Nothing ever stays the same, Sir.   i am happy with You. Whatever changes we face we'll get through them together.

This for me is true love, it makes me so happy for you both

This shows a simple truth - that you're more interested in living the way that makes sense for you both rather than within the confines of a definition.  And like @Kapucinski said above, it is an expression of your love that you're willing to bend in such a way.

Leave the definitions in the dictionary.  Keep on living, growing, and loving.

All relationships change. All people change. And that’s a good thing, I think. And also... isn’t it up to you to decide what D/s means to you? No two relationships are the same, after all. You talk about colouring outside the lines, but isn’t that what we do anyway? As queer people, you as D/s people... seems to me that it’s up to ourselves to define what our respective lifestyles are supposed to be and then live accordingly, with our self-defined labels or without.

Either way, you do you. The only thing that matters is that you are both happy, together.  

5 minutes ago, Thorn Wilde said:

You talk about colouring outside the lines, but isn’t that what we do anyway?

Is it? I'm not so sure we queer folk have any less 'lines' than non-queer folk. Labels are everywhere and on everyone. And I think if you believe otherwise, you aren't looking closely enough.  There are D/s people who discount how we live because they think we don't measure up. And that thinking is in all walks of life and all people. 

That is society. Always has been, always will be.  However, I try not to think about it, or care. Because all that is truly important to me is tim's happiness, which in turn is mine also. 

2 hours ago, Mikiesboy said:

Nothing ever stays the same, Sir.   i am happy with You. Whatever changes we face we'll get through them together.

boy… there isn't much more to say than that … xo

2 hours ago, Kapucinski said:

This for me is true love, it makes me so happy for you both

I suppose you are right. We talk about true love but what does it really mean?  It is, I guess when in your mind I married this person for better or worse. To me there is no other option. If something is wrong, then we fix it. Thank you for your wonderful comment. 

1 hour ago, Wayne Gray said:

This shows a simple truth - that you're more interested in living the way that makes sense for you both rather than within the confines of a definition.  And like @Kapucinski said above, it is an expression of your love that you're willing to bend in such a way.

Leave the definitions in the dictionary.  Keep on living, growing, and loving.

Thank you, Wayne. You'd be hard pressed to find many of us in a dictionary. And yes, if we do not bend, then we break.  Thanks again, my friend. 

1 hour ago, Reader1810 said:

This was wonderful to read, Mike. Living your life as it suits and fulfills you is the way to go.  

Thank you, dear Reader. xoxo

Bravo! Sounds like love and maturity. I often upset purists because of how I dress at time. Not proper biker attire, I'm told. My reply's usually that it's proper for THIS biker. Beat your own drum and screw anyone who can't march along.

1 hour ago, MichaelS36 said:

 There are D/s people who discount how we live because they think we don't measure up. And that thinking is in all walks of life and all people. 

 

There are only two people in the world who's expectations you need to live up to.  Yours and tim's.

Knowing you are happy makes me happy for you both.

11 minutes ago, Carlos Hazday said:

Bravo! Sounds like love and maturity. I often upset purists because of how I dress at time. Not proper biker attire, I'm told. My reply's usually that it's proper for THIS biker. Beat your own drum and screw anyone who can't march along.

Thanks Carlos … people constantly amaze me with their tiny closed off minds:  You can't even dress correctly. Aw, well, as you say.. screw em … though not literally.  LOL 

11 minutes ago, Kitt said:

There are only two people in the world who's expectations you need to live up to.  Yours and tim's.

Knowing you are happy makes me happy for you both.

Exactly. Thank you, Kitt.  

As others have said, what's important is that you and tim are happy, no matter what that looks like. 

And you're obviously doing something right, because you and tim have a loving partnership and longevity on your side, which is more than many of us can claim.

1 minute ago, MacGreg said:

And you're obviously doing something right, because you and tim have a loving partnership and longevity on your side, which is more than many of us can claim.

That part is easy. Our partnership, marriage, whatever works because we choose to make it work. Not only because I am tim's Dom, but because we like each other, care and want it. So, we don't look for ways out, we look for ways back to each other.  Because we have drifted apart on occasion, but permanent separation /divorce is just not a card in our deck.  Happiness is a choice and circumstance. And whatever has changed, well we are not looking closely we are just grabbing onto it. 

1 hour ago, MichaelS36 said:

Is it? I'm not so sure we queer folk have any less 'lines' than non-queer folk. Labels are everywhere and on everyone. And I think if you believe otherwise, you aren't looking closely enough.  There are D/s people who discount how we live because they think we don't measure up. And that thinking is in all walks of life and all people. 

That is society. Always has been, always will be.  However, I try not to think about it, or care. Because all that is truly important to me is tim's happiness, which in turn is mine also. 

That is kind of my point. I just meant that it should be up to you to define yourselves, not anyone else, you know? Screw the labels other people give you.  

2 hours ago, MichaelS36 said:

Is it? I'm not so sure we queer folk have any less 'lines' than non-queer folk. Labels are everywhere and on everyone. And I think if you believe otherwise, you aren't looking closely enough.  There are D/s people who discount how we live because they think we don't measure up. And that thinking is in all walks of life and all people. 

That is society. Always has been, always will be.  However, I try not to think about it, or care. Because all that is truly important to me is tim's happiness, which in turn is mine also. 

As I said in another post, labels can bind you as much as identify you. It sounds like your relationship has evolved for the best of reasons - the positive change's tim has made.

It's human nature for us to form "tribes" -- great for survival a few thousand years ago, but not so great now.

10 minutes ago, Fae Briona said:

As I said in another post, labels can bind you as much as identify you. It sounds like your relationship has evolved for the best of reasons - the positive change's tim has made.

It's human nature for us to form "tribes" -- great for survival a few thousand years ago, but not so great now.

I think that's part of how I feel. I'm a Dom but lately at home at least, I do not want to be so full on. People pay me to be that kind of Dom, at home I want to be happy and enjoy my boy. We are still D/s but our way.

Love and happiness is something we all strive for. True love, like what you and tim have, is something to be celebrated.

9 minutes ago, Brayon said:

Love and happiness is something we all strive for. True love, like what you and tim have, is something to be celebrated.

Thanks, A.    I wish it for everyone. 

all living things grow, and change, if they don't, they die
needs, wants, desires change and it's important to realize that and be willing to adjust
Your love should be a beacon to others

The two of you are growing more comfortable in one another and the love you have is growing, maturing. Yes tim has changed but so too have you. Being that Dom as you say is now your job. No one wants to live their job 24/7/365 it's too hard. Home and tim are where you go to be relaxed and comfortable in yourselves. Those that try to belittle your relationship as not conforming to the rules are likely those who have no better way of defining themselves than through strict adherence to what truly are arbitary guidelines. If what you have works and makes you both happy, wonderful, live long and prosper.

Oh, and don't dress like @Carlos Hazday. He doesn't know how bikers should dress.