Doctors

[Zombie]

I'm a guy, and prefer to see guy doctors. So there's the added bonus of maybe seeing a hunky stud doctor - not so good though if you've got to whip your pants off and get your tackle out ... But even if I was straight I think I'd still prefer to see a guy.

So I'd expect the girls to want to see girl doctors too. But here's the thing - overwhelmingly girls of my acquaintance and in my family (Mum, sis, sis-in-law) also prefer to see guy doctors.

 

What's going on?

[Warrior1]

I'd prefer female doctor. I get along with females easily. But a guy doctor wouldn't be a problem if he's soft, understanding and tolerant.

[Cia]

I'm a woman and I prefer a woman doctor. She has been 'my doc' since I was 19.Mostly because I'm highly uncomfortable around men I don't know and having one touch me? Bad jujus. Women have appointments where we have to have more *ahem* personal handling, more frequently than men, so that's my rule. However, my hubby and both my kids, the boy and girl, see the same female FNP that I do. It makes it nice whenever we have to go in for anything, she knows all of us.

[Bumblebee]

I prefer to see women doctors, since I don't like being touched by men and most of the male doctors I've seen are annoying pricks that shrug my problems off as being normal women's issues and that I should just get over them (something a male doctor has actually told me).

But there is one guy doctor who is gay, and really nice who I like to go see if I just need like something for a flu.

 

Plus my normal doctor who is a girl is like really really hot, so I'm not giving her up as my normal gp unless I have to

[Breeze]

My first GP from the time I was 16 til I was 30 was a male and I was just fine with it. But for the last 20 years my GP is female and I prefer it that way now. I dont mind male doctors at all. Like Cia said for the personal handlings I prefer female doctors

[A.J.]

My primary doctor is male and I prefer to see a male doctor. The clinic I go to is ran by a medical school so the doctors in the clinic always seem to be changing. I've had to see other doctors at the clinic both male and female and it hasn't made me uncomfortable but I have never had to drop my undies in front of them. That being said, I had a physical at age 25 and my doctor made me disrobe and I felt very uncomfortable. I can't imagine any doctor, male or female, doing an exam down there and me being all that happy about it. Anytime I'm naked and the other person is clothed it is going to feel awkward.

[NotNoNever]

If I'm not mistaken, gynaecologists are vastly more likely to be male. Anyway, I am not bothered if it's a guy or a gal doctor. If they're gonna handle my bits, they're all gonna have a job. I'm a grower, and a doctor / penticle visit has a worse effect than a cold shower in an open field in midwinter in Alaska! They're gonna have to work for their money with meeeee lol. Talk about microsurgery - and that's just my zip

[Mikelaing74]

I used to have a male doctor whom I got on very well with. But he's since retired and has been replaced by a female doctor. Again she's no bother and I've got a good relationship with her. I'm not bothered about seeing either a male/female doctor. It's their attitude which is more important to me.

[Ashi]

I wonder if women would be more comfy if they know their male doctor is gay? Just a thought.

 

The retail store I used to work at, there is a bras section, and a gay guy totally adored to work there for bras fitting. He would totally jumped at the chance to work there, and I am always wondering if women are okay with him, though he was definitely flaming. If it were me doing the bras fitting, I am sure most women would look at me as if I were perverted. Besides, I probably don't have the competency at it. That guy probably had the qualification, because his other job was entertaining as a drag queen, but still don't know what would a woman think.

 

I prefer a male doctor. I am just not comfy if I have to show a little more skin to a woman. It's just awkward. And a much older doctor would be better, since the feeling wouldn't mingle, if you know what I mean. And I definitely would prefer a gay doctor if I knew who he is and could choose. Gay doctors would understand gay issues more.

[Andy78]

My GP practice has two GPs (a man and a woman), makes no difference to me which one I see. I just see the one who has the shorter waiting list.

 

If I had to have surgery my local hospitals are very much male dominated. Last year a friend of mine needed to see a breast specialist (nothing serious, just wanted to check if she needed any screening because of her family history), but because she insisted on seeing a female doctor she had to travel across London and waited nearly three months for an appointment.

 

I actually know most of our local consultants (since many of the children in the hospital I work in are referred to them), and I wouldn't have a problem seeing any of them.

 

I think if I ever had to have anything major done, I'd probably be more worried about dying than whether the doctor's reproductive organs were on the inside or the outside.

[TommyZ]

I have a doctor (male) that I see every 3 months now. He is okay. He will listen. He has he's opinions which are probably more correct than mine. Some times he is stand-offish which is fine with me. Now that I am a bit older I really feel that my health is in my hands. I know what I have to do in terms of eating (in two words NO FAT) and be a vagen, exercise (which I do but not enough) and get my weight down (I'm not that over wt but I know I have to be skinny.

 

That last thing about getting skinny is very important to me now. I am in my 60's and I want to prepare for my 70's and 80's and hopefully 90's. God, I know what is coming. All these old people with walkers and stupid looks on their faces .... shit. I don't want that. I know there will be some major bumps in the road because the road is already turning into gravel.

