The Drop in Centre

[CassieQ]

5 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

That's all good.  Weight comments are not required ever.  And well done on not slapping anyone! 

 

I'm going to be generous and believe that the weight comments came from a place of concern...although Dad's statement of "make sure you're not skin and bones again" could have been worded a bit more diplomatically.

[Mikiesboy]

7 minutes ago, CassieQ said:

I'm going to be generous and believe that the weight comments came from a place of concern...although Dad's statement of "make sure you're not skin and bones again" could have been worded a bit more diplomatically.

i'm too thin.. however if i keep eating like i did tonight, that'll change lol   But it's rare for me to eat so much.  Michael and Dan often try to feed me more.  If they give me a donut i'll eat that anytime. lol

[CassieQ]

2 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

i'm too thin.. however if i keep eating like i did tonight, that'll change lol   But it's rare for me to eat so much.  Michael and Dan often try to feed me more.  If they give me a donut i'll eat that anytime. lol

I used to be.  It was back at a time when I was really unhealthy so I get their concern, but I'm at a much better place now.  Ditto on the donuts, though!  

[Mikiesboy]

2 minutes ago, CassieQ said:

I used to be.  It was back at a time when I was really unhealthy so I get their concern, but I'm at a much better place now.  Ditto on the donuts, though!  

That's great!  I'm glad things are good for you.

And now, it's been a long day... time to hit the hay.. have to be up at 7:30am.. ugh.. football (soccer) game.

Night all!

[Kitt]

I am not sure which bothers me more, the ones who "express concern" that I am overweight and I should REALLY get on a program, or the ones who actually pay attention to what I do eat then ask why I am fat when I "eat like a bird". 

[Mikiesboy]

26 minutes ago, Kitt said:

I am not sure which bothers me more, the ones who "express concern" that I am overweight and I should REALLY get on a program, or the ones who actually pay attention to what I do eat then ask why I am fat when I "eat like a bird". 

Both of them should bother you. i'd tell them to mind their own business /plate.  Why is it that people we may consider overweight are fair game for people's vitriol?  Their comments are unwanted and unwelcome.

[Mikiesboy]

And good morning ... it is day, Go Dogs (or you fav animal) Go!

[drown]

Today is the day for a train trip back home. 🐣 visit with my dad is over. It was nice. It’s always nice to see him, and the dementia moments were rare this time, too, though he did drift off to the past and was looking for his “weapons” once. The old man used to work in security. 

I’m glad we reconciled fully before the dementia hit. I don’t have a big family to begin with. 

[Mikiesboy]

10 minutes ago, drown said:

Today is the day for a train trip back home. 🐣 visit with my dad is over. It was nice. It’s always nice to see him, and the dementia moments were rare this time, too, though he did drift off to the past and was looking for his “weapons” once. The old man used to work in security. 

I’m glad we reconciled fully before the dementia hit. I don’t have a big family to begin with. 

Trust me, the family you choose is often the best choice.  But it's good you got to reconcile with your dad.

My only family is Michael's, they accepted me as own of their own. And now Dan is part of that too.  As to my own 'real' family ...well, none of them wanted me around except my mother, who passed away when i was fifteen. 

[Mikiesboy]

Aaaand it is Monday once more.. Have a good one and hopefully a good week.

[kbois]

43 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Aaaand it is Monday once more.. Have a good one and hopefully a good week.

So I got to work early so I could shower and grabbed my stuff to head to the bathroom and....

Shampoo.. ✔️ conditioner ✔️ body and face wash ✔️ ✔️ washcloth ✔️ towels... ummm.. shit! Thankfully my housekeeper was in the office and she went and got a couple for me. 

Shower felt amazing. Got dressed, grabbed my stuff and went to dry my hair and slap on some makeup.

Makeup ✔️ moisturizer ✔️ Hair dryer ✔️ hair spray ✔️ brush... ummm.. shit! It's a finger-comb job and I'm rather rough around the edges today but I'm clean and determined to focus on the positive this week.

I feel fortunate that the only thing really hurting today is the ankle... probably time to go get it looked at.

Have a good week everyone!

 

[Mikiesboy]

7 minutes ago, kbois said:

So I got to work early so I could shower and grabbed my stuff to head to the bathroom and....

Shampoo.. ✔️ conditioner ✔️ body and face wash ✔️ ✔️ washcloth ✔️ towels... ummm.. shit! Thankfully my housekeeper was in the office and she went and got a couple for me. 

