lets work together Topic Tuesday #18: Disagreements With Other Writers

[Brayon]

This week's topic is something, I find common among any group of people: Disagreements.

 

Disagreements are going to happen. I forget where I heard this saying, but it goes like this: "As long as there are two people still living on Earth, there will be war. We are all Cain and Able." It's human nature to disagree with one another, even though humans are a herd animal. I was reminded of this topic on Reddit yesterday when a thread I was reading spiraled into a shouting match between people's different ideologies.  There was no attempt at a peaceful dialogue, once the shouting started. Even here on GA, I know of one topic that was locked down by the admin, and you can read it here in the Writer's Club a few pages back.

 

 

How you respond to a disagreement, matters. Too many of us, myself included, tend to let our inner asshole out. "Hey, it's the internet. I can say, and do whatever I want without repercussions." However, its the bigger person that can reign in their inner asshole, and can settle it like a gentle-person that wins the day. I'm not saying all disagreements are bad, it's how we approach them that is.

 

For me, going forward, I'm going to strive to see the other side. I might not always agree, but I'm not going to be an ass about it. Or at least try not too. We live in an age, especially here in the United States of America, of such polarization, it's almost a knee-jerk reaction to being mean and spiteful. "They are the enemy, and must be destroyed." needs to be changed to "They are a fellow human being, and we need to find a compromise."

 

That's my rambling mess this week.

[Mikiesboy]

2 hours ago, BHopper2 said:

"Hey, it's the internet. I can say, and do whatever I want without repercussions."

 Okay A ... works for me.  I'm sure my ex-cop husband could speak to how wrong the above statement is, no offense to you. But there can be plenty of repercussions. You can be found, and sued or whatever other legal things there are available.   Maybe more of that should happen, maybe then people will realize they cannot just do what they want.

[Brayon]

6 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

I'm sure my ex-cop husband could speak to how wrong the above statement is, no offense to you.

No offense taken, my friend. That statement was something told to me once by a Troll, and it seems to be a very common belief among them. Not something I believe.

[Kitt]

10 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

 Okay A ... works for me.  I'm sure my ex-cop husband could speak to how wrong the above statement is, no offense to you. But there can be plenty of repercussions. You can be found, and sued or whatever other legal things there are available.   Maybe more of that should happen, maybe then people will realize they cannot just do what they want.

I think that is exactly the point tim.  People THINK they can't be touched so any social filters they might have get dropped.  

 

I AGREE, more in the way of shutting down cyber creeps should happen, but I am glad it is no longer Mike's job to do it.  He seems much more relaxed and happy now.

[Mikiesboy]

He is Kitt..much happier 

[Comicality]

 

I feel that the idea of being 'different' in our opinions has to fall into a category of right and wrong in a lot of peoples eyes, and that's where the problem lies in any argument. People can have two different ideologies. They can coexist. UNTIL...the idea that 'my idea is better than yours' comes into play. Then you have an assault on someone's frame of mind, and their defense, and then the 'war' begins.

 

I honestly don't even think that a compromise has to be made. We can just agree to disagree and let it go. "Hey, I like chocolate ice cream, and he likes vanilla. There's nothing to gain, nothing to lose. Let's go to the store and get one chocolate tub and one vanilla tub. Yay! Problem solved." There's no reason to force beliefs on anyone else. So, as long as that's  being adhered to, I don't have much of a problem with anyone disagreeing with me on anything.

 

However...if I'm backed into a corner, insulted, or feel under attack, then I'll put my gloves on and go toe to toe just like anybody else would. But only as a response to mistreatment. And it takes some pretty harsh words to get me to that point. I don't mind tapping out and letting it go, but it hurts. I refuse to be abused or lied about. These days, people just tell outrageous lies and regurgitate brainwashed rhetoric, and then the other side spends so much time trying to disprove the lie that they never get a chance to make their point. I won't play that game. I'll give the actual facts as I know them, I'll state my case, and people can take from it what they want. Done. I don't have the time to go to war with people who made up their minds about me and my life before the first punch was thrown. But, in 'public'? If they're looking for other people to pick sides, then I'm going to make sure they know my side of the story.  And they do so based on facts, and not some angry rant by someone who bends the truth to paint a fake picture of what I said or think.

 

But, I agree that disagreements are natural. I welcome them. What would we all talk about them without them? Hehehe! (I LOVE that quote, by the way! We're all Cain And Able!" So true! But handling disagreements is as easy as asking ourselves..."What do I have to gain if I win?" And What do I stand to lose if I don't win?" If the answer is...'a little bit of pride', then it's not worth it. Let it go and move on already. if there's a serious issue where I feel that my very presence around a toxic situation or person is causing me trouble...then I'll stay away. Because...why subject myself to more fighting? But other than that, disagreements are just a presentation of a different point of view. Listen to it, understand it, and then accept or deny it as you see fit. What's the big deal? You know?

 

Just don't cram it down my throat, that's all. That's never necessary.