion.

[Organic]

As I said in my profile : " young for ever".

But the answer this question is not so easy !

 

a first answer could be for me : at the birth of my first son, I was 23.

a second answer could be when I built my first company, I was 36.

a third answer could be when I lost my parents. I was 40 at my father's death and 54 at my mother's death.

a forth answer could be when I got my first cancer, I was 67.

a fifth answer could be when I lost my daughter, I was 74.

But the real answer is : when I lost my eldest son, I was 79 .

 

...that puts it in a whole new perspective. The number is like a record holder, but it is the experience that moves us each beyond a state of youth... i think we can stay young at heart while growing, maturing in mind, body and spirit.

[Tipdin]

Your age is relative and relevant depending on the subject and situation.

 

Twenty is old if you're just starting out to be a professional ballet dancer; however, twenty is still a child if you're just entering into a marriage situation.

[Sir Galahad]

You're only as young as the man you feel, in which case I'm 30!

[Tipdin]

You're only as young as the man you feel, in which case I'm 30!

 

Interesting statement. I can take this a few different ways. If I'm as old as I feel, I'm doomed. If I'm as old as the man I feel, I'm going hunting for a 20 year old..!

[Bumblebee]

Anything over 25 imo.... but ask me again in 10yrs

[paya]

Young can be defined as MY AGE + 1 Year. that way i am forever young

 

You better add at least one more year, young man!!!

[StormyParis]

It really depends on what you mean by "young".

 

There's the physical/sexual aspect, which really depends on how well you keep in shape. I'm 42 now, but even at 25 there were people 50+ I found damn sexy. (plus they've got all those skills and experience, which is a big plus, but I digress). Mostly, I'd say 35.

 

There's the psychological aspect, ie when y'oure still supposed to make mistakes and think mainly of yourself, vs when you're supposed to know your stuff, and be thoughtful of others. I'd say the cutoff should be around 25; but it really depends on a person's experiences. My last relationship was with a 24yo (I was 35), and it failed basically because he never had to pull his own weight, and still needed much mothering. In spite of his many other qualities (he was intelligent, funny, affectionate, honest...), this "youth" eventually proved fatal to me. So cut off = 25, or when you've lived on your own, from your own money (earned from your own work) for a year.

 

Finally, there's the social aspect. It's a long journey to know who you really are, to stop being controlled by fads / advertising / peer pressure. It's a fine line vs being jaded or cynical, and some never get there, or overdo it. Knowing what's really important to YOU, as opposed to what you think is important to people you want/need to like you. Looking at my 18yo niece... she's right in that phase where she buys stuff 'coz that's what needed to be popular, clothes that don't really suit her but are the right brand... There's that debate about fashion vs style, she's on the wrong side of it right now. Same goes for activities, musical tastes... At some point in people get to realize that books, films, music, even TV series do not exist in vacuum, and that there's some very good stuff that's not known/advertized/popular, but still, better than 99.9% of the current productions. There's not cutoff age for that really. Hopefully the process in under way by 30 ?

Edited May 14, 2011 by StormyParis

[Contest4jen]

It depends on the individual.....circumstances may make you age too quickly, and some people are just young forever.

[methodwriter85]

I really wish they'd make a remake of Logan's run. I saw it when I was like under 10 but the idea that society would come to a time and place where you would have to turn yourself in to be terminated has always haunted me.

 

Didn't help that my Mom who watched it with me was bugging me about it as I approached my 30th birthday

 

They ARE doing a remake of Logan's Run, starring Ryan Gosling. Although it's apparently 21 instead like in the book. How they'll make Ryan Gosling look 21 again, I don't know. I could not imagine a world where no one was older than 21. Geez. That'd be 'effing scary to 19 and 20-year olds as the elders.

Edited May 15, 2011 by methodwriter85

[Former Member]

I don't think youth can be measured by looking at someone's age. So I'd say being young is a state of mind.

[XBadboyX]

It depends on the individual.....circumstances may make you age too quickly, and some people are just young forever.

 

 

Exactly.

 

Personal proof of this is that I know a person who's just as old as myself whom I consider to be a tad (much more then just a tad, really) immature.

 

.. him being a spoiled and complaining little brat doesn't help it. At all.

[MidNight_Love]

Young is a state of mind....sure, I'm saying this because I'm only 14- and want a little more respect from my elders, no offense. But age- is but a number. And I take that seriously.

[Collan]

Being young is in part a state of mind, but it can also be very relative. I'm 46, but I know people in their 50's and up who still tell me, "Oh god, you're so young!" And then on the flip side of that, there are people I work with in their 20's and 30's who seem very young to me. It's all in your perspective I guess.

[Goedric]

When you think you are done learning or loving then you are old and its time to wind down

[Matthew k]

I would have used different ages.

 

After 18

After 25

After 30

After 40

 

Under 30 you are still pretty young and I am sure when I am 50, 35 will seem young and when I am 70 I will think I was just a kid at 50.

 

But a more important question, at what age must you remove "boy" or even worse "boi" from your screen/chat name. No one over 22 should ever have either in their screen name.

[sojourn]

As a child each year was a mile stone. As I grew age became associated with activities, dating, driving, drinking, voting. I think I remember thirty as being a watershed... but then fourty was one also. Now at sixty, I realize age whether young or old is really a matter of perception and abilities... too young... too old. perceptions and abilities.

[Nephylim]

Exactly.

 

Personal proof of this is that I know a person who's just as old as myself whom I consider to be a tad (much more then just a tad, really) immature.

 

.. him being a spoiled and complaining little brat doesn't help it. At all.

 

I thought you were talking about me... well not the spoiled and complaining little brat part but I am far more than a tad immature... ask my family

[XBadboyX]

I thought you were talking about me... well not the spoiled and complaining little brat part but I am far more than a tad immature... ask my family

 

Hah, to be completely honest I simply don't know you well enough to be able to judge you as a person.

 

He really is ungrateful though.

 

...as for the immature part - I don't have a problem with being more cheerful/bright/happy/play as a person but the line between being playful and annoying is thin, if you ask me.

[methodwriter85]

Anne Hathaway Is Fearless About Aging

 

You go, Anne. I'm not approaching 30 quite yet, but I really admired Anne's attitude about it. I met a guy once who started getting collagen injections at 24-25 to hide wrinkles, and liked to tell people he was 19, and I don't know- why not get credit for the years you've lived?

 

It's still kinda weird to think that Mia Thermopolis is getting ready to turn 30 in November 2012, or that Jessica Alba is now playing the mom in the next Spy Kids movie. Time really does march on fast.

 

 

[yoxone]

Old, young... does it really matter? It is a state of mind, of course.

The reason why that, which we call magic, is gone, when people grow up, is that they learn to understand (the world and themselves) and do so. And later on most view that magic, which is irrational, from a view of a rational mind. Hehe, enough with my empiricism ramblings. I am just trying to say that a person becomes old, when he stops to experience new things. It's absurd to think that there is a boundary, set by some numbers.

A strange, funny thought that crossed my mind... What do you imagine you would look like and be like, when you pass into the other side, I mean die (Not that there is any point in doing so, but for fun). Young, old, your 20's, 30's, teenage years, old years... Hmm?