Straight guys kissing other guys

[Graeme]

I've just read the following article in an Australian newspaper:

 

Bromance Gets Physical

 

Personally, I can see the study being accurate, but not applicable in Australia (as shown by the largely negative comments). Australian males typically can't separate kissing from sexuality, despite the clear example of girls kissing other girls as a friendly greeting devoid of sexual connotations. They just can't see that it can be the same for guys.

 

Having said that, I don't believe I could kiss a male friend on the lips as a sign of non-sexual friendship. My cultural upbringing would make that difficult.

 

Any other opinions?

[TetRefine]

I've just read the following article in an Australian newspaper:

 

Bromance Gets Physical

 

Personally, I can see the study being accurate, but not applicable in Australia (as shown by the largely negative comments). Australian males typically can't separate kissing from sexuality, despite the clear example of girls kissing other girls as a friendly greeting devoid of sexual connotations. They just can't see that it can be the same for guys.

 

Having said that, I don't believe I could kiss a male friend on the lips as a sign of non-sexual friendship. My cultural upbringing would make that difficult.

 

Any other opinions?

 

I agree. Whenever I greet another male person, it is always by a handshake and if it's a relative or good friend, a 'bro' hug. If its a woman, then its always a cheek kiss. I guess thats very cultural. I never kiss another man, except for Cammy, because that would be breaking the cultural expectations I was brought up with and would be considered weird and very awkward to say the least.

[NightOwl88]

I've just read the following article in an Australian newspaper:

 

Bromance Gets Physical

 

Personally, I can see the study being accurate, but not applicable in Australia (as shown by the largely negative comments). Australian males typically can't separate kissing from sexuality, despite the clear example of girls kissing other girls as a friendly greeting devoid of sexual connotations. They just can't see that it can be the same for guys.

 

Having said that, I don't believe I could kiss a male friend on the lips as a sign of non-sexual friendship. My cultural upbringing would make that difficult.

 

Any other opinions?

 

Interesting, very interesting. I can't vouch for the validity of the article or their subjects but hey if it is true then awesome. A lot of guys I know would be agreeing with the Aussie's though, most straight guys I know will barely even shake your hand.

 

I wouldn't have any issues kissing a male friend on the lips in a non-sexual way, it's context and preception of an action that changes its meaning. Having said that though i think a quick peck on the cheek/temple/forehead would be more likely than on the lips.

[Krista]

Hmm.. a quick peck on the lips is how I greet all my friends... but yeah, won't be happening, bromance is pretty subdued here.

[wildone]

I remember a few years back going to Dallas and seeing that a lot of people in a particular gay bar would kiss each others on the lips. This suprised me as my experience before had been hugs, and maybe a peck on the cheek. As my friend introduced me to people they'd pecked me on the lips. I was uncomfortable with this from total strangers.

 

Am I just a prude?

 

I don't see how straight guys would be comfortable with this, but then again, it was with close friends in the study, not strangers.

[Mari]

I greet almost everyone with a kiss but then again I'm friendly but guys? lol, I remember one of my husband's friend from Europe came through and visited and greeted me with a kiss on the lips then turned around and did the same to my husband. LOLZ, he didn't say anything but the look on his face was shocked... I do know guys that greet with kisses but they are also 'friendly' with each other so I don't think that counts. As long as it's close mouthed it is a friend thang.

[Dark]

I dunno. I get weirded out when strangers randomly hug me as a greeting.

 

I've only seen girls kissing like that as non-sexual/friendly in the movies or on TV, and guys never. Where in real life is this supposed to be happening?

[Caedus]

@Dark: The study did say men who did this had less homophobia in their envioronment, plus they were comfortable in their own sense of masculinity and sexuality. So parts of Europe, specifially colleges and Universities with young adults. Definitely not the US, maybe parts of Canada? South America: Brazil, Chile, Argentina, Peru?

[methodwriter85]

Emo guys will do this. It's usually to turn on the girls they want to hook up with.

[Benji]

I've just read the following article in an Australian newspaper:

 

Bromance Gets Physical

 

Personally, I can see the study being accurate, but not applicable in Australia (as shown by the largely negative comments). Australian males typically can't separate kissing from sexuality, despite the clear example of girls kissing other girls as a friendly greeting devoid of sexual connotations. They just can't see that it can be the same for guys.

 

Having said that, I don't believe I could kiss a male friend on the lips as a sign of non-sexual friendship. My cultural upbringing would make that difficult.

 

Any other opinions?

 

..................Ok, if my kids pull me into a hug I give them a neck peck kiss! Otherwise we just bumb fists, mostly that is the way it is, besides I always germ phobia, so I don't like shaking hands!

