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more awwws and sappy grins. You guys are great! Hugs!!!

awww, sappy grins!

I'm not a big subscriber into true love. That being said I've been with someone I met essentially since the first minute we met. There was a clicking that we both felt. I was only 16 at the time, I said 'I love you' only 3 months into it the relationship and that was almost 13 years ago. It's not a happy joy joy everything is perfect love, it's real which means it's work. The false ideal that everything is perfect and there are never any problems once you have that 'true love', that is what I don't buy into. What I do believe is that there has to be someone out there that can be just as good for everyone as I have found. At least I hope so, and that is all you can do, right?

Have a great birthday hun!

Happy Birthday Roses

Unfortunately for most men vs. women situations unless the man is indeed smaller they will typically be stronger than a woman. Even when they are both the same size. If I know a person's weaknes I wouldn't be above exploiting it to avoid getting my own butt kicked. Sad but true that most women go for the guy's family jewels. It incapacitates them and that is always a good thing if someone is looking to harm me. Now, is that fair? Nope, but it's not our fault that nature didn't give us such an obvious point of weakness. Of course I punch not slap so I typically had an advantage over any girl I ever fought as well. As for fear and trust when it comes being hit by a man versus a woman I think society plays a very major role in that. Most of the time women are portrayed as victims and we are typically used to the thought of the possibility of being a victim from a young age. I think it plays into our psyche quite a bit, for both men and women. Men aren't supposed to be victims, they are supposed to be strong and able to defend themselves. A good example of this sort of bias would be rape statistics. I won't quote anything specific because unfortunately they are highly subjective but just about every source I've checked shows ratios that are vastly dissimilar. I average that perhaps 35-40% of male-female rapes are reported versus 10% of male-male. Female-male and female-female rape report statistics are almost negligible. Our belief that men are primarily aggressors and women victims are patently false but it's a societal bias that I think we need to overcome. Harm is harm, no matter what type and no matter who initiates it.

Sometimes I outline, sometimes I don't. I think I begin each story I think will be long with at least a few pages of notes, though not necessarily a list of characters and chapter outline for each. Though I do try to do something like that if I don't think I'll be able to get to writing it right away. I typically post each story as I write and then end up going back looking for details if I can't remember something. That wastes a lot of time though. I like not knowing how each chapter will go though. It's a mystery where each chapter is going as I sit down to write it. That's fun for me. So I guess I see the upside to each way of writing.

I've always been fascinated by the legends of the banshee. My favorite animal is most likely fire lizards, I'm sure you sci-fiers know what series I'm talking about.

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Hope you have a great day Viv! Women's birthdays should come with the option go ahead or back a year Which would it be?

snickers... remember to turn on the fan

Ouch. Sometimes people just need enough rope to hang themselves with, even if we are pulling it away from them as hard as we can. Hugs.

That was hard to read. Up to the actual breaks and the difference in our recoveries it was so similar to what I remember. That scream of metal being cut, the suffocating blanket as they break out windows and a stranger keeps you calm before they drag you out of a twisted metal lump. I was blessed that my leg shattered and didn't break the surface so I still can walk with 2 legs, albiet a bit gimpy and with one leg shorter than the other. I am so glad you had a support system. The kindness of strangers and casual acquaintances can never hit home more than when a disaster strikes you personally. Your strenth is phenomonal. Advice, if I can be so bold as to give it, don't be alone that first year anni of it. That was the most emotional one for me.

I will defend myself if attacked by anyone. I'm not big, I'm not small and I do know how to defend myself quite well. Honestly I'm of the view that if someone hits me they earned a response. If it's someone I can take down with a puch or a throw I will, if they are bigger or I feel I need to I'll play dirty. I don't pick fights, never did, but in my family I grew up knowing that I would finish them. I've fought guys and girls *shrugs* Though not for many many years. Now a scathing verbal response typically works

I vary. I like to add detail, as anyone who read my stuff will note, but I typically avoid doing it for people, reserving it for background scenery and animals/creatures. I don't like the stories that start out, well I guess I should describe him or me and then go on to give height, weight, hair and eye color almost as stats but it won't preclude me from reading the story, though it does turn me off it a bit and I might take points away if I was ranking it. I like to add detail as the story goes along if I can. If it's a short story then I admit, that's a lot harder. Besides, over-detailing prevents the reader from making their own mental pictures.

Pretty!! I have a 67 mustang in my rv parking in my backyard It's my sisters and has sat in the same place for almost 9 years. Pretty sure it's a lawn ornament by now.

Nice Niels, but you are way too cute to need to hide that face

Hugs!!!

LOL, looks like most visitors answered the poll but don't want to comment I want to know who the every day person is, snickers

LOL. Btw, I applaud the cool way you handled the bullying thugs. I probably would have done something similar but then would most likely have had to mace and then knee them in the balls considering I'm a short woman. I used to ride the bus home from work to my bad neighborhood when I first moved to the city, it is surprising the amount of petty crime that happens on a nightly basis.

One word of cautionfor you mentally as the writer on here. If you 'flick through' Love in Chains have a look at the reader counts vs. the reviews and comments in the forum. You'll have many more readers than will be willing to admit, I find it's quite the taboo subject for many people. The thrust of Nephy's story was abuse and control not so much bdms but because there aspects of it in the story I think it wigged out some people. I know yaoi and d/s stories actually have quite a lot of readers, most just don't want to own up to it. If this is a story in your head then write it, get it out and be happy with your work. I'll have no problems reading and commenting.

I let a very un-ladylike snort.

The thing I keep on hand most of the summer? Not really a recipe but it's my kid's favorite. Frozen grapes. They stab them with toothpicks and dip them in vanilla non-fat yogurt that I add cinnamon to. I also make cinnamon tortilla chips and lemon curd, though that's not exactly healthy Tortilla chips: Brush tortillas with melted butter and cinnamon, slice into triangles and bake til crispy. 8 minutes at 350. Lemon Curd: 3 Lg Eggs 1/3 cup (80 ml) fresh lemon juice (2-3 lemons) (don't use the bottled juice) 1 tablespoon (4 grams) shredded lemon zest 3/4 cup (150 grams) white sugar 4 tablespoons (56 grams) unsalted butter, room temp In a stainless steel bowl placed over a saucepan of simmering water, whisk eggs, sugar, and lemon juice. Cook, stirring constantly until the mix becomes thick. Takes about 10 minutes. Cut the butter into small pieces and whisk into lemon mix until melted. Add zest and let thicken as it cools. Put plastic wrap on the top of the curd when you store it or it gets a skin on top. It can be refrigerated for a week. If you like a milder flavor you can fold in some whipped cream.

Congratulations on being a parent!! I would copy this blog and keep it to remind you when you are trying to keep your cool when he tries your patience. Mom of 2 kids so, well, yeah, I wish you luck and good health to your little one.

Woo hoo. Myr's back out of the writing closet Can't wait for more!!