Shower felt amazing. Got dressed, grabbed my stuff and went to dry my hair and slap on some makeup.

Makeup ✔️ moisturizer ✔️ Hair dryer ✔️ hair spray ✔️ brush... ummm.. shit! It's a finger-comb job and I'm rather rough around the edges today but I'm clean and determined to focus on the positive this week.

I feel fortunate that the only thing really hurting today is the ankle... probably time to go get it looked at.

Have a good week everyone!

 

Glad you were able to get a towel!  You must feel better.  Yeah, see if you can find a new doctor. And i hope your landlord is on the ball today and gets stuff fixed for you.

[kbois]

2 hours ago, Kitt said:

I am not sure which bothers me more, the ones who "express concern" that I am overweight and I should REALLY get on a program, or the ones who actually pay attention to what I do eat then ask why I am fat when I "eat like a bird". 

Kitt... I've been struggling with my weight since I was 9 years old. I totally get the "concerned" comments that people give unsolicited. I'm perfectly aware that I'm fat and don't need reminders. It's bothered me my whole life and it's not just a matter of eating right and exercising.  I've done that and it worked for a while.... until it didn't. 

Genetics are huge part and research now shows that there are hormonal/chemical imbalances that are at play. I'm back to doing Noom.. it's what worked best for me before. If I hit a wall again I know it won't be for lack of trying. I've been considering surgery and used to think it was a cop out until recently. If I hit a wall again, then I will most likely go that route. 

So to hell with those who comment on something they know nothing about. That goes for those who are underweight, can't stop smoking, or any of a host of other issues. 

We're doing the best we can. 

[drown]

1 hour ago, Mikiesboy said:

My only family is Michael's, they accepted me as own of their own. And now Dan is part of that too.  As to my own 'real' family ...well, none of them wanted me around except my mother, who passed away when i was fifteen. 

💙

My mom also passed when I was fifteen. I’m sorry. I continue to believe that she knew the real me even before I came out. 

[drown]

4 minutes ago, kbois said:

So to hell with those who comment on something they know nothing about. That goes for those who are underweight, can't stop smoking, or any of a host of other issues. 

Yes. 
💜

[Wayne Gray]

I’ve struggled with weight most of my life, but certainly more now that I’m older. I can’t throw myself into working out like I used to to burn off fat, since I am now prone to injury from overextending myself. So now, I work out 45-50 minutes a day, and I do intermittent fasting. My weight still hovers near 220 lbs, but I’m solid as hell, and strong. So long as I don’t hurt, I’m going to call it a win and just do what I’m able to do.

And since I can bench press most haters, I don’t hear comments much. Lol

[Mikiesboy]

7 minutes ago, drown said:

💙

My mom also passed when I was fifteen. I’m sorry. I continue to believe that she knew the real me even before I came out. 

i feel that too. She pretty well said it, telling not to be afraid of who i am.  i think i'm still sort of angry of having to go on without her. i remember hating people who were lucky enough to have their mom for a long time. i don't feel that anymore. i'm grateful for the time i did have her.

[CassieQ]

12 minutes ago, kbois said:

So to hell with those who comment on something they know nothing about. That goes for those who are underweight, can't stop smoking, or any of a host of other issues. 

We're doing the best we can. 

The amount of people who feel entitled to comment on my weight and eating habits when I'm "skinny" is insane.  

[drown]

3 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

i feel that too. She pretty well said it, telling not to be afraid of who i am.  i think i'm still sort of angry of having to go on without her. i remember hating people who were lucky enough to have their mom for a long time. i don't feel that anymore. i'm grateful for the time i did have her.

I remember… when I was 12 maybe? Roughly around that time, we were sitting in our living room and she asked me if I liked a girl… or a boy maybe. I said no, because you know, I was 12. But I remember her asking it like it was ok and it remains with me to this day. 

I’m also ok now. Not angry. Or sad. 

Thank you for sharing, tim. 💙🫶🏻

[Wayne Gray]

3 minutes ago, CassieQ said:

The amount of people who feel entitled to comment on my weight and eating habits when I'm "skinny" is insane.  

I think people believe it’s a compliment. I have a buddy who can’t gain weight, and I think he’s just as frustrated by the comments he gets as the other side does.

[Mikiesboy]

2 minutes ago, Wayne Gray said:

I think people believe it’s a compliment. I have a buddy who can’t gain weight, and I think he’s just as frustrated by the comments he gets as the other side does.

