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Marriage, boys, and husbands

MichaelS36

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I know I’ve said this before; I always wanted a marriage like my parents have. Of course, I knew it wouldn’t be traditional, given the fact I am Gay, but I wanted it all the same.

 

As I hung with friends, played baseball and hockey, went through school, I came to realize I was often assuming a dominant position, and often asked to lead. It was sort of a natural thing.  I ended up in school taking criminology and socio-legal studies, and received my degree. I went on to become a police officer and eventually a detective.

 

While I was still a uniformed officer, I accepted who I was: a Dominant Sadist. I read and spoke to people and dipped my toes into the world of BDSM, and D/s. I met John, a friend and mentor who was also a cop at the time.

 

I learned more and dated. Submissive men were attracted and attractive to me. Yet it was an unsettled life. The boys came and went. I still wanted to find, him—the one.

 

I’ve written about that before, meeting tim.

 

We have been together now for ten years, married for nine of them. We have had ups and downs. We have made mistakes, yet we remain together.

 

Recently, when our anniversary was upon us, we talked about why and what our relationship is, and means.

 

We both feel we are as strong as we are because of our chosen lifestyle: D/s. It is a journey. The relationship between us a living thing. Love needs tending. It needs thought and touch. It needs the everyday small things.  There are few arguments in our house, because we both accept our roles within our relationship. When you accept that, there is little to fight about.

 

In our case our life needs discipline, strictness, pain, honesty and above all else, it needs trust. tim’s trust and belief in me is at its strongest now, I think. It is a fine line, this place of Dom/boy/husbands. Yet, it can work. You both must want it and you must both be headed in the same direction. Our destination is the horizon.

 

After ten years you’d think things and feelings would wane.

 

Last night tim, was tired. I put him to bed with his natural calm and some reading. He fell asleep and when I returned, I settled him down. I lay with him, holding him to me. He pushed back and moved in my arms, telling me of his desire. Wiggling … still after all these years. Those feelings still strong between us.

 

I whispered, “you need to sleep, boy.”

 

There was a small sigh … Doms hate sighs!

 

But I couldn’t help but smile as he snuggled back and replied, “Yes, Sir.”

 

All is right in my world.

 

I hope it is in yours. I wish you all a wonderful Christmas/Holiday Season and a joyous New Year.

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17 hours ago, Mikiesboy said:

yes, Sir ... still wiggling after all these years. and You saying, "Be still, boy!"   love You, Sir xoox

lol .. Indeed. xo

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15 hours ago, Kitt said:

I am happy you found what works for you both, and things are right in your world.  I guess hubby and I must be doing something right as well, we celebrated our 36th this past October. Be happy together and I pray you make YOUR 36th!

Thank you Kitt. I guess you both must have been. Thirty-six years is something!!

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14 hours ago, Defiance19 said:

This makes me smile. I wish you both every blessing, and many more years, (and wiggles) together.  🤗

LOL.. thanks, Def. 

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14 hours ago, BHopper2 said:

I am very happy for the two of you. You're both an inspiration.

Thank you, A.  

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14 hours ago, Reader1810 said:

Mike, that you bring this much joy, peace, and contentment to tim makes me happy.

 

Heck, I’m happy for you both, because you’re both really good souls, and I’m really glad you found each other. 

Thank you Reader. I know you love tim and I appreciate it.  he is easy to love and deserving. 

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13 hours ago, Parker Owens said:

I rejoice in the two of you. Like those writing before me, I wish you and tim every joy. 

Thank you, Parker. 

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4 hours ago, Dr. John NYC said:

Blessings to you both! I still remember two of my early insights into how many different forms of relationships exist that can express love every bit as real and true as what most of us are taught as kids. One of them was a bdsm couple who, though fictional, felt as real as any living couple I knew. Thank y’all for expanding my understanding 40 years later. To many more years together! 

Thank you, Dr. John.  There are many flowers in this garden, each as deserving as the next. I appreciate your comments. 

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4 hours ago, mollyhousemouse said:

what a beautiful expression of Your love Sir

i feel blessed & honored to know You both & to be a witness to that love

 

Thank you, molly. you know yourself what this life can offer, though it is not perfect and we all struggle. it is worth it and we get as much out as we put in. 

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4 hours ago, dughlas said:

Continued joy and happiness to you both.

Thank you, dugh. I appreciate your comments. tim will never want for love, not as long as I am here. 

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On 12/21/2018 at 3:21 PM, MacGreg said:

Happy Anniversary, you two. May there be many more wiggling moments ahead. 

Cheers, Mac. I'm a lucky man. I wish the same for everyone. 

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10 hours ago, Fae Briona said:

Happy anniversary - may you have many years of love and trust ahead of you.

That's very kind of you, thank you.

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