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Tomorrow, Everything Changes



So, tomorrow is officially moving day. The U-Haul is parked in the driveway waiting to be loaded. Everything in the house, with the exception of my room, is packed in boxes. For some reason, I can't bring myself to pack my room. We're moving from the Dallas area to a small East Texas town called Rusk. It's about 3 hours away. I know absolutely nobody down there, with the exception of my 2 cousins and their wives. They are all very umm, let me try to explain. My cousin Justin, the younger of the two, broke his femur years ago when he was bucked off the bull he was attempting to ride. His wife, Rachel, teaches Ag (agriculture) for high school. My other cousin, Clay and his wife Melissa, along with his two step-kids, his adopted son, and their son together, whose name is Rodey Owen (pronounced road-e, go ahead and say it out loud) are going to my new neighbors. They always make me feel like the odd man out. They'll talk to me if I insert myself into their conversations, but they won't go out of their way to speak to me. Now, I'm practically related to about half the town we're moving to, but they're all my mom's cousin's kids and I think I might have met them for all of 5 minutes 35 years ago. The closest Walmart to where I'll be living is 15 miles away, and it's not even a Walmart Supercenter. For the next 6 months or so, we'll be living with my grandmother in a 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house, while our house is being built. Right next door. For major shopping, we'll have to drive about 40 miles to Tyler, where there's a mall. This isn't going to be fun. It's going to be hell. I'm a 41 year-old gay man moving to an area of Texas that isn't well known for its acceptance. I did actually tell my cousins I was gay. But, that was 22 years ago and we've not talked about it since. I'm not even sure their wives know for sure or not. I"m freaking out here I think. HELP!!!!

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As drp says, distance is relative.  If a "quick trip" to the grocery here takes an hour, I ask what went wrong, whereas a similar trip from my aunt's place if it takes less we ask did they break every speed limit in the book?

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I hope you will pleasantly surprised at what you find after the move, Jay. :hug: 

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change is never easy, especially when it's thrust upon you

remember that we're always here for you, just a PM away




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Good luck with the move mate, I hope that it all goes smoothly for you. If this helps, here in Australia, some people in remote parts of Australia, have to travel for an hour or two, just to get to the nearest town, and that can be by 4x4, helicopter or by plane if the roads are cut off with the rains cutting off the roads. Its all just part of the challenge of life, Chin up mate and all will get better eventually.

Regards Q

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Man, I don't know how you do it and I hope there is a really good reason for that. I mean, 15 miles and the best thing is a Walmart? 40 miles to any actual shopping? I rarely venture outside a 4-5 mile radius in everyday life here. I really wish you the best, because the way you talk about it has even me feeling depressed for you. I'm really curious as to why you're doing this, because it doesn't sound like something you're doing because you necessarily want to, but rather have to. 

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