[Mari]

@ methodwriter85 ( sorry ,can't quote yet ) ,that would be very effective

[DragonMando]

I was brought up in a very, very back-to-the-good-ol'-days way (that's sarcasm, there, a combination between Victorian English and Nazi Germany is not cool), so physical contact between any combination of the sexes was taboo. So yeah, while I have no problem with other people doing it, I probably couldn't because my own brain would put on the brakes full stop.

[Kev de Cauchery]

Australian males typically can't separate kissing from sexuality. They just can't see that it can be the same for guys.

 

Having said that, I don't believe I could kiss a male friend on the lips as a sign of non-sexual friendship. My cultural upbringing would make that difficult.

 

With my cultural upbringing, o well. Thing is, the most intimate greeting here would be a hug between two guys, and that's also pretty rare, either for really close friends or rare occasions. Though I always have the urge to give a peck on the cheeks to my guy friends, (and girl friends for that matter), and even though I'm out, I still worry it'd be too gay for them.

[B1ue]

The comments accompaning the article are hilarious.

 

BUt, yeah, don't see that catching on among my heterosexual friends here. Personal space boundaries are enormous.

[John Doe]

I would have to say that a kiss is impossible for me. Even a hug is breaking bounds with me. Maybe it's me and my comfortability and a little of my Asian inheritence. But if its someone I know I will smile and nod an acknowledgement. A handshake if its a business situation or meeting someone for the first time. (I hate the fist bumps and handshake gestures though... it always confuses me and makes me feel like a loser). Even among my friends I smile and nod. If I'm in a cultural setting (read that as other Asian people, regardless of specific ethnic race) I would most likely bow a bit at the waist instead of the simple nod, especially if its to an older person (even if only by a year or two). My closer and better friends force me to hug them. I'm okay with it now. But most everyone knows and respects my simple smile and nod.

 

It's okay for other people, but for me I like my space. Kissing on the lips I can respect and separate it from sexuality. But it still would shock me if I saw it, if even for a split second. It just very uncommon.

[Greedya]

Geez! I don't kiss my straight mates. I F*** 'em.

[warrior]

<br />@ methodwriter85 ( sorry ,can't quote yet ) ,that would be very effective <img src='https://www.gayauthors.org/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/smile.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /><br />

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Same here.

[Bumblebee]

i grew up with...

guys kissing = they have to be gay

girls kissing = they might be gay but probably just doing it to turn straight guys on

 

but if i saw two guys greeting each other and they kiss i would instantly think gay.... and they would probably get beaten up by some homophobes

[soup]

I think you're right about it not being really applicable in Australia. None of my male friends here would ever consider kissing each other as a greeting. However, they're not completely averse to physical contact and usually do greet each other with hugs.

[Pai-kun]

I don't know... I, personally, would never kiss anyone I wasn't dating when greeting them. Neither male nor female. It's generally accepted to do so here in Sweden, but not that many does it. If someone greeted me with a kiss on my cheek, I wouldn't think much of it, but I'd be taken aback for a second or two. But the idea of two men kissing(even on the lips or making out) is definitely not fused with the thought of them being gay. It happens all the time here when people are less than sober, lol.

Edited October 31, 2010 by Pai-kun

[JamieD]

Guys greet each other here with handshakes or kisses on the cheek, kissing a guy on the cheek to say hello is totally normal. In fact a hug is a much more personal thing than a kiss on the cheek; you only hug a friend.

 

Oh and that 'kiss on the lips' thing between two guys to get girls excited definitely works ^^

[thatboyChase]

I have done it several times.

 

It has never ruined a friendship and for the sake of kissing because of a friendship, is okay.

[Cia]

Kissing is cultural. Some cultures are definitely more 'physical' than others. Compare Latin versus American (well northern). That being said part of it also has to do with your own comfort level with physical contact. I don't like to be hugged or kissed, even by family for the most part. My dad still kisses me, and one of my sisters. That's it. Other than that it's the occasional hug, usually as a goodbye. I never hug in greeting. And friends next to never get hugs from me. Usually only holidays or special moments if they need comfort. My siblings that were raised sort of southern are much more comfortable with physical contact, even the boys. The boys will hug and kiss their female relatives and hug their dad but kissing friends? I doubt they'd even go so far as to hug really. I think that if you compare cultures views on sexuality and taboos you will find a direct correlation between that and the physical intimacy between people, both friends and strangers.

[Sendraguy]

Just read an article here in the UK stating that 89% of male students at the University of Bath claimed they would/do kiss male friends on the lips as token of friendship. I'd expect uni students to be liberal in outlook, but I'm not sure that attitude travels further than the campus. There's loads of man on man hugging and kissing on TV right now, but I reckon that the streets of Britain wouldn't be a safe place to try that out.

[Greedya]

Just read an article here in the UK stating that 89% of male students at the University of Bath claimed they would/do kiss male friends on the lips as token of friendship.

 

That's not surprising. It is, indeed, the University of Bath.