Yessssssss ... oh you're so thin... oh do you eat? i can see your ribs (another reason to not take off ur shirt) .. if i had the choice. i would not go out in shorts or short sleeve shirts.. however, that is not a choice i get to make... it is cooler however.  Others.. you're so lucky you can eat whatever you want, or i wish i could eat that donut, or if you eat that you'll get fat.   

No, i won't get fat, but that doesn't mean my insides won't suffer from eating crap.  I ate bad food for a long time and it has affected me in a bad way.

i talk a lot about eating sweets.  i love them, i could eat them all day but i don't because no matter your weight, all that sugar is not good for you.  we are more than our body weight and i wish all these judgemental people would just shut up about it..  i don't mean us in here having a discussion but those who are nasty and hateful.

I've seen people look at a bigger person's cart in the grocery store and actually say something to them about what they are buying. Assume much?  Honestly, the best advice ever.. Keep your eyes on your own plate!

[CassieQ]

4 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

I've seen people look at a bigger person's cart in the grocery store and actually say something to them about what they are buying. Assume much?  Honestly, the best advice ever.. Keep your eyes on your own plate!

I've had some weight fluctuations over the years.  When my weight was normal, or even a bit overweight,  I never got comments on my weight or what I ate.  When my weight goes down, I get a lot of comments...not compliments.  The one time I snapped was when I was out to eat with some coworkers.   I got a meal and ate what I wanted.  A coworker gave me a disgusted look and said "Is that all you're eating?"  I think it was the expression that made me shoot back. "Yes, Lindsay, that's all I'm eating.  It's none of your business, stop policing my food!"

Comments from coworkers stopped after that.  

[Mikiesboy]

2 minutes ago, CassieQ said:

I've had some weight fluctuations over the years.  When my weight was normal, or even a bit overweight,  I never got comments on my weight or what I ate.  When my weight goes down, I get a lot of comments...not compliments.  The one time I snapped was when I was out to eat with some coworkers.   I got a meal and ate what I wanted.  A coworker gave me a disgusted look and said "Is that all you're eating?"  I think it was the expression that made me shoot back. "Yes, Lindsay, that's all I'm eating.  It's none of your business, stop policing my food!"

Comments from coworkers stopped after that.  

Good. We should follow what our bodies and appetite tell us.

i mean there's days when i'm hungry and days i'm not.  i eat accordingly ... for the longest time, Michael had a hard time dealing with that. He always ate 3 meals a day, like clockwork. Sometimes, I don't want breakfast; sometimes, I can't wait to get it.  i'm still here and the last time i checked i'm not dead.  lol

[kbois]

4 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Yessssssss ... oh you're so thin... oh do you eat? i can see your ribs (another reason to not take off ur shirt) .. if i had the choice. i would not go out in shorts or short sleeve shirts.. however, that is not a choice i get to make... it is cooler however.  Others.. you're so lucky you can eat whatever you want, or i wish i could eat that donut, or if you eat that you'll get fat.   

No, i won't get fat, but that doesn't mean my insides won't suffer from eating crap.  I ate bad food for a long time and it has affected me in a bad way.

i talk a lot about eating sweets.  i love them, i could eat them all day but i don't because no matter your weight, all that sugar is not good for you.  we are more than our body weight and i wish all these judgemental people would just shut up about it..  i don't mean us in here having a discussion but those who are nasty and hateful.

I've seen people look at a bigger person's cart in the grocery store and actually say something to them about what they are buying. Assume much?  Honestly, the best advice ever.. Keep your eyes on your own plate!

I don't own shorts or sleeveless shirts for the same reason. Body dysmorphia affects people of all shapes and sizes. 

I've run the gamut of healthy vs unhealthy food choices all my life. I've been the person walking down the aisle of a plane and seen the looks that people give me. I can hear their thoughts "Oh God, please don't let her sit next to me."  I've pushed that grocery cart too. When faced with making a choice between healthy food which is more expensive, or diapers/formula for your baby... well, the baby wins every time. 

So yeah, judgemental idiots do need to shut up. I'm sure they're not perfect and have their own issues. What is that all the religious leaders preach but rarely follow... judge not lest ye be judged?

[kbois]

1 minute ago, Mikiesboy said:

  i'm still here and the last time i checked i'm not dead.  lol

Good... because I think a tim ghost would let loose and haunt the hell out of us. I can see it now... doors shutting on their own accompanied by uncontrolled giggling.