 

So, as far as a doctor, I look at it this way. If something major does come along, it's really a crap shoot if it is handled properly. Doctors know generally how to do things but they are not experts in what they do as far as treating ME. So, I don't expect all that much if say, I get cancer.

 

If I had a lot of money, I would have several doctors on retainer and that retainer would be large enough that they would be very interested in keeping me alive. Then, you would get really super treatment. So that is not going to happen unless I will this 300 million lottery .. Oh wait! I didn't even buy a ticket ... so it's not going to happen.

[Andrea]

I don't really have preference, except for my ob-gyn doc and I prefer a male. My normal doc is female but most of my specialists are male.

[Krista]

My General Physician is female - because I believe she is the best doctor around. My "ladies" doctor is Male - because I think he is the best one around. It doesn't matter.. as long as they do the job that has me feeling at my best.

[Andrea]

My General Physician is female - because I believe she is the best doctor around. My "ladies" doctor is Male - because I think he is the best one around. It doesn't matter.. as long as they do the job that has me feeling at my best.

 

Ditto on this. Whenever my doctor recommends I see a specialist, I ask her for multiple names in my area. I then ask my boyfriend's mother who has worked in the area as an RN in multiple departments for over 30 years. She will tell me who not to see and the people she recommends, I generally have no problems with.

[Sympathia]

My doctor is a blond guy in his early 30's and whenever I go to see him I get distracted because he's totally hot. But he's a good guy/doc and doesnt seem to mind my ogling xD

[Andrew Q Gordon]

I don't really care one way or the other, as A.J. doesn't matter who's the doc if they do the - drop your pants and cough - routine, it's awkward.

 

But moving this a step further, what do you do with your kid? Right now 'lil q has a male doctor- he's great, he like 75 great with the kids, knows his stuff etc. But when she gets older - should we switch her to a female? I don't expert her at age 6 to know what her preference will be at age 13 but it seems to me that whomever she sees she should see that person consistently over the years and not switch every couple years depending on her or our whims.

 

Do kids - and I guess I'm specifically interested in girls - prefer their own gender? I so old that there were only male doctors for the most part when I was a kid so it wasn't an option. You saw Dr. Grello or you didn't see the Dr.

[K.C.]

I've been going to a Husband/Wife doctors for the last several years. I met them at work, they are young (close to my age) and connected with me and I really like both of them. If I just have a cold or something run-of-the-mill then it doesn't matter who I see but if it's something too personal or invasive then I usually make an appointment with the guy

 

But moving this a step further, what do you do with your kid? Right now 'lil q has a male doctor- he's great, he like 75 great with the kids, knows his stuff etc. But when she gets older - should we switch her to a female? I don't expert her at age 6 to know what her preference will be at age 13 but it seems to me that whomever she sees she should see that person consistently over the years and not switch every couple years depending on her or our whims.

 

Do kids - and I guess I'm specifically interested in girls - prefer their own gender? I so old that there were only male doctors for the most part when I was a kid so it wasn't an option. You saw Dr. Grello or you didn't see the Dr.

 

Andy, we take JJ to a large pediatric group that has both male and female doctors. For the longest time it didn;t matter to her or us who saw her but about 4 years ago when she had a UTI she threw a fit about talking to a male doctor. She had heard us talking about a urine sample and got very upset, we requested a female doctor and the staff was great about it. Since that was what made her more comfortable we just ask for one of girls now when we make an appointment. It's nice that we started out with a large practice so there is plenty of doctors to chose from

 

 

On a side note: I have had patients ask for a female nurse many times, It has never offended me. The comfort of the patient always comes first!

[CassieQ]

My GP is a female, and the reason I chose her is that I personally think that female doctors listen better and have better communication skills (based on my experiences). I have been seeing my GP for years and I have never once felt like she has rushed through my treatment or that she is too busy to talk to me. She also went around the office and helped raised a collection for me when she found out my apartment burned down and is genuinely nice person who cares about her patients. I have nothing against male doctors...some the best orthopedic specialists in the area are male doctors, and there is one who works right behind my clinic who is probably the best in town. But I prefer my doctor.

[Roan]

My GP at the moment happens to be a guy, but he is hard to see at short notice so I sometimes see the woman in the practice. I've got more doctors than a medical convention between all the specialists mostly guys but a couple of women.

 

I guess I dont really mind one way or the other. Im mainly interested in a GP being thorough, good and being able to develop a relationship of trust, which is more about what sort of person they are than their gender from what Ive found.. For specialists, they need to be able to tell me straight without patronising or bullshitting and be good. Guys as specialists can sometimes be more patronising in my experience, thats the only gender difference ive found. Or maybe thats neurosurgeons

 

fwiw the only doctor Ive been to that had to regularly handle my um assets was an endocrinologist back when I was 11 - 12, he was a guy and that made it marginally less embarassing at that age on balance. Nowdays, dont really mind.

Edited August 18, 2012 by Roan

[Cyhort]

I don't like ANY doctors looking at me. I haven't been to one since I was 14.